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with kids' performances, less is truly more. The kindergarten school concert is so sweet but by fourth grade? the kids don't care, the parents are underwhelmed, and the whole thing seems incredibly pro forma. Performances at camp? I shudder to think. How about a powerpoint slide show sent to parents capturing the weekly "high points" ... You won't get any guilt from me!
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now, see, that's the sad thing, bc I just found you (ok your blog) b/c of the SVMoms facebook feed and ... sob, no more SVMoms. You're right that the FTC is UNFAIR (that's how my kids say it, at the top of their lungs) but at the risk of sounding really like a wingnut paranoic, when has the federal government ever gone after The Big Guys, when little guys (or moms) are so easily caught? Maybe Mom Bloggers could file a class action suit against the suits. Moms V FTC. It's got kind of a ring...
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The public schools are still in session, for just a few more sweltering days, and then summer vacation is upon us. Like most of the families we know, we’ve sort of mapped out the summer: in July there is Oasis... Continue reading
Posted Jun 29, 2010 at NYC Moms
perhaps Husband should end up in the chocolate dip. Just a thought.
Toggle Commented Jun 12, 2010 on The Ice Cream Truck Wars at NYC Moms
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Ah, the ice-cream truck…brings back memories of my suburban childhood, when once a day the Good Humor truck came through the neighborhood, sending us all scurrying into our houses to beg quarters and dimes from our moms (ancient times: seventy-five... Continue reading
Posted Jun 11, 2010 at NYC Moms
The "original" book is Sneaky Chef; the author is Missy Lapine, and lots of her recipes are online. I just made her version of brownies, which my kids gobbled up and then were shocked to discover that the recipe includes a puree of spinach and blueberries. You might try Indian restaurants--the nan bread is delicious and very plain, and my kids eat the plain chicken tikka (no sauce) - they're fascinated by the fact that the chicken is orange. But I'm also one of those grownups who thinks that going out to eat with kids is sort of a contradiction in terms. My solution: cook them something from the Sneaky Chef, then have the babysitter come over and go out to dinner with friends, or alone, or with your partner. MUCH more civilized and no crayons required.
Toggle Commented Jun 11, 2010 on Chicken fingers or bust at NYC Moms
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Thanks for the comment, Alice. I do think -- as Liam's pediatrician has stressed-- that one of the important things here will be for us to be able to say, when Liam is 15, 16, 30, that we tried EVERYTHING. The fact that Liam himself is saying this is something he wants to do makes it all easier, of course, but mroe and more I realize that even if he didn't want to do them, we might insist. Especially as his younger brother is getting closer and closer to being the same size...!
Toggle Commented Jun 11, 2010 on How Big? at NYC Moms
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I think you're right, Nicole - the dailiness of it all will be important. It will just be part of hte routine and also, perhaps, give Liam a way to talk about what's happening with his friends. While it sounds odd, no one talks about his size, really, altho everyone notices it. So the shots might be something that helps him to say "yeah, I do these shots b/c I hate being so short," and that kind of normalizes it? Or at least, that's my hope. Thanks for writing.
Toggle Commented Jun 11, 2010 on How Big? at NYC Moms
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Writing IS so solitary, isn't it? And you can't write if you're not comfy so...bring on the sweats and t-shirts (and let's not even MENTION "foundation garments," shall we?). I'm far, far, far from being a fashionista but somewhere a few years back, I decided that "going out" (even if only to lunch with a friend) was going to be my treat for myself: cute shoes, an actual purse instead of a beat-up canvas satchel, earrings, maybe even MASCARA. Somehow getting a little gussied up every now and then reminds me that there is life on the planet beyond school-desk-work-kitchen. Now, of course, I need to deal with the fact that my few "gussying up" outfits are about 15 years old. And...er...getting a little snug around the middle.
Toggle Commented Jun 8, 2010 on Makeover Intervention Needed NOW at NYC Moms
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Twittered about this new printer also...Yay HP. Plus doing this post taught me how to link to a specific tweet. Double yay http://twitter.com/nycdlq/status/15659651021
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we are contemplating a move to the UAE, so being able to print from the cloud instead of a specific machine would be AMAZING. And, of course, like so many parents, I have 85 gazillion photos in my phone that I never, ever get around to printing. Printing directly from a photo app like picasa? Splendid!
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It's a hard question - and one that we're lucky not to have to think about (too often) in this country, as opposed to ... well, just about anywhere else in the world. But when the reality of violence, or potential violence, comes crashing down, it's almost surreal: our building was evacuated a few weeks ago in the middle of the night b/c the police suspected a car bomb was parked across the street, on nice little Irving Place. False alarm, but try explaining it all to 5 & 9 year olds the next morning at breakfast! Why would someone want to do that mommy? Why wouldn't we be safe at home? etc etc... http://mannahattamamma.com/2010/05/wake-up-its-the-war-on-terror/
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is there someone who could be counted on to call you if things get...dire? You could hop on a plane from wherever you are, leaving Husband and Kids to follow? Truly one of life's dilemmas: I wonder if you'll feel you've done "the right thing" regardless of what you choose? The sandwich generation, isn't that what they call those of us pressed between caring from our children and our parents at the same time? Bon chance... on a practical note: sometimes airlines won't be quite so nasty if you simply say you're going to 'reschedule" rather than "cancel" - you might suffer a penalty but you won't completely eat the entire price of a ticket. might be worth a phone call...
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so true - the person inside the man, what a lovely phrase. thanks for the comment
Toggle Commented May 21, 2010 on How Big? at NYC Moms
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Maybe I could just give liam the shots AND some nice sparkly high heels! : ) The endocrinologist has said on more than one occasion that if Liam were a girl, the shots wouldn't be an issue. It's being a man in this culture ... so it's shots, or high heels, or moving to Ecuador or the Philippines or something! Thanks for the post
Toggle Commented May 21, 2010 on How Big? at NYC Moms
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Just goes to show that there's no "normal," right? I think it was in the Mom-101 blog where I read that her mom said "everything you do as a mother will be right...and everything you do will be wrong." Too true, too true.
Toggle Commented May 21, 2010 on How Big? at NYC Moms
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Did your friend mind the shots, or do they just become part of the routine, like brushing teeth? Is he a fit adult, I wonder? I sometimes worry in just the opposite direction, which is whether the shots will make my co-ordinated kid feel less comfortable in his body, as he sprouts?
Toggle Commented May 21, 2010 on How Big? at NYC Moms
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would that there were an algorithm...and one of the things we imagine sometimes, if we don't do the shots, is that as a 17 year old boy, Liam would say "WHAT? you didn't do the shots because I said no?" Exactly: how much to weigh his thoughts...but it is easier to think about going forward with these shots now that Liam wants to do them... I'm not sure I'm up to the actual administration of said shots, though...I'm a total coward. But that's a post for another day.
Toggle Commented May 21, 2010 on How Big? at NYC Moms
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So funny... Liam seems quite popular in his grade, but the whole girl/boy/girl thing hasn't quite happened yet. I wonder. My dad (a tall man who got his height late) told me once that I shouldn't date short men because they had "napoleon complexes" -- And of course Liam is TOTALLY PERFECT and will be a marvelous husband as long as his partner does EXACTLY WHAT HE SAYS. I'm not entirely joking.
Toggle Commented May 21, 2010 on How Big? at NYC Moms
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Poker is definitely a good metaphor, although I've also been thinking "crapshoot" lately, too: so much depends on completely random throws of the dice. I'm struck too by your offhand comment at the end of the post, that your colleague would understand because she's a mom. I totally get that--and agree--and then have to say to myself, "why on EARTH do we let men off so easily?" Do Dads make the same hold-their-breath-and-hope-it-works choices? My husband is a pretty good dad but I don't ever hear him angsting about "should I or shouldn't I" miss An Important Dinner/Meeting/Face-time versus Some School-Child Event. Hmm.
Toggle Commented May 20, 2010 on Life is like a Poker Game at NYC Moms
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I think it's about context...I want to train my kids to be conversationalists (HA) and learn how to sit still and enjoy the experience of a restaurant...BUT I think that parents who think their little toddler darling belongs at Gramercy Tavern are not only setting up their kid for failure but also instilling a sense in their kid that nothing is off-limits: the grown-up world is NOT a kids world, and while I'm sure that other peoples' small children are, unlike mine, perfect when they're out in public, on those rare occasions when Husband & I are Out (or me and a girlfriend are having a much needed mommys night out)--you know, the kind of dinner where you actually shower and put on make-up before leaving the house, and where you're going to fork over what might be hundreds of dollars for a sitter and the restaurant bill... Frankly, I really don't want to have to listen to some mommy explaining to the waiter that Little Sally needs the crusts cut off her lobster salad sandwich. That doesn't make me anti-child, necessarily; I just think that it's okay to have some places be "grownups only."
Toggle Commented May 12, 2010 on A Toddler Cannot Live on PB&J Alone at NYC Moms
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send her the link to this post (or have a friend send it to her). But having written her down, as it were, now you can shrug her off: who needs that negative energy in her life?
Toggle Commented May 10, 2010 on Tongue Tied at NYC Moms
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well, hell, *I* I can't do a lot of stuff on that list...oh. wait. I thought the list included "cheerfully" in front of all those tasks. I hate lists like these; they seem designed to make us all feel like failures in one way or another--and then there seem to be more and more ads for services designed to help us cope with our shortcomings (or the perceived shortcomings of our kids). It's a vicious cycle. Encouraging self-sufficiency in our children is incredibly important, true enough, but I'm not sure that self-sufficiency happens according to a checklisted time-table.
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I wrote about this last week, after the ELA tests, which are equally silly - and test only the ability of the kid to take the test. Despite the increasing emphasis on these tests, I don't know ANY teachers who think they're a good idea -- which ought to be telling us something, given that they are the people who would know what is/is not useful, right? What's a parent to do? At one point can parents put down our collective foot and say STOP! No more Scantrons!! http://www.nycmomsblog.com/2010/05/testing-testing-one-twoseven-hundred-million-rtp.html#comments
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Hi Nicole - funny you should mention that book - I teach an essay by the author in one of my first-year writing courses. There's also a great (scary) book by a guy who spent a number of years grading standardized tests... and yes, Diane Ravitch has totally turned around to say testing bad, charter schools maybe not the salvation of all things... a real about-face. But alas, the damage has been done. The question facing all of us is what we do now to salvage/fix/ change directions... sigh.
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