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I'm a writer and editor with two grown children and four grands.
Interests: parenting, yoga, bicycling, novels about India, memoir writing
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Remembering the highs and lows of having grown kids and their families home for the holiday. Continue reading
change is never easy and especially so when it comes to re-balancing our relationships with our grown children around the holidays. But we do adjust, and then we're okay--until the next adjustment.
Sounds like you've got a fine family thanksgiving tradition going on. Having everyone together is what matters--where we eat or what we munch on is secondary. besides, tradition [eating out] is tradition.
Life is full of adapting to family challenges. Thanks for stopping by to comment.
Thanksgiving is a wonderful family holiday--except those moments when it isn't. Continue reading
Not only says a lot, but also says it in a way that's easy to acknowledge. thanks for sharing your response.
And the poem is such a subtle--and ageless-reminder about not commenting "on each and every little thing." thanks for stopping by
Letting the "fullness of our wisdom" shine at holiday dinners with our grown children.. Continue reading
it is a joy to be involved so closely in something with a grown child--a shared adventure. Adds to the bank of wonderful memories that make up post-wedding life. thanks for sharing.
It's a minefield out there. so sorry you got so much grief from the groom's mom. But then the photos and videos come and hopefully all is forgotten and forgiven. There really is a lot of joy to go around. and wonderful memories. thanks for stopping by to share your experience. [hope you've been taken off the blame list by now. finger pointing is no fun for anyone.]
We may want to be the wedding planner in chief of our child's wedding, but we would be wise to back off a bit. Continue reading
Hi Carol. Thanks for sharing your story. It can't have been easy for you. We met a couple on one of our trips who "joked" that they had four kids: His [from his first marriage], Hers [from her first marriage], Ours [a child they had together] and Theirs [an adopted child]. "Theirs" left home, is into life style they find useless and hasn't spoken to them in years. They claim to be well-rid of this child and all the difficulties he caused when he lived with them, but you can still feel their pain.
How to stay in touch with children who grow up to be someone we don't like. Carolyn Hax answers. Continue reading
Calvin Trillin looks at that tipping point where the kids we once counseled and advised become our counselors, advisors and protectors. Continue reading
Do we still lose sleep over our kids when they're adults? A study finds it's the dads who toss and turn the most. Continue reading
When it comes to their love life, we should limit ourselves to being a sounding board. Continue reading
It only gets better. the Chocolate chip cookies turn into chicken soup for the soul.
It doesn't matter what form it takes, but a key part of our legacy for our children and grandchildren is a a sense of our values and life experiences. Continue reading
There is joy in vacationing with adult children and their families, but also the discomfort of bearing witness to a family dispute. Continue reading
That's the $24,000 question: Will the helping hand be followed by tough love. It sounded like many of these parents were offering the money to help an otherwise responsible adult child buy a house, get married to the significant other (sooner rather than later) or make some other major commitment toward independence. Somehow, I doubt the bank that ran the survey is going to do any follow-up.
Canadian parents know what it takes to get their boomerang kids to move on and out: Pay them to do it. Continue reading
In the "good old days," if a grown son or daughter were ill or otherwise temporarily incapacitated, we would have had to hang around to make sure there were groceries in the house and meals prepared. Now technology can do it all. That's what I found on my trip to California. There was an app for all my "services."
No matter how old our children are--no matter how grown up and independent they become--there still is room for parental presence and the reassurance pf emotional support. Continue reading
Stepkids, grandkids of stepkids: Connie Schultz reminds us that it doesn't matter, that the magic of grandparenting knows no bounds. Continue reading
The latest trend in parenting adult children: Hovering over their workplace and letting their bosses know there's a higher power watching. Continue reading