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I'm sorry I am trying, but it is still a sin, clearly spelled out in the Bible. God will handle it, it is not up for us to and we Christians know that. When just finding out all the factual knowlwdge in the world will not help. I do know from a particular "mega-church" pastor that I listen to is that we are NOT to judge lest we be judged. He has even said that of other pastors and their "fall". I struggle with this, yet I believe in what the Word says, though I do not believe it is right. I never dislike anyone for who or what they profess to be so this is a non brainer, as said it is up to God. Who doesn't fall in their life? Who is the first to cast the first stone? This story bothered me, at the time, before I knew factually that my husband was gay, because we are not to be the one to judge EVER, do you remember when Mary Magdelane was about to be stoned for being a prostitute and Jesus literally drew the "line in the sand"? He exposed everyone's sins. So, frankly I feel so bad for his wife, my heart weeps for her. I know how it feels, I am in the angry stage myself after being told and him being "found out". Still, we are are not to judge, let him deal with it with God, and personally, I hope they make it, but honestly, I am not sure. I had a best friend, who hit on my husband (LOL) because her husband was a "reformed gay" in the church. The whole thing sent me reeling. Not only was he gay but my best friend with a "prior" gay husband I found in a position where she was putting her arms around my husband and such, I watched the whole thing for a bit before I walked in. I guess the "reform" didn't take and she was lonely. It's all a sham, you can not change what a person was born to be. I may think it abhorent, but it is who they are, not to be changed. Let them take it up with God.
Toggle Commented Apr 18, 2009 on THE HAGGARDS' DILEMMA at Straight Spouse Connection
I respect Jens H comments BUT, Yes I am a Believer and in the Bible it does say it IS a sin. My husband professed to be a born again Christian yet we are divorcing because I found out about his proclivities. I am hurt and angry. In our church there is a clear doctrine on homosexuality, coming from the Bible. It is just not right within the boundaries of scripture and to profess belief in front of God and take Communion, to me it is a sin that he will deal with. He lied to me and the church for ten years, forgiveness comes, but it will take a very long time in my heart even though I know I am supposed to forgive to all because I am forgiven. I am aware of the scripture. Still, To lie to me and our church, only God can forgive. Oh yeah, Jerry, I am a "Holier than thou Right wing, conservative, moral majority, focus on the family person". So please, don't attack, I admit what I believe in, and that is God's Word. It is my belief and I stand behind it. It is still a sin. And it hurts those who have had to deal with this deception. I find what you said offensive to those that do believe in the one true God. There are are more of us out there than you know. Please be careful in your wording, there are "actual" Christians out there who read this.
I just found out this month, threw 3 people, we had already seperated but I could not understand why, we are both devout Christians, I am a born again, he was there to be with me that day. Within 1 month, this last month, I was told, Oh, didn't you know? Looking back I see stuff now that should have. Even intimate stuff, he was very strange to my standards but I put up with it. After 10 years of marriage and two darling children, 9 and 4, I found out he had affairs with men and propositioned his friend, which is why their their 15 year friendship ended. He told me it was because of such and such but really it was because he propositioned a straight man. He told me of homosexual activity before the marriage, but I thought it was just a "searching" period in his life. I look back and think "Duh". There were so many things I should have noticed, which I did, but refused to acknowledge. I am hurt and angry. His sister is a Lesbian that has not come out yet formally as well. I have been through so much it just hurts. It hurts to the core. I've prayed and begged and done what have you, he's gay. He admits some of it, but I've heard so much from others that I doubt what he denies is true anymore. So we are in divorce precedings and I feel like an idiot. After all these years, 10 years, I finally find out. As a Christian please forgive, but I myself, believe it is a sin. So not only did he lie to me bu also to our church and God in front of me. If I sound bitter, I guess I am in that phase, but I just can't believe it. I spoke to my Father at the church and was greatly comforted. I was afraid to go back, thinking this was my fault, I was also afraid everyone would ask what happened and how would I explain it? I know we are supposed to forgive 7 times 70 but at this time it feels hard to do. My best friends father did this to her mom after she turned 18 as well. So I've seen the wreckage, I was her office manager for years. Her mother went through such a bad time she could not even get out of bed for days, we had to run the company ourselves. I just feel so dumb, I've seen it before, and it was obvious, and I just looked the other way in my life hoping that our faith would not let it be true. So I guess I am in anger and grief right now, I don't know how to explain this to our children, and me and my older daughter are extremely close, I raised her alone, he was gone 14 to 15 hours a day on weekdays and 6 to 7 hour on weekends, doing whatever. She's 9. I don't understand how this can happen. I guess I am venting but I am so sad. I lost a man I loved because actually he was gay. I can't wrap my head around it. Daffodil
Toggle Commented Apr 18, 2009 on STAGES OF RECOVERY at Straight Spouse Connection