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I M Perfect
on the Sturgeon River
A Lady living her truth and sharing her experience.
Interests: Art Quilts, Art, Writing, Spirituality, Reading,
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I wonder how can I be so neglectful to something I live so close to; my body. My job has my body doing repetitive motions - daily for six out of seven days a week. My arms and shoulders catch the most strain. I had been doing yoga off and on for over 12 years and then when I got active outside, I stopped. I am now trying to get my body in shape for a hip replacement, and doing yoga is part of my plan. I was shocked at how stiff I was. How painful my arms were as... Continue reading
Posted Oct 4, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
There will always be sad news in the world; sometimes we are familiar with the location and at times our personal world will be affected. Sometimes we know what to do and how to help; and at others we just feel sad. What I feel, is that to balance the world, if you can, is to do something that brings you peace. Just as when my personal world had so much sadness; I found a place to refuel with Art. Tonight I grounded myself in fabric. Doing what I love- with women posing in activities I enjoy doing. When my... Continue reading
Posted Oct 2, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
Brene Brown goes on to say, in her new book "Braving The Wilderness" - about dehumanizing. "Challenging ourselves to live by higher standards requires constant diligence and awareness. We're so saturated by these words and images, we're close to normalizing moral exceptions. In addition to diligence and awareness, we need courage. Dehumanizing works because people who speak out against what are often sophisticated enemy image campaigns - or people who fight to make sure that all of us are morally included and extend basic human rights - often face harsh consequences." "An important example is the debate around Black Lives... Continue reading
Posted Oct 1, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
"You are only free when you realize you belong no place - you belong every place - no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great" Maya Angelou. I began reading Brene Brown's new book "Braving the Wilderness. I love this part. "Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our... Continue reading
Posted Sep 29, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
In listening to a podcast, I heard a new way to look at changing behaviors that are not good for us. The idea is, that we are triggered, we behave and then we reap the reward. What was different this time, was the content of the reward - "Feeling Bad". If you sit with that awhile, you will see how your behaviors often leave you feeling bad; compared to feeling healthy, excited, accomplished etc. When I overeat on sweets, my reward isn't that I feel great. Not like I do when I ride my bike for an hour, or hike... Continue reading
Posted Sep 27, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
From "A Mind At Home With Itself" Question asked of Byron Katie; and her response. "Mind is everything; mind is good," you say. Are you talking about awareness? Why do you use the word mind here? Why don't you ever use words like soul or spirit?" "What is there to be aware of other than mind? So mind aware of itself is awareness. And when mind is aware of itself, it realizes that not only is it not personal, it doesn't even exist; its an illusion. Prior to "I" there was nothing. The "I" comes second, out of the nameless... Continue reading
Posted Sep 21, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
"Every no I say is a yes to myself. It feels right to me. People don't have to guess what I want or don't want, and I don't need to pretend. When you're honest about our yeses and noes, it's easy to live a kind life. People come and go in my life when I tell the truth, and they would come and go if I didn't tell the truth. I have nothing to gain one way, and everything to gain the other way. I don't leave myself guessing or guilty." "If a man wants to have sex with me,... Continue reading
Posted Sep 20, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
"Curiosity and Complaining are two fundamentally different postures." "The problem with complaining, is complaining is energy spent, that you could have spent asking questions. The problem with blaming other people and blaming them two months later, and two years later, is that Blaming takes energy. Blaming takes energy and its energy that you could spend asking questions. What did I Learn? What will I do differently. How will I recognize it the next time it comes around? Needy, draining people, rarely have questions. Because if you have questions and you're curious, then you have entered into the accumulation of wisdom,... Continue reading
Posted Sep 19, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
I heard a common phrase for the first time. "Empty words". What struck me was how true the phrase was. Words are not always full. Of meaning, truth and actions. Sometimes they are just letters arranged a certain way. Words without meaning, are meaningless. Empty. I used to be a person that didn't look deeply or stare intently at anything. Contents didn't matter. Surface did. I used to even live a surface life. What mattered most, was what people saw. The outward appearances defined me. The facade of life. I was an empty word. Inside the word woman was a... Continue reading
Posted Sep 11, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
I woke up to a faint blush in the sky and decided to go out and be with the sunrise. It was so peaceful, quiet, and beautiful. Only a few dog walkers and I were witness to this display. Each time I turned, another artful view I captured. And, our day continued with more to see, experience and enjoy. As we were on the Ferry, heading to Madeline Island, my husband said, "It is hard to believe that part of the world is having a hurricane, while we have this. I agreed and told him I had thought the very... Continue reading
Posted Sep 9, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
Life is broken down into our perception and reality. One doesn't depend upon the other. Yet, our lives are dictated by our perceptions much more than they are by reality. More often, we can disregard reality and live a life a few feet from what is. I am wondering if stress and anxiety arise much more from our perceptions than from what is actually going on. That in our minds we create a whole world that doesn't exist. I have been almost void of anxiety and stress since I left my mind. And, when my body feels anxious and stressful,... Continue reading
Posted Sep 5, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
How do we listen? And, what changes within us as we hear words? Is there a change? Does it depend upon the subject OR how open we are to hear? Can you change someone's opinion or beliefs by what you say? In my experience of exchanging words with folks from my old church, is not so much what they can hear; but what I say and then my expectations. I think, I thought, that depending upon what I said, it would sway them. I am wrong. Completely. I have changed; but not by the outside, but rather my inside. "Something"... Continue reading
Posted Aug 21, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
When a breech in a relationship happens, we are often left with wondering what happened. In one long time relationship I had, we lost the same perception. In thinking about this, I had to look up the definition of perception. "the ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses." and, "the state of being or process of becoming aware of something through the senses." What I didn't know about perception that it used our bodies/senses. There is also this "a way of regarding, understanding, or interpreting something; a mental impression." Perception is a very personal thing,... Continue reading
Posted Aug 15, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
The 5 year anniversary of WIND is quite remarkable to me. It has been moving along like the wind; its directions keep changing, and it is unharnessed. Each time we try something new another new idea sprouts. Typically, we don't know what is up ahead. We allow the ideas to come to us as they will. What began as a joint effort with Dial Help, is now its own separate flowing piece. I love that it has no anchor or tether. It is free to move in any direction the ladies of WIND need it to go. Our interest and... Continue reading
Posted Aug 14, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
WIND Goes on a camping trip! I loaded the jeep in a fine drizzle, and was prepared to have a wet evening. However, by the time we arrived in Ontonagon, we had sunny skies, and a the best camping site. Thanks Kirsten, for getting there early to reserve our tent site!!! How excited we were to know, we would be in the front row for sunsets!!! We decorated the tents with Art! It was so fun to have a pop up Art show at the tent site! We then were spoiled by Kirsten, with Buddha Bowls, that were delicious!!! It... Continue reading
Posted Aug 13, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
In all the years of writing on this blog, I haven't been able to clearly see the chasm of misunderstanding. What was its contents and how can we seemingly see the same thing and not at all see it the same?, In my latest dialogue with a member of the First Apostolic Lutheran Church, in the comment section of my blog post "Exposed" - posted on May 23, 2017 - I may have stumbled upon where the discrepancy lies. When members of the church hear me speak about the church and my abuse, we dance around the issue and rarely... Continue reading
Posted Aug 9, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
What I believe we learn about ourselves, when we put ourselves in a new situation, is how flexible we are. It tweaks our image and keeps it fluid. I am a mystery to myself. I can't know what new challenge is up ahead OR how I will respond, and in what ways it will change me. I have gone through quite a transformation over the past many years and I believe, have become more of myself and in some ways no one I can recognize as me. Daring to be the last in the Triathlon takes courage; to be surrounded... Continue reading
Posted Aug 6, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
So, I DID IT!!! OH MY Gosh, it was a bit nerve wracking until I was on the bike - pretty much biking alone, like I usually do. There were a few bikes behind me, so the sweeper wasn't on my tail, and I pedaled and pedaled, in hopes that the last few bikers I saw after me would not pass. The bulk of the pack was ahead, I met some of them as we go to the end of the Harbor from Fort Wilkins and head back towards Eagle Harbor. And, I met the guy in first place about... Continue reading
Posted Aug 5, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
Team "Zip 49916" is all signed up for the 2017 Copperman Triathlon. My boss will be swimming, I will be biking and the other carrier will run. The Chassell Post Office will be represented tomorrow! The excitement of planning to do this, has now been replaced by nervous energy and worry. In my mind, the hills are steep, the winds are coming at me, and I am slowly plugging along. The sweep car is on my tail, patiently waiting for me to complete the 23 mile ride. AND, on the finish line waits the runner of my team. I am... Continue reading
Posted Aug 4, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
"Hurt people hurt people. That is how the pattern gets passed on, generation after generation. Break the chain today. Meet anger with sympathy, contempt with compassion, cruelty with kindness. Greet grimaces with smiles, forgive and forget about finding fault. Love is the weapon of the future." Yehuda Berg This kind of love, leaves the aggressor responsibility free. Will the world really change if the receivers receive negative treatment in a more kinder way??? Hurt people are allowed to be cruel, and we have to respond with kindness? Will this really change the world to be more positive, IF we just... Continue reading
Posted Jul 28, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
Life is about repeating what we love, daring new firsts and challenging each other to grow and stretch towards new spaces. WIND Goes, is the perfect event to try new things. Driving the jeep pulling a trailer was the first for me. I was nervous. WHAT IF, sounded all around this new experience. I had to not only think of the jeep; but a trailer I couldn't see. The tire kept the trailer hidden from my view. AND, I knew I could drive a straight line; but I worried about backing up or unhitching and re-hitching, and the straps etc.... Continue reading
Posted Jul 23, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
I often hear others speak about anxiety. I am never sure how to respond back. What is it, and how does it seems so powerful as a voice, when there are choices to be made? I looked up the definition to see if I have this feeling/emotion and frontman correct in its meaning. "A feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome" Is it the unknowing that is the culprit OR the fact that we believe we should know, when it is impossible to know? Or, are we uncomfortable with the... Continue reading
Posted Jul 20, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
We have two days left for the first half of the year, it is amazing how quickly time goes by! I went back and read my New Year's blog, and mostly what I had said was that I didn't expect anything from the year; but I wondered what new things I would add to me this year? How would I spend my time? With half a year gone, I have done so many things for the first time or reignited old things I used to do. It has opened up new doors and new friends have entered! The first half... Continue reading
Posted Jun 29, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
Broken relationships will not mend with silence. Nor, will they be repaired with time. I believe, that there has to be a movement of some kind; someone has to walk backwards and wipe away the line that was drawn in the sand. Someone has to call uncle and withdraw their original beef. In order for the old peace to be won. A truce called. I don’t believe you can leap frog over a dozen years and land in the present and reconnect without a cost. While it has been many years of broken relationships with my family of origin, each... Continue reading
Posted Jun 28, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady
"Anything worthwhile has got to cost us something. And, if it doesn't we are left to question its value." Martin Sheen It does seem impossible that in order to gain awareness and reality, I had to lose so much. Yet, I agree that anything worthwhile will cost you something. AND, if it doesn't you have to question the value of that choice. So, as I watch my brother enter back into the places I have exited, I am left wondering about my choices. What choices have I made that are off balance? What items did I leave behind, that perhaps... Continue reading
Posted Jun 25, 2017 at IMPERFECT Lady