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Rashmir Balasubramaniam
London
Rashmir works with conscious leaders who are daring enough to want to change the world in their own unique way, and helps them do exactly that
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Whether or not you want to lead, whether or not you are doing what you love, whether or not you want to make difference, you may be being called to step up and lead. Wake up. Pay attention to what is happening around you. Notice the promptings of your heart and your head. What are you being prompted to? What is it that only you can do now, in your current situation, with your gifts and skills, and your unique experiences and perspectives? How might you be being called to lead - now, today, in this present moment? Continue reading
Work-life balance has been a topic of conversation for me recently. Frankly it is something I have not been great about historically, as I have tended to over-focus on work at the expense of everything else. And while I have done a lot to redress that, it has come up again recently for me and for several of my clients. In the past I personally used work as a way to escape/avoid other things - particularly the stresses and strains of familial relationships and other things going on in my life. I wasn't always conscious of this, but once I... Continue reading
We think tens of thousands of thoughts every day. And I have a feeling that the smarter we are, the more rapidly we think and thus even more thoughts go through our heads. If you haven't taken time ot observe your thoughts, I highly recommend it. Take a few minutes and try to write down all the thoughts gong through your head. It's a fascinating exercise. You won't be able to write fast enough. And you'll notice yourself noticing, and then it may even seem as though there are bifurcated thought streams going through your mind. It can be pretty... Continue reading
One of the biggest gifts we can give to ourselves and one of the most empowering choices we can make, is to choose to be happy. This may seem like a small thing, but for many it is revolutionary. Most of us live our lives waiting for others to make us happy. Whether it is a partner, a child, a parent, a friend, a boss, a colleague, ... By doing this, we are giving our power away. For no one but us has the power to make us happy. And by giving that power to others, we end up playing... Continue reading
Don't worry, I'm not about to recommend assimilation - at least not in the way you may be imagining. There is a a well known phrase among coaches and those who have been involved in the personal development field about resistance. It is this: what you resist persists. There is a lot of truth in this phrase. Think about it for a minute. What things do you avoid? Does avoiding it make it go away? What feelings do you suppress or numb? Does suppressing them or numbing them make them go away? The more we avoid, suppress or numb, the... Continue reading
Yesterday I um-ed and ah-ed all day about what to blog about. I had several possible topics to write about, as there has been much on my mind lately, and I have found myself having strong opinions on several things that have been reported in the news this week. So I could have written about any number of topics. However, I never managed to get beyond wondering what to write about to actually writing. I never sat down at my desk with the intent to write. Instead I let myself wallow in the discomfort of not writing even while I... Continue reading
There’s an interesting article in today’s Guardian on the British Parliamentary Inquiry into mindfulness. (Mindfulness has recently taken the UK by storm, and is increasingly being practiced in a variety of setting - including the corporate world.) As I reflected on the article, it struck me that the questions that are arising, the criticisms being posed, and the concerns being explored are similar to the types of questions that arise, or that ought to arise, whenever a new technology/approach is taken out of the context it developed in and applied to a new one. For example: Purpose: what purpose does... Continue reading
What brings us alive is unique to each one of us, just as the expression of that aliveness - our essence, is unique because of who we are and who we have been. “There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and will be lost.” ~ Martha Graham Continue reading
How do you define success? Have you ever stopped to question what success is? Or what path you are on? What ladder you are climbing? What rewards you are seeking, and why? Most people spend their lives living other people's dreams and goals and expectations. It takes courage to stop and question this path. It takes a strong will to examine ones life and choices. It takes awareness and wisdom to choose your own path. Continue reading
I have written before about the impact those we spend the most time with have on us. Today I want to give you 2 tangible examples of that. The first example relates to the last few years I spent in Seattle. It was a wonderful time in many ways. I was experimenting with all kinds of tools and ideas and ways of working, often doing work I loved and also encountering all kinds of challenges as I was shifting into doing more of what I loved and discovering new ways of being and doing - particularly teaching and coaching, and... Continue reading
The shooting down of the Malaysian Airlines plane over Ukraine has been much on my mind today, along with the tragedy unfolding in Gaza and the latest news about the radicalization of young Muslim women. My heart is heavy given the tragic loss of life and the despair of so many families from around the world. The political maneuverings and often inane public statements/calls for 'justice' highlight just how at sea our global leaders are, and just how out of touch they are with the general public sentiment about tax dollars funding war and perpetuating old ways of being. It... Continue reading
Children pick up on the emotions, energies and beliefs of their parents, and learn as much if not more from what is unsaid as what is said. The same is true of followers and those you lead. So if you have not accepted yourself, if you are not proud of your strengths and capabilties, if you do not recognize and celebrate your accomplishments, and if you are constantly judging and criticizing yourself, then those around will pick up on that and reflect it back to you. If you want to do your best work in the world and be an... Continue reading
I know I've shared this before, but I'm sharing it again as the song has been on my mind this week. It begs the question 'who are being', and 'who do you choose to be'? Continue reading
A lot has been written about the power of positive thinking and the power of thoughts. There is increasing amounts of research and scientific understanding of the extraordinary power of thoughts on ourselves, on others, and even on things. And yet, despite this, most of us, are completely unaware of our thoughts - and particularly the negative thought patterns that are quietly creating our present experience and affecting our decision and actions, and thus creating our future experiences before we have even realized it! So my challenge to you (and to myself) today is to watch your thoughts. Don't try... Continue reading
I've always hated labels and boxes, for they typically serve to limit or define us in other people's terms, according to other people's beliefs and needs and preferences. “Once you label me you negate me.” ~ Søren Kierkegaard The truth is that we are so much more than any label others may put on us. But the real danger in labels lies not in how others might see us or label us, but in which labels we adopt or place on ourselves. For most of the time, we are not aware of what we are doing, or of our our... Continue reading
If we are serious about realizing our goals and dreams, there are times when we are required to apprach them with massive determination and effort. I don't say this lightly. After all, one of my goals is to live and work with a sense of ease and flow. However, it would be a mistake to assume that ease and flow are synonymous with easy and no-effort-required. Ease and flow are the result of effort, and the experience and wisdom that result from past practice and trial-and-error. That's how we learn, by trying stuff, by practising, by building our knowledge and... Continue reading
For some people - especially those of us born with an inate deserve to serve, support and help, establishing and maintaining personal boundaries is very hard. Hard - but essential to our health and wellbeing, and to ensuring we can do our best work in the world and help as many people as we'd like to help. So why is it so hard to set and maintain boundaries? Speaking from my own experience, there are several reasons. These include, but are not limited to: Desperately wanting to help and heal and make a difference, even if it comes at a... Continue reading
I've just re-watched Strictly Ballroom. It's a great film, and I wholeheartedly recommend it. I've grown and changed a lot since I first watched it, and this time round the central theme resonated with me even more than it did before. This time, I don't just empathize with the struggle of the leading characters, I have experienced the moment of freedom and what comes after it. If you haven't seen the film, I'm not giving away much by saying that the central theme is: not letting fear hold you back, and having the courage to be who you really are... Continue reading
There are few things that make my blood boil, but poor customer support is one of those things. I know, this is a good opportunity for me to practice patience. I am trying, but customer service just needn't be so bad. As I am writing this post, I am in the midst of a live chat with a customer service rep at Bluehost, my webhost as my website it inexplicably down today and my email similarly impaired. And yes, the amount of time between interactions is that long that I can multitask and write at least a paragraph during! Here's... Continue reading
There's a lot of talk in certain circles now about a shift in consciousness. But what does this actually mean? First, I must confess to being exciting about a potential shift in consciousness. When I was co-teaching a class on capitalism at a cutting edge business school in which social and environmental responsibility were integrated into all aspects of the curriculum, I had something of an aha moment. I was sitting at the back of the classroom listening to one of the other instructors talking about her framework that beautifully outlined the paths people saw to systems change. I loved... Continue reading
I have a client who is struggling with focus. And frankly, I have found it difficult to focus at times myself. However, the inability to focus is often symptomatic of deeper challenges. Here are some examples of what might be preventing focus: Lack of clarity around purpose, whether it is our personal purpose and our current chosen mission, or the larger purpose of our work/project/organization... A feeling of overwhelm, which is often the result of having a lot to do but not having it all listed out somewhere where you can see what needs to be done and what is... Continue reading
I'm struck by the difference between the world's best football players and the world's best tennis players. There is mastery in both sports, along with the dedication and resolve and focus that are required to get to the top. However, the top tennis players also have an ability to play well with others on and off the court in a way that doesn't diminish their competitiveness on the court. I am not sure why this is, but I find it interesting. In a way, it reflects a larger shift that we are grappling with globally - individually and collectively, as... Continue reading
As an educator, coach and advisor with a strong emphasis of building capabilities, I often have to consider whether intervening and/or advising is actually in the best interests of my students and clients. You see there are times when my students and clients want to be given a clear answer or told what to do. And there are times when I desperately want to tell them what to do, or what I would do. However, those may be the very times when my intervening would not be in their best interests. Why? Consider an example from family life. I've seen... Continue reading
I've been noticing over the last few years that everyone, including those that want to make a difference in the world and that want to 'be the change', are peddling something - their product, their service, their project, their beliefs, their approach, their ideals, their ... This creates a world with a lot of noise. Yes, even the well intended add to the noise and inadvertently create confusion. I have actively resisted joining the fray, but that too, is a rather unenlightened approach that prevents those who need what I uniquely have to offer from finding me. And that serves... Continue reading
Ever wonder what one person can do? One person can do a lot. Don't underestimate your power to transform! “I am personally convinced that one person can be a change catalyst, a "transformer" in any situation, any organization. Such an individual is yeast that can leaven an entire loaf. It requires vision, initiative, patience, respect, persistence, courage, and faith to be a transforming leader.” ~ Stephen R. Covey Continue reading