I can't describe how relieved I am to know that I am not as alone as I feel. I discovered last summer that my husband was cheating on me with men- several of them, often in "group" situations and exposing me, while pregnant with our son, to serious STDS. I confronted, he denied and finally, a month later, confessed but said it would stop. I love him, so I tried to get past it. Tried to learn to trust again, but it never really came back. A month ago, after many months of trying to make it work when it couldn't, we finally separated. Ironically, even though I KNOW this is what is best for all of us, it still hurts like hell that I wasn't enough, that our family wasn't enough, that I wasn't astute enough to see this before I married him. Why couldn't he be honest with me? Didn't I deserve to know this about him before we married? What about our children? It has been devastating and I don't know who to talk to about it because I feel ashamed of it. How do you tell other people that your husband left you for other men??? How do you come to terms with this new life, with all of the lies and secrets? How do you learn to breathe, to love, to TRUST again???