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Rashmir Balasubramaniam
London
Rashmir works with conscious leaders who are daring enough to want to change the world in their own unique way, and helps them do exactly that
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I joined in a very interesting twitter chat on Monday about difficult conversations. The topic of emotions in the workplace came up - not surprisingly. However, what did surprise me, was the very different comments and responses to the questions related to emotions from the participating men and women. In general, the men were suggesting that there was no or little room for emotions in the workplace, that emotions shouldn't been seen or validated, and could be disruptive. While the women, were generally of the view that emotions could be useful. Of course there were some women in the male... Continue reading
I haven't written for the last few days, which is curious. I have had much on my mind, and much to write about. I've even composed a few posts in my head, but somehow not quite gotten down to actually writing them or posting them. Here are 3 things I've noticed as a result of failing to practice my craft regularly: 1. What has not been captured has gone forever now. For even though I may write about those same topics and themes, I am no longer the person I was when I first began pondering them. So any future... Continue reading
I love this powerful quote from Sally Field: “It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.” Think about, and ask yourself, whose eyes are you judging yourself through. Whose voice is your inner critic reflecting? Might it be time to let it go? Continue reading
So many of us have privilege in one form or another - white, male, educational, ... Some we have been gifted with at birth, others we have procured or acquired in various ways, some may have been thrust upon us... There is no shame or guilt or blame in having privilege. It is simply what it is, given the state of our world and our collective state of consciousness. However, we all have the power to choose how we use our privilege, i.e. to what end. And that more are choosing to use their privilege in powerful and positive ways,... Continue reading
Emotions can be funny things. One minute they seem to lift us up, the next they guide us, and the next they can pull us plummeting to the deepest depths. I've been on that roller coaster ride over the last few days - albeit a relatively mild one compared to the ones I know others encounter. However, this time was different from me, and I want to share the how and why with you by way of encourgement as you progress in your own journeys. The duration of the most intense emotions was shorter than ever before. I was able... Continue reading
What do YOU really want... in life, in a particular situation, with respect to your vacation...? Do you know? Have you allowed yourself to know? Are you aware of what you really want? For some, this may sound like an obvious question. But for many - for women especially, this is question may seem odd, or superfluous, or selfish. For many of us - women and sensitive souls worldwide, have gotten so used to putting others needs and desires and preferences ahead of our own, that we have lost touch with our own needs and desires and preferences. So take... Continue reading
“Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life's cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another you have only an extemporaneous half possession. That which each can do best, none but his Maker can teach him.” Ralph Waldo Emerson Continue reading
Sometimes shining a light into dark place illuminates things we don't like and don't want to see. Whatever it is, accept it, don't judge it, allow it to be seen and experienced. For as it is exposed to the light of compassionate awareness and acceptance, it will fade and eventually pass away - leaving you more whole and more free. Learning to love and accept ourselves - all of our selves, can result in this experience of seeing parts of ourselves and feeling bad. Noticing the extent of our negative thoughts can result in this experience. Practicing gratitude can make... Continue reading
“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” ~ Thomas A. Edison It would seem I have tried 100 ways and spent 10,000 hours working on something lately without the results I have been hoping for. I have been extremely frustrated over the last few days, as I've been contemplating the cost and implications of all these seeming failures. For in spite of all the experimenting I have been doing, all the things I have been learning, and all the things I have been trying, the results don't justify the effort or the cost! Yesterday I... Continue reading
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” ~ Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning I've written before about our power to choose. But have you ever wondered what comes before choice? From my experience, it is presence - being aware of and present to what is. And compassionate acceptance - accepting what is without judgement or blame or worry or guilt or fear. When we can do this, even if only for a micro second at... Continue reading
A friend of mine recently posted a note on Facebook complaining about the appallingly bad, often ego driven, and rarely inspirational leaders that he encountered. He is a brilliant and very creative person, driven to make a difference in the world. So he has found himself drawn to and then turned off projects time and time again due to his experience of the project leaders. I have certainly experienced something similar myself in the past. However, I am not sure the problem is simply a lack of inspirational leaders or leadership. You see, I have been wondering whether our encounters... Continue reading
Several people have shared their interest and excitement with me about the 7-day gratitude challenge that I began yesterday on Facebook - which is great. Yet there have been very few postings by people about the things they are grateful for. As I have puzzled over this, I realized that there are several reasons it can be challenging to get started. Here are a few of the challenges I encountered when I first tried this exercise. It can initially be hard to think of thinks to be grateful for You feel you have to come up with something big and... Continue reading
I've just begun a completely free, public 7-day #GratitudeFest. Join the fun by posting here in this Facebook post for day 1. Why am I doing this? What purpose does it serve? 1. Practicing gratitude is good for us There is growing evidence to show that practicing gratitude and developing an attitude of gratitude is good for us mentally, physically, and beyond. Practicing gratitude increases happiness, increases our sense of optimism, enthusiasm, satisfaction with life, and enhances our overall level of positivity. (That means it also reduces anxiety, stress, and depression!) Practicing gratitude can result in better sleep, and better... Continue reading
Those of you who have known me for some time and are aware of some of my current research and work, know that I have long had a focus on being, and the importance of not just doing, but also being. Indeed, I am convinced (and researching) the impact of being on leadership and global change. Focusing on being is a hard shift for many to make, due to the habits we've developed around doing and the tendency in modern society to rush to action and do, even when doing isn't what is required or what works. Yesterday as I... Continue reading
A common challenge many of my clients face is that they have spent most of their lives doing things that others want them to do. As a result they have lost touch with what they want, with what excites and energizes them. This could be construed as quiet desperation, or even a living death of sorts. For we are not here to simply survive. We are here with the potential to truly thrive. Sadly, so many of us – myself included until I made some radical changes in my life, potter along accepting our lot in life, following other people’s... Continue reading
I do a lot of work with people, teams and organizations on purpose and vision. There are typically 2 aspects to this work. The first is often helping people elevate their aspirations and have the courage to go for what they really want. The second is helping people define their visions in sufficiently concrete terms that they can then commit to their vision, strategize and plan, and then get started in moving forward in the direction of their visions. This is incredibly powerful work - though it isn't always easy for people to do. For most people think too small.... Continue reading
Whether or not you want to lead, whether or not you are doing what you love, whether or not you want to make difference, you may be being called to step up and lead. Wake up. Pay attention to what is happening around you. Notice the promptings of your heart and your head. What are you being prompted to? What is it that only you can do now, in your current situation, with your gifts and skills, and your unique experiences and perspectives? How might you be being called to lead - now, today, in this present moment? Continue reading
Work-life balance has been a topic of conversation for me recently. Frankly it is something I have not been great about historically, as I have tended to over-focus on work at the expense of everything else. And while I have done a lot to redress that, it has come up again recently for me and for several of my clients. In the past I personally used work as a way to escape/avoid other things - particularly the stresses and strains of familial relationships and other things going on in my life. I wasn't always conscious of this, but once I... Continue reading
We think tens of thousands of thoughts every day. And I have a feeling that the smarter we are, the more rapidly we think and thus even more thoughts go through our heads. If you haven't taken time ot observe your thoughts, I highly recommend it. Take a few minutes and try to write down all the thoughts gong through your head. It's a fascinating exercise. You won't be able to write fast enough. And you'll notice yourself noticing, and then it may even seem as though there are bifurcated thought streams going through your mind. It can be pretty... Continue reading
One of the biggest gifts we can give to ourselves and one of the most empowering choices we can make, is to choose to be happy. This may seem like a small thing, but for many it is revolutionary. Most of us live our lives waiting for others to make us happy. Whether it is a partner, a child, a parent, a friend, a boss, a colleague, ... By doing this, we are giving our power away. For no one but us has the power to make us happy. And by giving that power to others, we end up playing... Continue reading
Don't worry, I'm not about to recommend assimilation - at least not in the way you may be imagining. There is a a well known phrase among coaches and those who have been involved in the personal development field about resistance. It is this: what you resist persists. There is a lot of truth in this phrase. Think about it for a minute. What things do you avoid? Does avoiding it make it go away? What feelings do you suppress or numb? Does suppressing them or numbing them make them go away? The more we avoid, suppress or numb, the... Continue reading
Yesterday I um-ed and ah-ed all day about what to blog about. I had several possible topics to write about, as there has been much on my mind lately, and I have found myself having strong opinions on several things that have been reported in the news this week. So I could have written about any number of topics. However, I never managed to get beyond wondering what to write about to actually writing. I never sat down at my desk with the intent to write. Instead I let myself wallow in the discomfort of not writing even while I... Continue reading
There’s an interesting article in today’s Guardian on the British Parliamentary Inquiry into mindfulness. (Mindfulness has recently taken the UK by storm, and is increasingly being practiced in a variety of setting - including the corporate world.) As I reflected on the article, it struck me that the questions that are arising, the criticisms being posed, and the concerns being explored are similar to the types of questions that arise, or that ought to arise, whenever a new technology/approach is taken out of the context it developed in and applied to a new one. For example: Purpose: what purpose does... Continue reading
What brings us alive is unique to each one of us, just as the expression of that aliveness - our essence, is unique because of who we are and who we have been. “There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and will be lost.” ~ Martha Graham Continue reading
How do you define success? Have you ever stopped to question what success is? Or what path you are on? What ladder you are climbing? What rewards you are seeking, and why? Most people spend their lives living other people's dreams and goals and expectations. It takes courage to stop and question this path. It takes a strong will to examine ones life and choices. It takes awareness and wisdom to choose your own path. Continue reading