Perhaps as younger women we look to older men as a father image, and I do mean very younger women (20ish), those in their 30's are realizing there is no stigma to dating men younger than themselves. Actually, there are very real positives. Younger men date older women for very real reasons. Older women know what they want and do not hesitate to assert themselves. Older women are more saavy. Older women take on the role of the teacher and most (not all) are quite comfortable in this position. No pun intended. I've dated younger men, quite younger, for some time now. It's not even about finances. I don't pay their way. I believe age is a mind concept anyway. Both parties must believe in each other to be compatible, regardless of their age. This works whether the man or woman is older. In looking back and in looking forward, I'd rather keep my men younger. They are freer, more outspoken, more fun and open with their minds. Perhaps I'm lucky. I seem to attract younger men anyway. I guess it's a state of mind. I plan on keeping it that way, no matter what decade I am in.

Don't be sorry, Alison. If there were an upsurge of women murdering their significant others, the media would be all over the stories. Twisting, pulling and pushing the tales to all lengths to figure out why women would do such a horrid crime to the men in their lives. The blame would naturally go on the women too. But in the cases of men killing the women, the media simply reports these cases. They rarely delve into the psychological aspects. They don't pick apart the men to tell us why they are lacking to do such a criminal act. At times, even the woman murdered is suspect as the one that might have spurred the man on to murdering her. In America, many cases of domestic violence are never treated correctly, reported correctly or addressed correctly. I should know. My SO held a butcher knife to me. He is still stalking me after 8 years. I'm the victim, yet I must prove that he is the insane person. Keep on reporting Alison. The more you do, the more people will realize that domestic abuse is not something to hide.

Good link, Sarah. Far more potent and far more inclusive than the story on the Independent. As a matter of fact, have you read the comments by the men there? Worse than Aunt PittyPat running from the infamous Atlanta fire...they blame everything and all for their affairs except themselves. Seems they can't lay claim to why they're having affairs at all and using such a smokescreen amongst themselves clouding their memories of the original article it's hilarious.

Why is this "Fascinating stuff?" We already know as de Burca said, "the men were very insecure, very needy...and there was something lacking in them.". Now do a play on why WOMEN cheat on their partners and I guarantee you'll see different reasons and the scenerio will be a whole lot more interesting and fascinating. Women cheat because men are insecure, needy and there is something lacking in them. Tell it to the boys!