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penny
I'm a writer and editor with two grown children and four grands.
Interests: parenting, yoga, bicycling, novels about India, memoir writing
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I know. There's nothing like hearing their voice to know if they're happy or sad; if things are going well or ill. No emoji in the world can tell a parent that. hope all's well. talk to you soon.
Skype held us together when my daughter and her family lived in Berlin for a year. It is so much more satisfying than a phone call. I remember Skyping with my daughter while she was in her kitchen in Berlin making lunch. She'd wander off to the stove to stir the pot and then come back into view. We ended up having lunch together. There was something special about being one on one and able to chat about this and that as tho we were in the room together. Which we were. Sort of.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on being bankers to grown children. When independence is the guiding light of our parenting, it can seem irrational to pay a grown child's bill for basic (and non-emergency) needs such as rent or the cell phone bill. Every family has its own guideposts, especially as our children take their first steps up the career ladder. It's knowing when enough is enough, when our helping hand is being treated as an entitlement. That's the tricky bit.
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If we can afford to help out our grown kids, here are five tips on how to handle it.. Continue reading
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When our grandkids say #Enough is Enough, we grandparents rally to support them. It's their lives on the line. Continue reading
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Our grown children do not need our advice or commentary on their appearance. We offer it at our peril. Continue reading
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Our generation is more generous to our kids than our parents were to us--but there are some basic and daunting reasons why. Continue reading
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The times they are a changin'. So are the means our kids and grandkids use to say thank you for a gift. Continue reading
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Even one of the Worlds Most Powerful Moms has had to adjust her parenting stye to get along with her children as they became adults. Continue reading
I agree: The whole calculus changes when children are involved. But there is a line that applies to all circumstances: if we're going to help out a grown child (and we should do what we think is right), we should lay it out for all the siblings. Hard feelings about fairness can only fester.
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There are unintended consequences when we financially support our grown kids--especially when it comes to their siblings. Continue reading
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As our kids reach an age of acquired wisdom, it may feel like they're parenting us rather than vice versa. Continue reading
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Lady Bird is a jolt of remembrance about our mother-daughter relationship--with our mothers, with our daughters or both. Continue reading
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A little yoga workout forges the warmth of a special tie with a grandchild. Continue reading
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Remembering the highs and lows of having grown kids and their families home for the holiday. Continue reading
change is never easy and especially so when it comes to re-balancing our relationships with our grown children around the holidays. But we do adjust, and then we're okay--until the next adjustment.
Sounds like you've got a fine family thanksgiving tradition going on. Having everyone together is what matters--where we eat or what we munch on is secondary. besides, tradition [eating out] is tradition.
Life is full of adapting to family challenges. Thanks for stopping by to comment.
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Thanksgiving is a wonderful family holiday--except those moments when it isn't. Continue reading
Not only says a lot, but also says it in a way that's easy to acknowledge. thanks for sharing your response.
And the poem is such a subtle--and ageless-reminder about not commenting "on each and every little thing." thanks for stopping by
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Letting the "fullness of our wisdom" shine at holiday dinners with our grown children.. Continue reading