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The great city of Lowell, MI
Therapist, Avid Outdoorsman, Husband, Father, Friend
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So Christmas is next week! Along with the holidays comes much stress, anxiety, and fear. And that’s just with your family! Outside of that there are money issues, work issues, kid issues; so many schedules to coordinate. Let’s just face it. Life becomes more complex around the holiday season. I... Continue reading
Posted Dec 17, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
This past Friday was the opening day of firearm season here in Michigan. For most of my life this day has been one of the biggest days of the year to me. It was a right of passage as a young teenage boy to join my dad in the deer... Continue reading
Posted Nov 18, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Yesterday while driving I heard several advertisements on local radio stations that were directed towards Veterans. There were campaigns by Starbucks and other food chains giving free product to veterans. Recently I have also heard stories of soldiers being given special treatment in different situations. One account was moving soldiers... Continue reading
Posted Nov 12, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Yesterday while cruising online I came across an article concerning the level of satisfaction that the "Gen Y" members are gaining from their lives. The article was based on Tim Urban's observations from his life as a "Gen Y'er". The most striking aspect to me as a counselor is that... Continue reading
Posted Nov 4, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
In a recent conversation with a client we talked briefly about emotional resiliency. Unknown to most people is the fact that resiliency can be strengthened. Naturally some individuals are more resilient than others. And. It is possible to build our resiliency and flex it much like Chris Hemsworth (Thor) flexes... Continue reading
Posted Oct 29, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Knowing ourselves intimately has all sorts of positive effects on our lives. Today I had a good friend ask to talk with me privately. Of course anyone in that situation would wonder and anticipate a serious conversation with potentially negative effects. It was a disappointing conversation. As we sat and... Continue reading
Posted Oct 22, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Have you ever noticed that often times in life we tend to avoid people, events, activities, thoughts, and feelings that make us uncomfortable? You may be saying right now. "Yes of course I've noticed; isn't that normal?" I have noticed that often we tend to avoid the thing that we... Continue reading
Posted Oct 15, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Every Monday evening I take my oldest daughter to orchestra practice. Every week I look forward to the drive back and forth into Grand Rapids. Most of the time we listen to the radio and I destroy pop music as she sinks in her seat in smiling embarrassment. We smile... Continue reading
Posted Oct 8, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
How do we expect to go anywhere in life if we have no idea where we are going. It is becoming increasingly clear that many people live so un-intentionally that they end up floundering in life. There is an old saying that says, “If you aim at nothing you will... Continue reading
Posted Oct 1, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Is it important that men and woman have well formulated gender identities? I believe that this is a very important question that needs to be answered in the conversation regarding gender neutral parenting. Let me ask a question for you to think about. What would the world look like if... Continue reading
Posted Sep 24, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Joe and I view this topic from the same viewpoint so this series may be a bit one sided. The idea and practice of gender neutral parenting is much more about the parent than it is about the child. Let's face it. We as parents cannot keep our children from... Continue reading
Posted Sep 17, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
The other day while I was listening to Huffpost Live I was confronted/entertained by a segment that was aired on gender neutral parenting. Watch the interview in it’s entirety here. The host (Dena Takruri) and a panel of four individuals discussed the issue(s) of raising children in a gender neutral... Continue reading
Posted Sep 10, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Recently while reading I was confronted with a quick rule of decision making. It’s the 10/10/10 rule. When you are confronted with a decision and are stuck try applying this rule. It’s really asking yourself three questions. If I do this “thing” What difference will it make in ten minutes... Continue reading
Posted Sep 3, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
How do you make decisions? My opinion is that most people make decisions while in a reactionary mode. In other words, most people live their lives reacting to the environment or circumstances around them. I present to my clients five ways of thinking the does/will dictate our lives. 1. Reactionary... Continue reading
Posted Aug 27, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
It seems that so many children are diagnosed with ADD or ADHD these days. Even more often are parents diagnosing their own children with it. To me it seems that so many parents think their child struggles with ADD or ADHD and when I see their children they seem very... Continue reading
Posted Aug 20, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
In my last post I continued a discussion on LEGO brand toys becoming angrier. I asked for feedback on your thoughts and opinions as to why our culture is progressively becoming angrier. As promised I will now share my thoughts/opinions on this dynamic. I think that one major dynamic that... Continue reading
Posted Aug 13, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
In my last post I introduced an article on the increased negative facial expressions on LEGO’s action figures. The manufacturers gave their reasoning as a response to consumers request for more realistic characters sighting the tension of good and evil in fantasy play. As much as I agree that in... Continue reading
Posted Aug 6, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Recently while watching the news I saw a short story on LEGO brand toys. The point of the story is how LEGO's are becoming increasingly angry. I have found and will attach a link to an article on this story. The author quotes representatives of LEGO who attribute the increase... Continue reading
Posted Jul 23, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
To continue the discussion on boredom; specifically how keeping busy distracts us from being bored that in turn keeps us from thinking about issues in our lives that cause us discomfort. I have found that life isn’t so... let's say... bad or disturbing to some people that they continually seek... Continue reading
Posted Jul 16, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Last week I began to explore the issue of boredom and how it seems to be changing and taking on new meaning in the younger generations of our culture. Boredom quickly becomes associated with change as well as a resistence to engage in what a person percieves as troubling thoughts.... Continue reading
Posted Jul 2, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
I remember as a young boy during the doldrums of summer I would walk around the house aimlessly. I would make my rounds through the house desperately looking for something fun or exciting to do. Then I would venture outside in search of adventure. Often times it felt like I... Continue reading
Posted Jun 25, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Wayne Haines has posted a new blog. In his blog he links to an article that gives some helpful pointers to parents on how to manager/monitor their teens online activity. It is a very practicle article that Wayne found to be very useful for parents. You can read Wayne's blog... Continue reading
Posted May 31, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Wayne Haines has a new post on his webpage about integrated healthcare. Wayne is interested in this topic and would like ideas and opinions regarding the subject and the article. You can read the blog and find the link to the article here... Continue reading
Posted May 28, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Wayne Haines has written a new blog post. It's about spending last weekend with his family at a soccer tournament. Wayne has made some observations about life, people, himself, and his family. You can read this post in it's entirety here... Continue reading
Posted May 22, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling
Wayne Haines has written a new post about how parents react or interact with others while watching their children play soccer. It's a real life story of a reactionary father. read Wayne's post here... Continue reading
Posted May 15, 2013 at Creative Solutions Counseling