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Carol Cain
Interests: cooking, photography, weblogs, writing and foreign films.
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Breastfeeding your baby, if that is your choice to do so, is great. I did it for a bit with my first two, not at all with my third. Didn't loose any more weight with breastfeeding that I didn't also loose when I didn't. So though I again think it's a great thing to do if it's what you choose to do, I am one of those mom's who can't really say I noticed the difference. I think though that BF was cool in what it represented for me with bonding with my baby. But again, bonding with my third baby still happened, just in a dif way.
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LOL! You mean like: "I had a mean swag as I walked out of that room empty handed."? LOL! I love it.
Toggle Commented Jul 30, 2009 on The Day I Abandoned The SWAG at NYC Moms
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I loved this! What a wonderful inspiration you are!
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This is beautiful! I think as we get older we learn to overcome the bicultural struggles we, children of immigrants, dealt with while growing up. Your life sound enriched indeed and your children are blessed to have parents who allow them the freedom to embrace both. Love you picture!
Toggle Commented Jul 16, 2009 on Family Traditions at NYC Moms
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Wonderful! Have fun!! You are living my dream : )
Toggle Commented Jul 4, 2009 on Living La Dolce Vita at NYC Moms
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LOL! I know...less stressful when it's a Girl's Nite Out because hubby is taking care of kids! lol! It's soooooo expensive to go out. When we were paying the sitter it was more than a $200 night. Yup..gotta wonder, it's it really worth it?
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Yeah, movie was great, but the pressure was too much and we spent a good chunk of time angry at each other, tho' it was mainly because we were frustrated. We'll try again soon (and you should too!) but we'll pay someone. We're thinking of starting to trust our oldest with his brothers. I'm ready, hubby is still nervous about the idea.
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I feel your pain!
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Thank you everyone for all your kind words : )
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We always hug...and we are a "kiss on the lip" family...well, my husband and kids and I. I stopped kissing my mom and dad on the lips around my teenage years, and my 11 year old has grown out of that habit as well, but we hug, a lot. I've mistakenly gone and hugged people and felt a chill from them come over me, like a stiffness and weirdness takes over them...so now, I've learned to not hug first, but if I see them going for the hug, I'll gladly reciprocate : )
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I will never understand how someone who protests against the killing of "a human being" than goes and murders another. Completely discrediting any argument of "the cause". My take on abortions: if you don't agree with them, don't have one. I could say a thing or two about the first poster, but that's too low for me to go right now.
Toggle Commented Jun 4, 2009 on Abortion Rights at NYC Moms
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Oh, ok...no longer confused : ) No, I see what you're saying...public etiquette is important, and taking one's kids out to places that tolerate them is a good place to instill these practices for sure. That being said, I've been to places where the locale might tolerate kids, but not the ppl who frequent them, and it takes very little to annoy these ppl.
Toggle Commented Jun 3, 2009 on Starbucks is not your office at NYC Moms
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Well, than I guess I would like to know what you consider an "adult" restaurant, if "family" and "public" are two different things when I make the distinction between "adult" and family" as opposed to when you make the distinction. Because if a bar like McSorley's let's say, is not an "adult" bar, than I am not really sure what is. McDonald's not a "family place"? Really? Maybe we are getting lost in the details. Yes, it's "public" but it's also targeted and even designed for families with kids...that people without kids can eat there, sure, but family with kids are very much a target. They even have play areas for kids, where kids are going to play and be loud...like kids do when they play. And yes, Startbucks is a "public place", but it also welcomes families, unlike many coffee shops in NYC that are obviously designed and set up to NOT accommodate kids, or strollers. I don't think that anyone is arguing Public vs what, Private? The point was that kid's are welcomed there and so adults annoyed by them should not frequent these places. And often adults annoyed by kids are annoyed by the mere sounds spoken by a kid, regardless of the vol. And I also believe that no one is saying that we have the right to let our children act like wild animals anywhere we are with them, I like to think that us people with kids know and understand that our children behaving is important, and what the rules are when we go out with them whether it be a public place, or a family place...or the local bar for a shot of Whiskey. And lastly, if I feel like sitting down with my two toddlers at McDonald's or Starbucks, and the guy writing his book can concentrate because I lack the skills to figure out what level of "inside voice" would be considered appropriate by the various adults in the room and it takes me more than 15 minutes to drink my coffee, I'm not leaving to accommodate them. As a public space, they should be willing and able to accept what a public space, that welcomes families with kids, has to offer or not go there...or better yet...leave.
Toggle Commented Jun 3, 2009 on Starbucks is not your office at NYC Moms
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Hear! Hear! Kudos on this article! Starbucks is NOT your office, you DO NOT have privileges that require delegating my children outside, like the dog tide to the parking meeter. I have as much right to sit there and talk and let my children talk as the idiot exchanging weekend drinking stories with his buddies, or the business person closing contracts on their mobile. And Starbucks isn't an "adult" place, it's a family locale...coffee shop yes, that also sells smoothies and pastries and my kids love it. There are a million coffee shops in NYC, some pretty unattractive to families with kids. Maybe those moaning and groaning the presence of kids should pick up their "toys" and leave. I hate it when you get crap for entering a room with kids, what the hell? As the years go by I am tired of apologizing for having my kids with me. I don't walk into the bars, I don't walk into your chi-chi-foo-foo crystal everything eatery...for God Sake's allow me the freedom to have a goddamn cup of coffee in a public, family friendly place without being made to feel like crap about it!! Great post!!
Toggle Commented Jun 3, 2009 on Starbucks is not your office at NYC Moms
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Oh God. I agree with this sooooo much. "Public parenting" is the worst! I often settle for taking our car to where ever in the city, even at the risk of struggling for parking, just so that I have a place to run too when/if my kids loose it.
Toggle Commented Jun 3, 2009 on Thank YOU at NYC Moms
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I'm so, so sorry your daughter is going through this!! I honestly don't know what to say other than continue to praise her, when unexpected, and hopefully some of it will stick. Confidence, however, at that age is a "learn" thing. She will learn about body image, what's a joke, what's important, what matters and what does not from you...if you put yourself down, she will learn to as well. It's a difficult cycle to break, but not impossible. (hugs)
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This is true, tho' I highly doubt that the reason some ppl bully from behind their computer screens in for fear of being stabbed should they attempt to express their hostility in person.
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Wow...what a hard conversation! Aw. I had this conversation with my oldest, but he didn't ask till he was a bit older, and yes he cried when I told him I will die. It's crazy how being a prarent brings all this to the forefront, but it's a good discussion to have. My mom died 2 years ago and I still am deeply saddened that she isn't here for the grandkids and for me, and that the list she had of things to do sits there, unaccomplished. Thought she'd be around till she was old and gray...but...So, yeah, tho' a kid will never be prepared for the death of a loved one, least alone his/her parents, its still good that the discussion is happening.
Toggle Commented May 29, 2009 on On Death and Dying at NYC Moms
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Grandparents are cool. My kids don't have any, and so I always yeah, there's the drama, yeah, there's the overstepping even, at times...but man, if you lucked out and have grandparents that actually want to be there LOVE EM. So happy that they got to be spoiled by grandpa : )
Toggle Commented May 29, 2009 on Brownies for Breakfast at Chicago Moms Blog
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Congratulations on the new baby! Welcome to the World Evan!
Toggle Commented May 29, 2009 on Twitter Backlash at New Jersey Moms Blog
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I'm with you on this! Only bad thing, I've miss countless of phone calls because my toddler doesn't want to stop playing Monkey Ball...which by the way he has surpassed to levels I never even knew existed on the game. Did I mention is was almost 4. Genius, I tell ya...genius...thank goodness for the iPhone.
Toggle Commented May 28, 2009 on How My iPhone Helps Me Parent at NYC Moms
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I started leaving my now 11 year old home alone around 9. Granted we lived in WI, and granted he wasn't allowed to even answer the phone without listening to my vpice on the machine, now at 11 he is home a lone all the time. He also takes the train from Washington Heights to the West Village for football, alone, all the time. I insist he make his own breakfast, lunch, and depending on what I am doing, grab some dinner. I send him to the store to get me milk, or often am not home when he gets home from school. I do all these things often out of need for help, and because unfortunately, he is the much older of 3 boys. I remember staying home alone at the age of 7. At 8 and 9 I was expected to have all the beds made, breakfast dishes washed, and my homework done by the time my mother arrived from work. It was what my mother needed me to do as the much older daughter as well. Sometimes, you just have to do what you have to do, but if you have the time and flexibility to do better or different, that's fine too. Either way, I think the kids will be just fine. I am, and so is my oldest.
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It's incredibly eye opening and almost embarrassing to me how when my husband would lament about his unhappiness to his job or career direction a year ago, I reacted the same way as you did, and yet a year later when I did the same and in the end decided to not work all together he was nothing but incredibly loving and supportive from minute one. (Sigh) He changed his path and is not only happier, but a lot more successful. I am excited for you and your husband especially for being courageous enough to leave the unhappiness he was experiencing and setting anew course towards happiness...with you love and support. Good luck, it will be different, but not necessarily in a worse way.
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LOLOLOL!! Like totally, like get it...like.
Toggle Commented May 26, 2009 on Brung it on at NYC Moms
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I agree "fake" sweetness sucks...and for those who do it take note: it's also obvious. Humility is important...and it takes a certain level of compassion towards others (or sweetness, or kindness, or what ever one wants to call it) to not only want to talk to those who share your interests, but to others who don't, and help include them in the conversation. Interesting conversations far beyond the who you know and what you're doing here would make for an amazing event indeed! It's amazing the lives beyond "this" that many of us have had.
Toggle Commented Apr 29, 2009 on Mommy "Means Girls" in The Blogosphere? at NYC Moms
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