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I am thankful for my family. <3 I am thankful for a lot of other things as well, but to choose just one thing, definitely family. :)
Toggle Commented Nov 22, 2012 on To My Fellow Americans: at Smellyann Strikes Again
*hugs* You're a brave soul for sharing this Mel. I've got a few stories of my own not so different from yours, but I'm currently too medicated and tired to form coherent sentences very well. You did what you thought was best, and honestly, it probably was all for the better. I firmly believe our choices make us who we are, and there's nothing you can do to change the past, only move forward and look toward the future. Don't let anyone make you feel like less of a person for your choice, it was indeed your choice to make, not anyone else's. Let them talk, they weren't the ones in the situation and facing the choice themselves. I'm going to shut up before I start repeating myself or say something completely unrelated, but I just wanted to say I applaud you for sharing. It's not easy to openly share stuff like that, but with me, personally, it just makes me admire your strength that much more. :)
See, you're doing all that you can to make sure they're safe and well taken care of. :) It sounds like you're in good hands with that doctor, and you'll have people praying for you all as well.
Toggle Commented Apr 20, 2010 on Post-Script at Smellyann Strikes Again
You know very well that nothing you did could or would have caused them to have those types of disorders. They are biologically based, not like a trauma-induced psychiatric disorder. They affect people from all different ethnic and economic backgrounds, there is no common denominator that they've found. Meds have their own dangers too, but really I feel if it might give them a chance at a better quality of life then it's at least worth a try. That's just my view on it though. I know it's hard not to feel responsible at times... Lord knows I go through it too. But honestly you're a great mom, you look out for their best interests, feed them pretty darn healthy, and get them whatever care they may need. That takes a lot of dedication and mental fortitude to have them in different activities, keeping up with schoolwork, and just life as a mom in general. Throw in the dynamics of Military life, and that only complicates things more. You are an amazing person in many ways. I admire your strength and dedication to your children, and I'm sure they'll grow up to be very respectful and appreciative even if they don't seem to be so at their current ages. As far as the glasses and orthodontics go, we're in the same boat. Both kids will need glasses by time they're teens, Jen has astigmatism which I thought only Gavin had but last year they said I had them too. And, both will have to have full sets of braces when they're old enough, and our insurance only covers I think 50% of orthodontic costs. The braces come from my lower jaw being a little more inset than it should be, and Kaiden has my crowded teeth issue. It's going to be hard for him to adjust to braces/glasses since with his autism he doesn't like anything weird near his face. I guess we'll have to find a way to deal with it when the time comes. I know I'm kind of going off on a little tangent here, but I just want to reassure that you're not alone in all you go through, and you can't go through life blaming yourself for certain conditions like that when you didn't do anything to cause them (unlike such things like Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, using hard drugs while pregnant, etc., which would be a parent's responsibility to some degree). Life is hard enough as it is, you don't need the negativity of dwelling on something you didn't do and can't change. You just have to look at the positives and use those to get you through whatever comes your way. I know as a parent it's hard not to feel some guilt over things, but you can't let it get to you. It does no one in the family any good... and even if it is by some degree induced by our actions, it can't be changed now. They are still blessings and are still human, so they're going to have problems just like the rest of us. That's one of the cool things about being a parent- you get to observe how your kids act and see where the good things you do for them and the things you teach them pay off over time. So, now that I've written you a novel in return, it's time to go put clothes in the dryer and go to bed. I hope you will find peace in your situation, and that everything will settle down some for you all soon. I'm almost always around somewhere online if you ever need to vent/talk/whatever. :) *hugs* (Sorry if this is slightly repetitive or doesn't make much sense, I've had very little sleep, and it doesn't look like tonight is going to be any better than last night. Anyhow, g'nite and I hope their trials on the Adderall go well and help them out. :)
Toggle Commented Apr 20, 2010 on Decisions, Decisions at Smellyann Strikes Again
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