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BarnMaven
Abnormally sarcastic 40-something know it all. You know I'm right.
Interests: Autism/special needs parenting, horseback riding, good wine, good coffee, good music, good books and good sex. Not necessarily in that order.
Recent Activity
A much-loved friend is coping with the unimaginable horror of saying goodbye to her 23 year old son this week, which provides very necessary perspective to my own life. I would lose all faith in God except that I never... Continue reading
Posted yesterday at Barnmaven
I always thought that Gepetto loved Pinocchio just as he was. I believe that the ending of the story, where Pinocchio becomes real, is more of a metaphor than anything else. I think Pinocchio became a real boy not because... Continue reading
Posted Oct 10, 2014 at Barnmaven
It was a subtle regression, from broken but hopeful to just broken. I was doing all of the things I believe a good patient is supposed to -- following up with my doctors, diligently going to physical therapy, communicating with... Continue reading
Posted Oct 9, 2014 at Barnmaven
Accepting a situation is not the equivalent of conceding or admitting defeat. It simply means choosing to control what you can and letting go of what you can't. Trying to control something that you cannot will make you insane. Right... Continue reading
Posted Aug 9, 2014 at Barnmaven
My phobias: Pooping in public bathrooms, spiders, drowning, tornados and confrontation. Spiders, because of obvious reasons. Drowning thanks to my brother and his tendency to hold my head under water whenever we were in a pool together. Tornados? I think... Continue reading
Posted May 2, 2014 at Barnmaven
I don't think its any kind of secret that I am one of those parents who sees my son's autism not as a problem to be fixed but as simply part and parcel of the person that he is. Yes,... Continue reading
Posted Apr 30, 2014 at Barnmaven
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At about 7 am this morning LaLa made her grand and much-anticipated entrance. Mama went past her due date by more than a week, but I guess we should not have been surprised, since her previous two foals were also... Continue reading
Posted Apr 24, 2014 at Barnmaven
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Here's a hypothetical for you: Its April 1. You emerge from the shower to find your thirteen year old child nowhere to be found. What's your first thought? If your child is neurotypical, you might think you've been pranked. If... Continue reading
Posted Apr 1, 2014 at Barnmaven
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My alarm went off at 5 am as it always does on a Monday. I hit the 'snooze' twice, as I also always do. I made coffee, made some breakfast, put some dishes in the dishwasher. 5:30, I woke up... Continue reading
Posted Mar 31, 2014 at Barnmaven
I'm having a bad week. Nothing is particularly wrong, but nothing seems to quite mesh in a way that allows me to breathe. When the demands of work and parenting and ticking things off the "you need to do this... Continue reading
Posted Mar 28, 2014 at Barnmaven
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Photo by Mary H Peret, 2013. Coyote sets a good example for people who need to learn to depend on themselves. Owning your feelings, actions and results can be so challenging at times. Before I began to learn about how... Continue reading
Posted Feb 17, 2014 at Barnmaven
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The perfect relationship. The perfect mate. The perfect marriage. SG and I on our wedding day, Nov 2011 Do these things exist? Perhaps they are merely chimeras that distract us from the more distressing realities of adult relationships. When people... Continue reading
Posted Feb 14, 2014 at Barnmaven
I don't know what to write here anymore. I lost my mojo. I lost my will. I have things to say, but fear this is not the place. I have truths to share but I cannot share them without hurting... Continue reading
Posted Feb 4, 2014 at Barnmaven
Dear God, I wanted to tell you how much I appreciate you giving people inspiration to create things. For instance, I imagine you planted the notion to create Facebook in the head of one Mr. Zuckerberg. (Unless it wasn't you... Continue reading
Posted Jan 3, 2014 at Barnmaven
It was an early lunch on a Sunday in Seattle, fifteen-odd years ago. As we enjoyed our meal, the restauarant began to fill up with families in more formal attire. "Everyone's getting out of church," I remarked. One of my... Continue reading
Posted Jan 2, 2014 at Barnmaven
Happy New Year, friends. Thanks for spending your valuable and precious time reading and commenting here. We've had freezing fog for several days now. Everything outside looks as if it has been flocked, even the sagebrush. Its beautiful and miserable... Continue reading
Posted Dec 31, 2013 at Barnmaven
Having a friendly relationship with my ex makes it a lot easier for all of us. The best part is that we have flexibility in our parenting time. Because of projects at work, I've had to work on some of... Continue reading
Posted Dec 16, 2013 at Barnmaven
I'm counting my blessings this freezing cold afternoon in December. It read 13F on the outside thermometer when I left for work this morning. We've been in a deep freeze since the beginning of the week, and last night was... Continue reading
Posted Dec 8, 2013 at Barnmaven
Goodness gracious, Michelle -- I am so behind on reading comments and actually doing *anything* on my blog that I JUST SAW THIS TODAY. December 2nd. I am horribly embarrassed and I hope you don't think I was ignoring you!!! I did read - and loved - your short stories. I'll work on getting a review done -- I meant to do it a long time ago but life has this funny and annoying way of backhanding me right across the plans. If you still want me to read and review I would love to do so -- and I do have a Kindle. I'll message you my private email address on Facebook, we can talk further that way. Hugs to you, my across-the-continent-and-pond friend.
Toggle Commented Dec 2, 2013 on About Barnmaven at Barnmaven
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If you were to ask me for my advice, which you won't, I'm not sure I would give it to you. I mean, I could, but since you probably aren't in a place where you can accept what I'm saying,... Continue reading
Posted Nov 26, 2013 at Barnmaven
Annnnnd just like that, it's Thanksgiving already. My son and I were on our way to pick my daughter up on Friday night and would you believe it, there were a few houses already lit up with their Christmas yard... Continue reading
Posted Nov 25, 2013 at Barnmaven
About a month ago I took my horse to a schooling show. We've had a lot of fun doing various things all this year, and I was excited about the progress we've made. I was sure that we would have... Continue reading
Posted Oct 28, 2013 at Barnmaven
I have a feeling your two sons will be world-class respecters of women. I mean, look who they've got for a mother. <3
Toggle Commented Oct 24, 2013 on Emily Yoffe is pretty much right at Barnmaven
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Emily Yoffe's taking a lot of heat for an article she wrote for Slate online, titled College Women, Stop Getting Drunk. Commenters are accusing her of victim shaming, of being a rape apologist, chastising her for not simultaneously offering solutions... Continue reading
Posted Oct 23, 2013 at Barnmaven
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Oh man, I both love and hate fall. I love the cooler weather, getting long sleeved clothes out from the bin in the garage. I love the bite of the air on my face when I go outside in the... Continue reading
Posted Oct 18, 2013 at Barnmaven