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James Flaherty
San Francisco, CA
Founder of New Ventures West, an Integral Coach training school headquartered in San Francisco
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At the New Ventures West UnConference last week in San Francisco, we came together as a worldwide community for the first time. Being in each other’s presence connected us to who we really are as a community and let us hear our true calling in a deep, resonant, unifying voice. James Flaherty gives voice to the broader mandate and true destiny for our work. Continue reading
Posted yesterday at Integral Coaching Blog
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How do you construct your life so as not to have to feel the profound ache of loneliness? And what is loneliness anyway? In the fall issue of Distinctions, James Flaherty's lead article takes on this topic and invites us into a different way of viewing it. Continue reading
Posted Oct 19, 2012 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Recently, this summer, I spoke to someone very close to me and pointed out something that was difficult to say and difficult for the other person to hear. Sounds like an everyday kind of event, doesn't it? What was important for me, though, was that I was not speaking from... Continue reading
Posted Aug 28, 2012 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Using a question posed by Carl Jung, James introduces a new way to get to the core of a client's worldview. How might it fit into your coaching? Continue reading
Posted May 17, 2012 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Why does change take so long? Part of the reason is that as we set resolutions, we can’t help but bring the conditioning of speed and efficiency that we’ve learned elsewhere in our culture, particularly at work. We are not conditioned to let things take time to unfold, because typically we are punished for not being fast. We are told more is required, sooner. All of which is to say, change takes “a long time” because our yardstick for “a long time” is pretty short. Continue reading
Posted Dec 30, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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The United States has the worst child abuse among industrialized nations. This is a dark and disorienting revelation of how we are living. We are clearly focusing on the wrong things: winning sports or winning elections rather than taking care of those people who are fully dependent upon us. What can we do? How can we be so that this ends? Continue reading
Posted Dec 1, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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An interview with faculty member Justin Wise ahead of the return of the Professional Coaching Course to London in November. Continue reading
Posted Oct 7, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Senior faculty member Sarita Chawla discusses the personal reasons why it is so meaningful for her share the Integral Coaching movement with our friends in Asia. Continue reading
Posted Sep 28, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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The root of all violence, including that which we direct at ourselves, is our making people into things. Wars, rape, torture, beatings of all sorts, abuse in its multiple forms all begin when we take away humanity and replace it with thingness. Continue reading
Posted Aug 26, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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It might seem strange given my profession—being an executive and life coach and running a coaching school—that I don’t believe in success as a worthy or useful pursuit. To tell the truth, I don’t believe in it at all. Continue reading
Posted Aug 15, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Have the large problems facing us as humans gotten so large, complex and irreversible in their momentum that it is too late for us to reverse them or even really understand them? Can we in the West do more than “our part,” and instead find a way to act in concerted, collective, effective action? Continue reading
Posted Jun 16, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Norman Fischer's writing has been woven through much of our work New Ventures West. "Questions," the poem selected by James for the spring issue of "Distinctions," (now available for download) takes us on an odyssey of inquiry through all that about which the poet wonders. Continue reading
Posted May 11, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Positive Psychology is an area of growing interest and relevance in Integral Coaching. Martin Seligman, the field's founder and most famous proponent, recently wrote "Flourish: Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-Being." James reviews the work in this quarter's newsletter. Continue reading
Posted May 9, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Empathy is a huge part of what makes a great healer – one who literally feels his or her clients. When we are being empathetic, we are taking in another’s emotions and experiencing them as our own, providing a mirror for the other person so that they feel understood. Interestingly, though, it is easy for this to be taken to an extreme. When our empathy is on overdrive, it can be subtly detrimental to both us and our clients. Continue reading
Posted Apr 12, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Some things that we thought were pretty solid are shifting quickly and dramatically. Sometimes it takes speed and shocking events for us to remember that nothing is settled, that everything is moving all the time. Is something larger shifting in the world overall? Are new patterns of force and organization coming about? For me it feels that way. Continue reading
Posted Mar 25, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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I know and deeply appreciate that social entrepreneurs are “people of action” - focused (and rightly so!) on making things happen, generating scalable and sustainable solutions to pressing problems. However, the conversations that I have with my social entrepreneur clients aims to support them in clarifying what it is they are dedicated to accomplishing - not necessarily the specific measurable concrete outcomes. In conversations like these, it's important for the person me to have a sense of resonance with the client, so that they know they are feeling "felt" emotionally. Continue reading
Posted Mar 22, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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In the last few weeks I have been moved on many occasions by the central importance of friendship. I keep finding the deep mystery of the endless depth of anyone’s eyes, even people I don’t know, even when we don’t speak. How is that possible? Is there really one friend, as Rumi would have it, that we keep meeting over and over again? Who is that person? Continue reading
Posted Mar 15, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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The other day, a brilliant colleague likened self-care to the oxygen mask drill on airplanes – specifically, the part about always affixing our own mask before assisting others. In other words, if your own ability to take a breath is compromised, how in the world can you be of service to anyone else? But how often do you actually affix your own mask first? I know I don’t. This uber-heightened sense I’ve always had of being “needed” compels me more often than not to abandon self with alarming efficiency...but how equipped are we to handle anyone's else's anything if we spend every last bit of our energy trying to handle everyone else's everything? Continue reading
Posted Mar 4, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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James writes a glowing review of The Great Philosophers, by Bryan Magee, calling it an "illuminating educational diamond mine." "The insightful questions and wise, informed responses bring the reader directly and swiftly into the thinking that has shaped our culture beginning in 500 B.C.E...." Continue reading
Posted Feb 18, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
Here is an excerpt of "The Gift" by Li-Young Lee, which we were moved to share in this Quarter's edition of Distinctions.You can read the whole poem by visiting the blog. To pull the metal splinter from my palm my father recited a story in a low voice. I watched his lovely face and not the blade. Before the story ended, he’d removed the iron sliver I thought I’d die from.... Continue reading
Posted Feb 16, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Each quarter, in its newsletter Distinctions, NVW invites the Integral Coaching community to take on a new practice with the Practice of the Quarter. The next edition of Distinctions is on the brink of publication, but we wanted to give you bloggers the first peek. "How My Mind Works," invites... Continue reading
Posted Feb 14, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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Faculty Member Steve March will be presenting "Embodied Learning: New Paths to New Results" at the upcoming SF Coaches meeting on February 9 in San Francisco. Learn to help clients overcome old habits by working with them on the somatic level. Continue reading
Posted Feb 4, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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At the heart of Integral Coaching is the understanding that it’s in the nature of human beings to become who we are through our practices, the purposeful actions we repeat again and again. What we do in this way shapes our bodies and our whole way of being in the world. I live in London, which is probably not so different in many ways from any major city in the USA or Europe. Busyness is the way to be. It’s in the midst of this that the Jewish practices around shabbat, the sabbath, seem to me to be so extraordinarily powerful. Continue reading
Posted Feb 1, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
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For all of you finding yourselves on the East Coast these days, first: our apologies. That darn weather just won't quit. We wish there was something we could do about it, but our sources say.....there isn't. In the meantime, here are two upcoming opportunities to see James Flaherty speak in... Continue reading
Posted Jan 27, 2011 at Integral Coaching Blog
Thank you all for your candid thoughtful responses. As you've written "busyness" can be given many interpretations and serve many functions. In work situations situations[ or whenever we are attempting to establish status of some sort ] it's a word that we apparently must use in order to have any kind of credibility in the environment. But don't despair ,I've recently taken up answering the question, "how are you?" with the answer " very happy and very spacious." which has opened up interesting conversations. Of course in some circumstances it doesn't really make any sense to say how we are in any true sense and we just mumble something to to keep the conversation going. Still, words have meanings and we are forming an identity every time we open our mouth. Our relationship to our level of activity has a lot to do with our developmental level, in my opinion. By this I mean the extent to which we are caught/pulled into concern about survival as distinct from being more fully in the world of meaning/blogging/contribution we will likely feel that we must be busy [ in order to get something done and thereby relieve our anxiety ] and present ourselves as busy in order to fit in and get some semblance of support and recognition. So what I'm saying is that it's probably more important to attend to our developmental level instead of trying to reduce how much we do. What do you make of that?