Thanks im going to look at Discourse. There is a fantastic community building site thats massively well regarded by those in the know. But most people dont know it. www.meetup.com was created as a response to 9/11 to build communities. Using the internet to get people off the internet and meeting up. Its NOT a dating site in any way. I have run meetup.com/shy-london for the last three years and have 800 members. There are groups for people sharing an interest in almost anything if you live in a major city. Groups are free to join usually. Just spreading the word.