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Catherine Toyooka & Catherine Coaches
Silicon Valley
I am a real kick in the pants, amuse myself greatly, and am almost never appropriate!
Interests: Never taking myself too seriously, People watching, Napping, Live stand up comedy, Movies **I have decided to NOT post nudity & explicit visuals on my blog. However, some might find it not suitable for work viewing**
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Ok, so here's the deal--I was really hoping that, after going the single most difficult time in my life, 2014 would prove to be much brighter. Most of you know that I have drastically reduced my work due to a number of ridiculous circumstances. I was incredibly fortunate that I was able to travel to Boston in 2013 to be a featured speaker at Harvard University, Graduate School of Arts and Sciences. I had an amazing time, and the invitation came at the perfect time as it was in between treatments that my husband was going through. Incidentally, Harvard was... Continue reading
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Well, I'm pretty certain that I am not all the way back, but I am declaring it a good start. You might recall that my hubby an I were supposed to vacation at a little private island off of the Florida Keys in 2012. I was heartbroken--really heartbroken--when, the day before we were to fly out, we had to cancel the trip due to the hurricane. Ever the trooper, my hubby did something completely un-like him and booked us a week long stay at the St. Regis in Kauai. Less than 24 hours later, we were drinking $18 cocktails and... Continue reading
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In spite of only working on a very limited basis in 2013, yours truly made two separate "Top Blogger" lists. Crazy stuff, right? I'm honored that people like my blog enough to take the time to nominate me. In November, Kinkly picked me as a "Top 100 Sex Blogging Superhero of 2013", and in December, Between My Sheets named me as a "Top Sex Blogger of 2013". There are so many wonderful, informative, and much needed sex blogs out there today. I read somewhere that the average active life span for a sex blog is a mere 13 to 18... Continue reading
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So, what in the hell is one supposed to write after stumbling through the most difficult year of my life. Looking back, some parts of it seemed to be quite cruel in that it dragged on and on. While at the same time, some parts of it seemed to have just flown by. All I know is that for much of the year, I was white knuckling it. Today is the one year anniversary of my dads passing. Holy shit, this is going to be one fucked up day. I had no idea that processing his death was put on... Continue reading
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As a sexuality educator, I am well aware that there are a bevy of things one can stick up ones ass. Lucky for us, more and more sex toy (or adult toy) manufacturers are producing a mind boggling amount of toys intended just for anal play. Just a quick reminder; never, ever, ever place items up your bum that are not intended for anal play. This could be anything from jars and cans--which happen to be the number 1 of all ER "foreign object" rectal removals, lollipops, vibrating bullets, or any number of awesome sex toys that do not have... Continue reading
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You know that it occurred to me that "jazz" looks an awful like "jizz". Regardless, I've decided to go with it. This time of year is usually pretty hectic for me. I have my birthday, the anniversary of dating my husband (it's also our wedding anniversary), and his birthday. Because we couldn't remember the exact date we met, we decided the end of the first week of October 1991 sounded right. I know I was dating him when my college had it's annual "fall break" in mid October. I was 20 at the time, and should really have a much... Continue reading
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You guys have no idea how much I wanted to spell my name with a "K" instead of a "C"...I'm a huge pop culture/gossip whore and think it's pretty freaking funny if I became a Kardashian for a day. Speaking of the Kardashians, you guys remember that I am the proud owner of 3 mini wondrous vulva puppets (the original ones made by Ms. Dorrie Lane), and I lovingly refer to them as Kourteney, Khloe, and Kim. Kourteney, Khloe, and Kim "Kardashian" vulva puppets Most of you guys know that I've pretty much been on work hiatus for the past... Continue reading
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I've been a member of AASECT for several years. If you haven't heard of AASECT, it stands for the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. Every month, they produce an online magazine for members where they profile two AASECT members. I was one of the featured members for September, 2013. Here is the interview as it currently appears Each month we sit down (virtually) with AASECT members to find out about how they came to their work, what their current passions are in the field of human sexuality, and what they love most about being a sexuality professional.... Continue reading
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I often ask myself why in the hell am I so anally fixated. Is it because I was potty trained too early? Was I potty trained too late? Maybe it's because growing up my father was (and still is) an Anesthesiologist and my mom was a former nurse so talking about bodily functions at the dinner table was nothing new. All I know is that it is a rare day when I am not talking about things going into or coming out of either mine or someone else's ass. Or as my best friend calls it, "arse". Unlike myself, he... Continue reading
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Regular readers of my blog (thank you!!) are fully aware that I have a disproportionate fixation with all things anal. Some even refer to me the the most anally fixated sex educator out there. The funny thing is that I lovingly regard Tristan Taormino as the most anal educator in the community. I can't deny that I am super anally fixated. In fact, I have decided to re-brand myself as an "Anal Health Ambassador". Catchy, no? This personality quirk has served me well considering the line of work I am in. First of all, I love the IDEA of all... Continue reading
Awww, that's the reason I love providing a safe space to openly talk about sex and sexuality! I totally agree that it is a kick ass testimonial...I'm humbled!
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When you are a sexuality speaker, soliciting workshop testimonials can be a little tricky. Even those people who were the most enthusiastic participants can think twice about putting pen to paper. Why? Even though I've been doing workshops since 2002, I still sometimes forget that the topics I cover remain quite taboo. In my head, I might be thinking "c'mon, man, write me a testimonial, write me a testimonial!", but in their head, they might be thinking "are you nuts, lady, the workshop I went to was on fellatio!" I recently put the word out that I was looking for... Continue reading
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For the past four years, July has been a doozy of a month for me. I'm not sure if bittersweet is the word. Perhaps the best way to describe it is to call upon the short run E! show, "Denise Richards: it's complicated". This blog post has proven to be one of the hardest I've ever written. My emotions are still very high, even four years after my mom's passing. It's also one of the most personal posts I've ever written, so have a heart and please try to be kind if you choose to leave a comment. After being... Continue reading
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Boy oh boy do you guys love this post about who in Hollywood has the herp (allegedly)! I loves me some gossip, too. I just had no idea how insanely popular these few posts would end up being. I'm not even lying when I say a third of all my blog traffic goes directly to Hollywood and herpes. I originally blogged about this topic back in January of 2010 and again in November of 2011. I'm trying to balance the gossipy tone of the overall post with some important and reputable information on Herpes. I've decided to bring it back... Continue reading
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I can't believe it has been over 2 years since I first posted this blog article. As a blogger, it can be quite the hoot to go back to older posts. So much so, in fact, that I find myself saying to myself "Hot damn Catherine, that was some pretty good stuff!" I'm including some links to condoms that one can order to size. You might be incredibly delighted to find out just how pleasurable custom fitted condoms can be. As with all STI's, however, remember that condoms only cover what they cover. There is still a lot of exposed... Continue reading
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Ahhhh May, that joyous and wonderful time of year when everything just seems more sexy! In fact, I can say that more and more people are becoming aware that May is known for being "National Masturbation Month". Don't believe me? Google it and see how many "masturbate-a-thons" pop up. I've recently (and, admittedly, much behind the times) become a huge fan of the Showtime Original Series "Weeds". I was thrilled and delighted to see the following clip handle the whole topic of masturbation with such fun, candor, and whimsy. sidenote: I've been telling tales of banana masturbation for years and... Continue reading
My sincere apologies for being such an absent blogger. I don't want to bore you with the specifics. Let's just say that my wonderful husband needs my full attention right now. I was approached again by the good people at MensFitness.com. This time they were seeking out some advice on successfully negotiating a one-night stand. The original article can be found by going here. But you are probably thinking to yourself that I have left off some amazing and wise words. You would be right! It is very unusual for any journalist to use the entirety of my contributions. I'm... Continue reading
Yes, I agree with using sex toys :) Unfortunately, articles rarely run with all the tips/tricks I suggest.
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It's always a lovely surprise when you see an article you contributed to go live on a major website. I had forgotten about this little ditty, but I'm pleased to share it with you now. Apparently, the search term "lasting longer in bed" is one of the most searched terms on MensFitness.com. Here is the original article in it's entirety. If you prefer to see it on the website, please click here. I'd like to sincerely thank the great people at Men's Fitness for contacting me, and am tickled that I'm referred to as a top Sex Expert! Last Longer... Continue reading
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As a sex coach, I tend to screen my phone calls. Believe me, it's with good reason. A week or so ago, I received the following text (I've changed the name to protect the dim-witted fool) "I'd like to introduce myself, my name is "John"..the great one" Now, I did what any normal person would do and ignored it. I expected that the person would go away if I didn't respond. Over the course of the next several hours I received no less than 5 phone calls from the same text number. "John" decided to leave me a message on... Continue reading
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For the past few years I have lovingly referred to myself as "The Susan Lucci of Harvard." Gays and gals, you probably already know what this means. Straight dudes, here's the deal. Susan Lucci has been on a daytime soap opera for more than 25 years. In fact, she had been nominated 17 times for the "Best Female Actress" role, but had always lost. She finally walked away with the daytime emmy award on her 17th nomination. As a sexuality speaker, I have been contacted the last 4 or 5 years by the undergraduate school at Harvard University as a... Continue reading
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I'll tell you one thing--almost no one ever gets it correctly! It's kinda like how much I weigh. I look smaller than I am. However, this blog post is not about my climbing weight brought on by major stress eating. Here's the deal. I've become acutely aware of how others view me in regards to being part of a couple over the past few months. When my husband got the news that he was sick, we embarked on exhaustive and comprehensive consultations with not one, but two different medical centers. I hadn't been working that much as I desperately needed... Continue reading
Jen, Even though this can be seen as an embarrassing post, I did it out of the hope that it resonates with others. Life can sure kick you in the ass and it can make even the most sexual of people non sexual. I'm just glad that I have yet to get a response that says "hey baby, that's because you aren't having sex with the right person!"
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For those of you who keep up with my blog, the fact that I have pretty much been absent for months is nothing new. Hell, my last update was completely un-sexy and it was almost 2 months ago! As a seasoned sexuality educator I am totally aware that not engaging in sexual activity for an extended period of time is not uncommon. Moreover, being a sex educator does not make me immune to long periods where I am simply not feeling sexual. I get the feeling that many people imagine us sex educators as people who engage in hot and... Continue reading
Thanks, you ladies brighten my day!
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