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Reena Sommer, Ph.D.
League City Texas
Dr. Reena Sommer is a trial consultant known for her "out of the box" approach to resolving challenging custody cases by helping parents and children maintain relationships.
Interests: reading on my Kindle, walking my dog while reading on my Kindle, teaching myself HTML, traveling, enjoying my wonderful family
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I was a guest blogger on myturnyourturn.com. See my blog and check out myturnyourturn while you're at it. http://myturnyourturnblog.wordpress.com/2012/12/06/the-holidays-a-time-for-family-fun-togetherness/?blogsub=confirming#subscribe-blog Continue reading
Posted Dec 6, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
In emotionally charged divorce cases, children are often caught in the middle. Sometimes, one parent will try to poison the child's relationship with the other parent to gain leverage in a custody fight. via mynorthwest.com The failure to formally acknowledge the existence of parental alienation syndrome reminds me of the... Continue reading
Reblogged Sep 27, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
September 26, 2012 /24-7PressRelease/ -- The lengthy conflict in Afghanistan (and the years-long battle for control of Iraq before) has put many patriotic Americans -- particularly National Guard and Army Reserve troops who typically have "other" lives and are uniquely unprepared for the impact of deployment -- at risk of... Continue reading
Reblogged Sep 26, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
I routinely get calls from parents who for a number of reasons are pro se (representing themselves) in their custody disputes. Many choose this option for financial reasons while others who have had previous negative experiences with a divorce attorney, feel they will be better able to represent themselves. Regardless... Continue reading
Posted Sep 26, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
I recently read a blog on the Huffington Post advocating for a statutory policy in all cases that children should spend equal time with both parents. In my practice, I've specializing in family law for over 40 years and have handled many custody disputes. I've also see a trend for... Continue reading
Reblogged Aug 29, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
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Adults fighting child-custody battles must come up with a plan to care for their children sooner -- and provide greater detail -- under a new amendment to state law. The amendment, which took effect Aug. 20, aims to help children receive better parenting and more stability during and after a... Continue reading
Reblogged Aug 26, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
In earlier posts I commented on the increase of self represented litigants in family court as reported in the media. This afternoon I happened to be cleaning up files on my computer and came across a "Letter to the Editor" I wrote and which was published in the Winnipeg Free... Continue reading
Posted Aug 25, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
Here's my advice: 1. Separate your kids when telling them about the divorce. This was my smartest moment. We had been so careful about what language to use, but we never thought about whether or not to tell them together. I texted my therapist the night before, asking, "Shouldn't we... Continue reading
Reblogged Aug 24, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
BOISE, Idaho — A young girl whose custody case was ultimately decided by the Idaho Supreme Court traveled to Mexico earlier this week to begin living with a father she had never met before. Maria Ramirez, 3, flew to Mexico on Monday and was handed over to her father, Jesus... Continue reading
Reblogged Aug 24, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
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Let me start by stating that I am a huge supporter of divorce mediation. Under the right circumstances it is not only a cost effective way to assist a divorcing couple reach an equitable settlement on issues relating to custody, spousal support and division of assets, divorce mediation also paves... Continue reading
Posted Aug 21, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
HARTFORD, Conn. - Jennifer Garcia stood alone before a judge with a stack of legal papers in her hands, answering questions about her personal life. via bottomline.nbcnews.com Just yesterday I blogged about parents who represented themselves in their custody cases. And today, this issue is covered in the news. As... Continue reading
Reblogged Aug 20, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
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PRACTICE PHILOSOPHY: via childcustodylawyerchicagoil.blogspot.com "Nesting" is a co-parenting option geared toward divorcing parents who want to maintain stability and consistency for their children during the divorce process. This is a co-parenting arrangement where the children remain in the family home while the parents move into the home during their respective... Continue reading
Reblogged Aug 20, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
By Andria Simmons via www.ajc.com On any given week, approximately 50% of the calls I receive are from people who are representing themselves in custody cases. This is a growing trend as the article suggests and it seems to be guided primarily by the high cost of legal representation in... Continue reading
Reblogged Aug 19, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
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Custody cases have been greatly influenced by developing technology such as various forms of digital cameras, audio and video recording devices, Internet and social networks, text messaging and email. The scope of evidence gathering in contested custody cases has broadened and it now provides opportunities where very few once existed.... Continue reading
Posted Aug 18, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
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The divorcing process is a life event that has a profound effect on parents and their children. It signals a change in "what was" and questions about "what will be". The divorcing process is an unsettling time with "change" being the operative work. The upheaval associated with the divorcing process... Continue reading
Posted Aug 17, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
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We all know that divorce, even under the best of circumstances can be stressful, confusing, unsettling and yes, sad. As hard as it is on parents, it's just as difficult (or more so) for children who don't have the maturity or experience to understand this life changing event. For children... Continue reading
Posted Aug 15, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
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When thinking about parental alienation syndrome, thoughts almost always turn to situations where one parent alienates his/her children from the other parent. In these cases, the alienating parent is the one who deliberately interferes with their child's relationship with the other parent who is also referred to as the targeted... Continue reading
Posted Aug 12, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
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The process of parental alienation takes time and it occurs systematically. Typically, a child who is bonded to a parent from an early does not instantly reject a parent especially using the frivolous complaints that are commonly observed in parental alienation syndrome. However, when a child is exposed to ongoing... Continue reading
Posted Aug 11, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
Needless to say, the best way to avoid a bad or unfavorable custody evaluation report is to plan the custody evaluation carefully by including referral questions in the court order and by carefully selecting the custody evaluator. It is also important to inform yourself about what and what not to... Continue reading
Posted Aug 10, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
I recently posted tips about what to do in a custody evaluation. Now here are the eight things you don't want to do during a custody evaluation. DO NOT overtly bad mouth the other parent unless the custody evaluator asks you to comment on what you perceive to be the... Continue reading
Posted Aug 7, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
In previous posts I've written about how to select a custody evaluator and the importance of using referral questions to guide a custody evaluation. Taken together, the message I want to continue to deliver is that the custody evaluation process is not something that should be left to chance. There... Continue reading
Posted Aug 7, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
How did we get to a place where parenting has turned into a competition with winners and losers? This is a competition where if one parent is deemed to be a "good parent", then the other one is deemed to be less so and unworthy of parenting. Worse yet, look... Continue reading
Posted Aug 5, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
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Let's start with this: Not all custody evaluators are created equal because there is huge variablity in the training and experience that custody evaluators possess. Unfortunately, having a custody evaluator recommended by the court does not guarantee that he or she has the necessary experience to conduct a thorough and... Continue reading
Posted Aug 2, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
I spend a lot of time reviewing custody evaluation reports and providing feedback to clients and their divorce attorneys. Apart from the most frequent complaint about bias on the part of the custody evaluator, another common complaint has to do with relevant issues being overlooked during the custody evaluation process.... Continue reading
Posted Jul 31, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack
Unfortunately, custody visitation blocking occurs all too frequently. There are a number of reasons why this may be happening with some of the more common reasons for custody access blocking being: an innocent logistics glitch retaliation for late child support payment part of a deliberate attempt to interfere with the... Continue reading
Posted Jul 31, 2012 at Custody Battle Counter Attack