First off, how an you be a "pastor" to someone not of your flock. These were first time visitors. For argument's sake, let's say these people qualified as being a part of Stanley's flock. If being "pastoral" was his goal, he failed in that as well. Being a pastor means being a shepherd. Shepherds need to both guide the sheep away from danger and correct rebellion. The sin of homosexuality is both dangerous and rebellious. By not answering this person's question, he did quite the opposite of "pastoring."