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I am a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor working in Austin, Texas.
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People with a cluster B personality disorder (antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, histrionic) often violate your boundaries in a variety of ways. Emotional Boundaries If they are upset about something, they expect you to be upset too. If you have a problem, but they are in a good mood, they can’t understand why you are bringing them down. If they are having a bad day, but you are in a good mood, they expect to feel bad with them and to take responsibility for making them feel better. They will also resent the fact that you are having a good day and... Continue reading
Posted Jan 9, 2018 at Kellevision
A simple exercise to increase your happiness in life. Continue reading
Posted Jan 9, 2018 at Kellevision
Strengthening your sense of self can make you more emotionally stable and resilient. Continue reading
Posted Jan 9, 2018 at Kellevision
Thank you so much for your comments. Im so pleased to hear your are freeing yourself from these toxic influences. It is definitely a journey.
Toggle Commented Jul 9, 2017 on Codependency at Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
Hi Caroline, Thank you so much for writing. If anything I wrote helped another, I'm pleased beyond words. Take care and be well. Kellen
Hi Deeply, I'm so pleased you liked it. Thank you for your comments. Kellen
Hi, I'm sorry but the particle has been pulled from the website and I can't locate it in other places.
Hi Yvonne, That sounds so very hurtful. I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you can find a counselor or a support group in your area to talk to. I think it would really help to have someone on your side.
Hi Donna, Im very pleased this was of help to you. Youre absolutely right about him not changing. Though its possible for narcissists to change, they first have to admit there is something wrong with them, which they very rarely do. It then takes many years of therapy and very hard work for them to change. Initiating No Contact bothers them greatly and they will go to great ends to re-establish contact. His Facebook request is a good example. Im glad you were able to see through it and hold your ground. Nicely done, Kellen
Your children are lucky you have realized this. You can help them know how to deal with him as adults. Im so sorry this is your situation, but pleased you have found out what the problem is. I wish you all the best.
When people say they are "sorry", but keep doing a hurtful behavior - they aren't sorry. I'm just saying... I see this a lot with antisocial folks. Since they feel no remorse, they can't really be sorry. But they say the words "I'm sorry" because they have learned are socially expected. So everyone says you should forgive them - because they said they were sorry. But you can't, can you? Because they haven't actually apologized, they've just mouthed the words. And because they keep hurting you. If someone says they're sorry, but continues to hit you in the head, how... Continue reading
Posted Nov 10, 2015 at Kellevision
“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” ~Shirley MacLaine Let me say up front that Pollyanna Sunshine advice to just "choose" to be happy can really be annoying. It is not meant for people who are seriously depressed. If someone is so depressed they are not functioning, are suicidal, are losing the will to live, or are psychotic - this advice is at best inappropriate, if not downright ludicrous. This article is meant as a cure-all for people struggling with life threatening depression. However, it is intended for people struggling with the negative thinking so prevalent in depression.... Continue reading
Posted Oct 26, 2015 at Kellevision
A recent article on a popular science cite suggests that playing the game of Tetris can help people who are struggling with symptoms of trauma (PTSD), food cravings, drug addiction or sex addition. Perhaps those "evil" video games can help us instead of hurt us? Continue reading
Posted Oct 19, 2015 at Kellevision
In abusive relationships it is not uncommon for the victim to feel that the abuser loves because they say they do. Abused children believe their parents love them because they say they do. And children will believe this even when the parent has a long history of beating the child or profoundly neglecting the child. This is why it's important to watch what people do, rather than what they say. The predators and abusers of the world often display "empathy gaps", gaps in their ability to feel compassion or empathy for others. Their words are very charming and full of... Continue reading
Posted Oct 12, 2015 at Kellevision
Can our pets heal us? Studies show they can help. Continue reading
Posted Oct 8, 2015 at Kellevision
Why would anyone want to be the family scapeogat? Continue reading
Posted Oct 5, 2015 at Kellevision
What is hiding in your shadow? Continue reading
Posted Oct 1, 2015 at Kellevision
Is the person smiling in your face actually stabbing you in the back? Continue reading
Posted Sep 30, 2015 at Kellevision
"When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.” Maya Angelou How many of us have looked back to the beginning of an unhealthy or toxic relationship and face palmed when we realized we had seen the problem all along? I know I have seen the warning signs early in a relationship only to talk myself out of them or provide some rationalization for why they weren't as bad as I thought. Only later did I recognize what I had seen from the start and felt so stupid. Continue reading
Posted Sep 29, 2015 at Kellevision
nothing annoys them so much. Oscar Wilde As usual, Oscar nails it. I've seen people fester with resentment, often for years, sometimes for the rest of their lives. They are consumed with a wrong which was done to them in the past - at the expense of their present. It is such a drain on one's energy. Continue reading
Posted Sep 25, 2015 at Kellevision
Is modern treatment of mental illness worse than in the past? Continue reading
Posted Sep 9, 2015 at Kellevision