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Laura Blundo
Moultonborough, NH
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"We just need to learn how to communicate". That's nearly how every initial conversation begins when clients contact me for help. Does that ring a bell with you? Most are surprised when after discussing the broad areas in which we communicate, that they actually are pretty good at it. Unless of course it comes to our close intimate relationships, then it seems as though we not only didn't learn, but it's IMPOSSIBLE to learn. Here's the good and the bad news. First the good news. You are more than capable and know more than you think you do. Next, the... Continue reading
Posted Apr 24, 2018 at Relationship Turn Around
So what happened? In the beginning of your relationship you were totally in love, laughing at each others jokes, finding each other crazy sexy and couldn't wait to create your future together. Maybe your story didn't go quite like that, but close to it. At that early time, if you were to rate your relationship between 0-10, chances are you were a 9 or 10. If you were to rate it today, what would you say? If you're here, exploring couples work, chances are it's a 3 or less. It is possible to bring it back to a 9 or... Continue reading
Posted Apr 14, 2018 at Relationship Turn Around
Each and every year has it's blessings and each and every year has it's challenges. What were your blessings? How can you pay homage to the blessings you received this year? Was it a friend? Was it a group? Was it your partner? Perhaps it's not one particular thing or event..but a continued thread that was pulled through your life. It seems everywhere we turn, we see reminders for gratitude. While the above may sound deeply reflective, it doesn't need to be. The point is, every relationship we have needs to feel appreciated. I recently expressed to my husband that... Continue reading
Posted Dec 26, 2017 at Relationship Turn Around
The Power of Pause Don’t you wish you had your own personal ‘pause’ button? What would you change if you did? It’s so easy to be reactive. You say and do things you don’t mean and later wish to yourself, “If only I had waited to react, I would have chosen differently.” We can exercise our pause button. Yep, that’s right, just like we exercise other parts of our bodies; we can exercise and build our ability to pause. “Between the stimulus and the response, there is a space. In that space lie our freedom and power to choose our... Continue reading
Posted Jan 16, 2012 at Relationship Turn Around
This time of year, more than any other can really bring people down. It's no news to you, right? The media has been publishing information about holiday blues for what is seemingly forever. So, if it is nothing new, why talk about it now? Well, with the holidays bearing down upon us, I thought it might be a good time to take a look how we deal with our blues. I'm all for transparency, so here's where I go when I'm down. Of course, I don't want to appear vulnerable, weak or needy so my choice is to say nothing... Continue reading
Posted Nov 28, 2011 at Relationship Turn Around
Communication- Part 1 I asked my readers what was of interest to them for blog topics. Not surprisingly communication was at the top of the list. Communication: something imparted, interchanged or transmitted. It sounds rather sterile doesn’t it? I often hear couples say their main issue is communication, but it most often unveils itself as a symptom of something else. Let me explain. (For the purpose of feigning a simple scenario, I will use benign names, Mary and John) The first example is about mis-communication. Mary’s husband John comes home from work tired, but generally in a good mood. Mary... Continue reading
Posted Oct 1, 2011 at Relationship Turn Around
Parenting: United we conquer, divided we fall... Perhaps conquer is a strong word. As parents we do not want to conquer our children, but we DO want to overcome certain things that arise throughout the more challenging aspects of parenting. When two parents stand together, united and in support of each other, it gives the children a sense of security and safety. Does that mean Mom and Dad have to agree? No, it does not. But what it does mean is that they must know HOW they're going to agree about disagreeing! I know, it's a mouthful. The simplicity of... Continue reading
Posted Sep 29, 2011 at Relationship Turn Around
Boundaries What are they? How do I use them? Better yet, how do I GET them? Boundaries, you hear the term everywhere. “Use your boundaries.” “That person has no boundaries.” But what does it all mean? For clarity, I will give a brief explanation about boundaries and then give examples of how it might show up and affect our lives. Part of this great information I owe to the Relational Life Institute, Terry Real and Lisa Merlo-Booth, my teachers and mentors. There are two boundaries – External and Internal and for this moment, I am going to focus on our... Continue reading
Posted Sep 21, 2011 at Relationship Turn Around
Comfortable Misery~ Say it out loud, comfortable misery. Not only does it sound disheartening, it sounds depressing. How many of us go through our day(s) in comfortable misery? We move from one thing to the next, keeping busy, ignoring the discomfort that lies just below the surface. My mentor(s) Lisa Merlo-Booth and Terry Real refer to this as "misery stabilizers". These are the things people turn to instead of facing their issues. Some examples are : Cleaning, shopping, computer, TV, work, alcohol/drugs, gambling, friends etc. Some of it is not all that awful, right? What's wrong with cleaning the house,... Continue reading
Posted Sep 9, 2011 at Relationship Turn Around
Neediness ~ ugh, it's a word that is SOOOO unattractive, isn't it? I mean, who wants to be known as needy? We conjur up images of soon to be ex-mates begging, pleading probably even crying to turn back time to when things were blissful. Most likely the neediness began showing up long before the end of the relationship. But we all have needs, right? We must have needs in order to thrive and survive. Lets take a look at some of the differences. Needs are : Normal, valid and important. Needs are: Present in healthy successful people. Neediness: comes from... Continue reading
How are the weeds in your garden? I was blessed this morning to sit outside under the sunshine among my gardens. As I was enjoying the quiet (bugs aside) of the moment my thoughts were drawn to the time and attention I had given my gardens this spring. Daily walks, gazing upon, admiring, plucking the rogue weed all topped with anticipation and excitement of what will bloom next. My thoughts were drawn to the similarities of our gardens and our relationships. The results of a well tended garden were staring at me. Lush, happy, perky with strong deep roots. Conversely,... Continue reading
Posted May 27, 2011 at Relationship Turn Around
"Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of fear is freedom." Marilyn Ferguson. I came across this quote the other day and thought it would be a good seque into my commitment to post daily on my Relationship Awakenings page. Why this particular quote? I chose this quote because... Continue reading
Posted May 5, 2011 at Stretch Yourself
Stretch Yourself... "Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of fear is freedom." Marilyn Ferguson. I came across this quote the other day and thought it would be a good seque into my commitment to post daily on my Relationship Awakenings page. Why this particular quote? I chose this quote because I recognize my "fear" of being read in a public forum. My challenge was to stretch myself, go outside of my comfort zone and embrace what is uncomfortable, or fearful. What is your fear? Can you stretch yourself a bit? What would it look like if you took... Continue reading
Posted May 5, 2011 at Relationship Turn Around
Silence, Resentment, Resignation This is a passionate topic for me as it holds personal history. One of my "ah ha" moments in my first experience with delving into this relational world was, I'm REALLY good at stuffing things. I thought (incorrectly) that this was a sign of strength, flexibility and just being a good wife. Everyone's reason for not asking for what they need or expressing discontent due to an event may be different but the results are the same. Here are some examples... 1) Avoiding argument 2) Afraid of not being heard 3) What's the use, he won't change... Continue reading
Posted Feb 19, 2010 at Relationship Turn Around
I must admit, I love Facebook! I have a Twitter account but i'm not much of a tweeter. (yet) Social media networking is a very powerful tool. When I first began using Facebook it was to connect and reconnect with new as well as old friends. I enjoy reading the fun posts and at the same time I'm amazed at how much people play the application games. I recently discovered that it's incredibly powerful surrounding what is was designed for. Networking! Yes, it really works! It's a bit of a double edged sword as it also holds other power. The... Continue reading
Posted Feb 4, 2010 at Relationship Turn Around
I recently came upon this quote which I thought would make a perfect lead in to this blog. Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. ~Viktor Frankl I can go a number of ways with this very inciteful quote but where I would like to go with it is about our viseral reactions to adverse conversations. Yes, you got it, arguments. So much is said in the heat of the moment that is later shrugged off by.. *... Continue reading
To those who know me and have been with me through the process of becoming a Relationship / Life Coach, thank you for your support. I'm FINALLY here! A place where I can do the work that I am so passionate about, creating and sustaining fulfilling, healthy relationships! Oh did I not mention happy? I'm new to blogging and I hope to get better at it over time, so please stay with me. I need to relax and just be me instead of focusing on who will be reading my blog. As I type this, I can safely say at... Continue reading
Posted Jan 19, 2010 at Relationship Turn Around
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