It's always a lovely surprise when you see an article you contributed to go live on a major website. I had forgotten about this little ditty, but I'm pleased to share it with you now. Apparently, the search term "lasting longer in bed" is one of the most searched terms on MensFitness.com. Here is the original article in it's entirety. If you prefer to see it on the website, please click here. I'd like to sincerely thank the great people at Men's Fitness for contacting me, and am tickled that I'm referred to as a top Sex Expert! Last Longer... Continue reading

As a sex coach, I tend to screen my phone calls. Believe me, it's with good reason. A week or so ago, I received the following text (I've changed the name to protect the dim-witted fool) "I'd like to introduce myself, my name is "John"..the great one" Now, I did what any normal person would do and ignored it. I expected that the person would go away if I didn't respond. Over the course of the next several hours I received no less than 5 phone calls from the same text number. "John" decided to leave me a message on... Continue reading

For the past few years I have lovingly referred to myself as "The Susan Lucci of Harvard." Gays and gals, you probably already know what this means. Straight dudes, here's the deal. Susan Lucci has been on a daytime soap opera for more than 25 years. In fact, she had been nominated 17 times for the "Best Female Actress" role, but had always lost. She finally walked away with the daytime emmy award on her 17th nomination. As a sexuality speaker, I have been contacted the last 4 or 5 years by the undergraduate school at Harvard University as a... Continue reading

I'll tell you one thing--almost no one ever gets it correctly! It's kinda like how much I weigh. I look smaller than I am. However, this blog post is not about my climbing weight brought on by major stress eating. Here's the deal. I've become acutely aware of how others view me in regards to being part of a couple over the past few months. When my husband got the news that he was sick, we embarked on exhaustive and comprehensive consultations with not one, but two different medical centers. I hadn't been working that much as I desperately needed... Continue reading

For those of you who keep up with my blog, the fact that I have pretty much been absent for months is nothing new. Hell, my last update was completely un-sexy and it was almost 2 months ago! As a seasoned sexuality educator I am totally aware that not engaging in sexual activity for an extended period of time is not uncommon. Moreover, being a sex educator does not make me immune to long periods where I am simply not feeling sexual. I get the feeling that many people imagine us sex educators as people who engage in hot and... Continue reading

Sometimes it seems like my life is a perfect shit storm. Don't get me wrong, I have been incredibly lucky and blessed for most of it. It's only more recently that things have gotten away from me. I'm still in shock and barely believe that my father passed away so suddenly. It's been difficult on all of us (I have 2 older sisters, 2 brother-in-laws, 3 nephews and 1 niece). One of the hardest things for me to process is that, after many years of being a caretaker to my mom while still working, he actually seemed to be enjoying... Continue reading

I've been dreading writing this blog post for many reasons. As a blogger, it is a strange thing for people I've never met to know personal details about my sexuality. I feel like I've come to terms with that piece, but it's always a fine line of what constitutes too personal. When I wrote my more recent posts "Now What" and "Now What (Part Deux)" I could not have foreseen just how excruciatingly difficult these past months have been. I lost my mom in 2009 after a long illness. It was horrible and traumatic, but she had been sick for... Continue reading

I couldn't let Thanksgiving pass without re-posting this ridiculous clip from a ridiculous movie (not that I saw it...really, I didn't). They have both come a loooong way since this theater turd. Enjoy! Continue reading

I know I've been noticeably absent from updating my blog and being active on social media. Just the other day it felt like I was ready to get back to work. You see, people have a short attention span, and being off the social media radar too long can render one less relevant. Remember how I told you that life has recently thrown me a fucking curve ball? That particular situation is still not good. In fact, it appears that things have taken a turn for the worse. But that isn't the worst of it. God, I really wish it... Continue reading

Life has recently thrown me a curve ball and this one is a freaking bitch. Very simply, I am not doing well. At all. Those close to me are aware of what it going on. As weird as it sounds, I am not ready or able to put down into words the specifics. I think most of this has to do with the fact that it isn't necessarily my place to disclose this person's illness--all those years of working with HIV positive youth make me unusually sensitive when it comes to other people's medical conditions. I'm also hesitant to talk... Continue reading

If you had told me that I was going to amass a shitload of sex toys when I started my career 10 years ago, I would have pretty much thought you were bananas. Over the years my second bedroom has become an office, and it is basically where I keep all my sex educator/coach loot. I do have a bit of an OCD tendency, which you will most likely see for yourself when I post my pictures. I've not always been this organized! It took me a long time to figure out a system that worked for me. My office... Continue reading

So you want to become a sex educator, good for you! I, for one, believe there are far too few of us out there. I am very sincere in saying this. I'm proud to say that I've been a sex educator working in the San Francisco Bay Area for 10 years! This is by far the longest career I've ever had, and I couldn't be happier about my choice of vocation. I'm not here to say that I am the best sex educator out there right now. There will ALWAYS be others in the field who are more in demand,... Continue reading

Followers of my blog are aware of my deep fixation with all things anal. Yes, it is a bit odd, and this is particularly true because I'm personally not the biggest fan of receiving anal sex. I've said it before and I'll say it again--I like the idea of anal much more than the reality of anal. In any event, I could not let the month of August pass (after all, it is anal health & sex month) without dedicating at least one blog post to a topic I am known for going on and on and on about (starting... Continue reading

A family of chemicals, derived from phthalic acid, used to soften hard plastics to make them more flexible. They have been around since the 1920s and are used in products including those for sex toys, baby toys, dog toys, make-up, and pesticides. Many sex toy manufacturers use phthalates in their... Continue reading

A medical condition where the development of fibrous scar tissue (also known as plaque) inside the penis results in painful and curved erections. The causes of PD are not readily understood, but it can result in significant amounts of stress and anxiety for those who have it. Treatment options for... Continue reading