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Hi Diane, Thank you for your nice post. You lifted my spirits simply with your sharing both the sad and happy stories. I´m so sorry for your loss and at the same time I´d like to congratulate you on your newest grandchild. You must be very young when you lost your mom. My youngest daughter is the one taking this the hardest because she is only twenty, she wants to spend at least twenty years more with her Dad. She´s the one who wears a smile on her face when she´s around her Dad, but her smile is a smile that hides more pain you can imagine. It hurts me so much to see my daughter like that. But life has taught me to be brave, strong and never give up on anybody, miracles do happen everyday. When something bad happens, I have two choices: I can either let it destroy me or let it strengthen me. I choose the latter. I will help my kids get through the tough times in our life. And to use the famous phrase: This too shall pass. Since my husband got ill, I´ve learned (amongst other things) these: I´ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words, it may be the last time you see them. I´ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you are down, will be the one who helps you get up. Thank you for taking the time to post and for your positive thoughts. Take care!
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Hi RubyP, Thank you for taking the time to write me a very lovely post. I look up to you who had lost a loved one, yet love others beyond herself. There´s nothing harder in life than see your loved one in so much agony so much that he needs to be in fetal position to ease his pains. When I asked my husband´s medical team especially the Cancer Specialist the hardest question in the world to answer completely truthfully if my husband will survive this … the answer is they will always do their best … they will always fight hard, harder, hardest … until they can´t anymore. The hardest part about accepting the saying ”everything happens for a reason” is waiting for that reason to come along. I´m still waiting but I do believe that G.O.D has better plans for my husband, even if I don´t realize it, yet. When the doctors told us a month ago that my husband has pancreatic cancer, we cried our eyes out dry and stayed up all night, wondering what if ? My kids and I will make the rest of his life the greatest. We will do anything for him and give him lots and lots of LOVE. My husband is surrounded with his loving family. People say you don´t know what you got till they´re gone. The truth is, I knew who I had, I just never thought I would lose him. Fortunately for me, it´s not too late, yet. I still have him and I won´t lose him. It takes someone special to love someone more than herself, and you,my dear RubyP, are one special lady. Thank you! I so appreciate your wonderful post.
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To Aube, soggy, H2L, Aussiemarg, Tuulia, sisu, TMfunk, jewel, zenggi, freddy, RubyP and Federer´s Back, I don´t like it how sometimes words can never come close to describing how I feel right now because I wanna tell all of you how tremendously touched and grateful I am for all the nice posts from all of you..Taking your time to send us well wishes, good advices, encouraging words and positive thoughts … they mean so much to my family and me more than you´ll ever know. Knowing that caring and good people like you exist, I can again say that there is still hope for the world. I used to think that the world was so wonderful …. that the world gave me so many reasons to love it until a month ago. My husband who doesn´t drink nor smoke, has lived an exemplary life …. has pancreatic cancer (one of the hardest and toughest to cure according to the Cancer Specialists here) made me think that the world was so unfair and I hated it with a passion of a thousand burning suns. But then again, how can I hate such a wonderful world that gave me my husband, my kids and all the wonderful people like you? So now I´m back to loving the world and its good people again. Today was a difficult day . All your lovely posts were the only sunshine we saw all day today. A huge huge huge THANK YOU! Okay, I think I know how I feel about all of you. This is cheesy (my kids helped me with this one) from the bottom of my heart, here goes: You are like a pillow …. I can hug it when I´m in trouble, I can cry on it when I´m in pain, and most importantly I can embrace it when I´m happy. Take care cause we care and Good Night! P.S. Federer´s Back: Thank you so much for that interesting information. I will show them to my husband´s medical team. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Hi freddy, Your welcome! Your kids are lucky to have you. Thank you, once again, for your lovely posts. Be safe and take care!
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Hi TMFunk, An amazing piece to an amazing father.. I believe in G.O.D that if He brings me to it – He will bring me through it. I put my hopes in G.O.D.´s hands. Thank you, once again, for the good wishes. Be safe and take care!
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Hi TMFunk, jewel, zenggi and freddy, Thank you for all your caring ways. I showed my kids all the good wishes and compassion from all of you and they were crying, and this time, we were all crying tears of joy and it felt so good. A loving thanks to all of you from all of us. At the end of the day when we crawl into our beds and all the lights go out, our thoughts can finally rise to the surface. We keep hearing the words from the medical team that my husband´s best chance to survive is surgery and only 10% of those who had this kind of cancer made it. But we are still hoping. We are still wishing. We are still staying strong and fighting with tears in our eyes. We are still waking up everyday to go through it all over again. Our life nowadays is as hard as hell but it´s still a gift and we are going to live every moment of it for our beloved husband and father. We are holding our heads high and being the best we know we can be even though life is falling apart at our feet, we are facing each difficulty with the confidence that time and that Cancer Specialist will bring us better tomorrows and we are never giving up. And when we see my husband, we are keeping a smile on our faces, when inside us feel like dying. We are standing for what we believe in, regardless of the odds against him, that he will be on the good side of that prognosis, for once. TMFunk and freddy, this is for you and to all the Dads in the whole wide world, I know Father´s Day was a month ago, but here goes: What Is A Dad? A dad is someone who wants to catch you before you fall, but instead picks you up, brushes you off, and lets you try again. A dad is someone who wants to keep you from making mistakes, but instead lets you find your own way, even though his heart breaks in silence when you get hurt. A dad is someone who holds you when you cry, scolds you when you break the rules, shines with pride when you succeed, and has faith in you even when you fail. My kids (these are not my kids´own words, but they spent many hours searching and when they saw this poem, they said in a heartbeat: ”This is Dad”, so whoever is the poet , we thank you) had this framed and gave it to their Dad on Father´s Day and it´s sitting on his hospital bedside table now. Also, thank you Mods for letting me post here on non-related tennis topics. Deeply appreciated. Just so you all know, it´s such a relief to come here and know that people care more than we have ever expected! THANK YOU!
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sisu, I knew that post was to me. I was in the process of replying to you. Thank you. I´ve been meaning to thank you for your earlier post on the quote that I posted which you loved. But I can´t take the credit. I saw it on a website, so whoever coined it, I thank you. Also, I´ve been meaning to tell you that I´ve always liked all your nice and reasonable posts. I so admire you because even though you are a Fedfan, you can still appreciate the other tennis players. For some, once they dislike a player/players, all they can see are their faults. It´s always easy to think bad of others but so difficult to give them the benefit of the doubt. But not you, you have always something good to say. I think you and I are so much alike. We see good in most people (definitely not that shooter in Aurora, Colorado, amongst others) and draw strength from the said quotes. Also, I draw strength from good people and my Gawd. As for my hubby´s condition, thank you for your thoughtfulness and encouraging words. My kids and I will never give up, no matter how impossible the situation looks and we are pinning our hopes on the amazing and skillful medical team. BELIEVE, FAITH and HOPE were our best friends before, more so now. Once again, thank you for taking your time and wishing us well and I´m so touched by all the warmth and concerns people here have given us. Greatly appreciated. I wish you well, too. Good Night and take care.
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Hi Aussiemarg! Thank you for your incredible kindness. A week after we found out about hubby´s pancreatic cancer (the doctors here refer to it as a murderous cancer), when my kids and I were both emotionally and physically paralyzed, there was one person I really wanted to reach out to and that was you because I knew you´ve been through a lot and if there was one person who would understand what I was going through it would be you. I so appreciate your concern, more than I can express. Thank you for being you. I will e-mail you. Good Night and take care! Sorry guys for taking up space intended for tennis. Now, back to your regularly scheduled programming.
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Tuulia, Straight from our hearts (my kids and mine), thank you for your kind words. Gawd knows, we´ve been through hell and back, but I know in my heart of hearts that the medical team, especially my husband´s Cancer Specialist will do everything in their power to cure him. We´re fortunate that we are in hubby´s country where the medical care is top-notch. Good Night and take care!
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Aube, soggy and H2L, I can´t thank you enough for all your encouraging words and good advices. Just know, that they will give us strength going forward. Special thanks to Aube for your prayers. Good Night and take care! PS: I know this is not the right thread but I will say it here anyway (sorry Mods): To the millions and millions Fedfans: Congrats on Roger Federer´s success in both Wimbledon and world rankings. I´m so happy for all the Fedfans here, there and everywhere. Keep it up, Roger! You are one great tennis player and person and please stay healthy.
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soggy and H2L, with tears in my eyes (I´m such an emotional gal), I say thanks a million. Showing care and concern for people you don´t know is one of the simplest yet powerful things humans can do for each other, especially in people´s darkest and toughest times. A warm thank you for everything both of you said. Deeply grateful.
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Aube, thanks! You sure are my hubby´s Special Angel. As for our nadou boy (I hope you don´t mind me using your special nick to our boy. I sooo love it), I´m not worried. It´s good he´s listening to his body, sorry, knees, for once. He will bounce back. When hard work and determination work together, expect a masterpiece. Besides, even if he doesn´t win another huge title for the rest of his playing years, he is already one of the greats. If it´s good enough for Rafa, it´s good enough for this fan. My kids and Rafa are my rays of sunshine these days. Aube, here´s for you: _0000000000______0000000000_____ __000________000__000________000___ _000___________0000___________000__ 000_____________00_____________000_ 000____________________________000_ 000___________THANKS__________000_ _000____________FOR___________000__ __000__________BEING_________000___ ___000__________MY_________000____ _____000______FRIEND_____000______ _______000______________000________ _________000__________000__________ ____________000____000_____________ ______________000000_______________ ________________00_________________ ________________ 0 _________________
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Aube! I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thanks for taking the time to think of me and my family. My day was made brighter by your simple act of kindness and thoughtfulness. Thank you. A wise man once said: "To often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which has the potential to turn a life around." Truer words have never been said. I loved what you said in the end. It´s hard to see your loved one in so much pain, so when his pains are unbearable, I will be looking for that light at the end of the tunnel. I know that my husband´s Cancer Specialist will move heaven and earth to cure him and I believe in good people and miracles and most importantly HOPE. As the Roman philosopher Cicero said: While there’s life, there’s hope. Once again, thank you!
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Hi Aussiemarg! Hope you see this. Soooo glad to hear from you. Thank you for your post at 6.42 PM. I haven´t posted in a while, to be honest, I couldn´t post, I just couldn´t. But then I read about Rafa´s withdrawal from 2012 Olympics so I came here to commiserate with my fellow Rafa fans. After reading many nice comments from Fedfans and other nice people, I signed off. Sorry guys, this is off topic, I know, please forgive me. So, AM, sorry for my late reply. I just saw your posts to me. First of all I thank you for your generosity and kindness. Secondly, I´m sorry that I can´t go to Brisbane and Australian Open next year as I planned. You see, the first saddest and most devastating moment in such a short time I mentioned on my first post on this thread is about my husband. He´s diagnosed with pancreatic cancer (the same type of cancer that took Patric Swayze and Steve Job´s lives). We´ve been crying ever since that day we heard the word ”CANCER” and we couldn´t focus on anything else. So we isolated ourselves from everybody else emotionally. My six kids and I are doing everything to be with him 24/7. Just when you think things can't get any worse, they do. But I've learned that life is like an hourglass. Sooner or later everything hits rock bottom But all you have to do is be patient and wait for someone, in our case the Cancer Specialist, to turn it all around. I´ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours. I´ve also learned that writing, as well as talking can ease emotional pains. Food for thought from someone who had experienced the most difficult time and toughest times still ahead of her, here´goes: One of my favorite quotes from a famous television show, I´m paraphrasing: "Sometimes it's easy to feel like you're the only one in the world who's struggling, who's frustrated, or barely getting by. But that feelings a lie. And if you just hold on, just find the courage to face it all for another day and someone, or something, will find you and make it all okay. Because we all need a little help sometimes. To remind us that it won't always be this way." Lastly, Ausiemarg, there are a lot of words I must say before I sign off, you are absolutely amazing … one of a kind. You didn´t know it, but you made me feel a little better. Sorry for posting this here, but ´I lost your e-mail adress. Again. I have it somewhere and I will find it and I will write you to my heart´s content. Promise. Take care everybody and have a nice weekend!
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The quote from Benito in this article, pretty much sums things up: Credit to Nadalnews.com The quote from Benito in this article, pretty much sums things up: “He doesn’t want to give excuses for past losses; he’s not in condition to play; that’s all he wants to say,” said his publicist Benito Perez-Barbadillo in a telephone interview. “He’s going to start practicing again. He’s just not ready to compete. He’s not competing for himself here. This is not Rome or Madrid or even the French Open. This is competing for your country. You can’t go out there when someone else can be competing at full strength.” Pretty unselfish act, Rafa. Atta boy!
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Northernboy: "but to me I think Nadal's issue is much more mental than physical." Really? Because he lost to Lukas Rosol? What about his 7 straight losses to Djokovic? Did he withdraw before the finals? No, the guy took a beating in all 7 finals like a man.
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soggy, thanks for your advice. I should have known better. From here on in, no more troll feedings. They just give me headaches, anyway.
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Ron: "Nadal pulls out of olympics to avoid drugs testing, simple as that." And you are one of the drug testers? So, you´re telling me that he didn´t use drugs four years ago, but is using now? Please no accusations. Are Rafa fans not suffering enough? Whoever your favorite player is, I really hope that no one will accuse him/her of using something illegal. Not fun to hear, I´m telling ya.
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Thanks Alexis, CL and all the nice Fedfans!
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tennisfan65: Thanks for your post. As for this: "Strategists walk away from battles they don't think they can't win. True warriors don't." As a die-hard Rafa fan, I´d rather have Rafa as a Strategist who will play tennis for many more years to come than as a True Warrior who may shorten his playing years because of once-every-four-year battle. So yeah, I applaud Rafa and his team for this very wise decision, consequences be damned.
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Hi Sherlock! There´s so much we Rafa fans have to endure. Withdrawing from "The Games" Rafa´s really excited about was bad enough, having to read about Rafa´s doping accusations by Rafa haters just rubbed salt into the wound. Just hang in there!
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Temple, I´m maybe naive but I still believe in "Innocent until proven guilty. Shaking head at your judgment without evidence.
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WOW, cara. Shaking my head at your comment.
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"Bummer" +2 Re-posting from the "Out of His Own Way" thread. Coming out of lurkdom to say: I´m so sad, so sad about Rafa´s withdrawal from the 2012 Olympics. But I believe that something good will come out of this, I´m nothing if not an eternal optimist. This is my second saddest and most devastating moment in such a short period of time. Take care, Rafa. Looking forward to your full recovery coming soon. Remember: "A bend in the road is not the end of the road... unless you fail to make the turn." And Rafa´s own words: It´s not a tragedy, it´s only a tennis match (in this case a tennis game). Yes, Rafa, you´re so wise beyond your years. Tragedy is: A father of six has pancreatic cancer.
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Coming out of lurkdom to say: I´m so sad, so sad about Rafa´s withdrawal from the 2012 Olympics. But I believe that something good will come out of this, I´m nothing if not an eternal optimist. This is my second saddest and most devastating moment in such a short period of time. Take care, Rafa. Looking forward to your full recovery coming soon. Remember: "A bend in the road is not the end of the road... unless you fail to make the turn."
Toggle Commented Jul 19, 2012 on Out of His Own Way? at Peter Bodo's TennisWorld
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