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penny
I'm a writer and editor with two grown children and four grands.
Interests: parenting, yoga, bicycling, novels about India, memoir writing
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How to stay in touch with children who grow up to be someone we don't like. Carolyn Hax answers. Continue reading
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Calvin Trillin looks at that tipping point where the kids we once counseled and advised become our counselors, advisors and protectors. Continue reading
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Do we still lose sleep over our kids when they're adults? A study finds it's the dads who toss and turn the most. Continue reading
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When it comes to their love life, we should limit ourselves to being a sounding board. Continue reading
It only gets better. the Chocolate chip cookies turn into chicken soup for the soul.
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It doesn't matter what form it takes, but a key part of our legacy for our children and grandchildren is a a sense of our values and life experiences. Continue reading
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There is joy in vacationing with adult children and their families, but also the discomfort of bearing witness to a family dispute. Continue reading
That's the $24,000 question: Will the helping hand be followed by tough love. It sounded like many of these parents were offering the money to help an otherwise responsible adult child buy a house, get married to the significant other (sooner rather than later) or make some other major commitment toward independence. Somehow, I doubt the bank that ran the survey is going to do any follow-up.
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Canadian parents know what it takes to get their boomerang kids to move on and out: Pay them to do it. Continue reading
In the "good old days," if a grown son or daughter were ill or otherwise temporarily incapacitated, we would have had to hang around to make sure there were groceries in the house and meals prepared. Now technology can do it all. That's what I found on my trip to California. There was an app for all my "services."
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No matter how old our children are--no matter how grown up and independent they become--there still is room for parental presence and the reassurance pf emotional support. Continue reading
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Stepkids, grandkids of stepkids: Connie Schultz reminds us that it doesn't matter, that the magic of grandparenting knows no bounds. Continue reading
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The latest trend in parenting adult children: Hovering over their workplace and letting their bosses know there's a higher power watching. Continue reading
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Giving our grown children some of their inheritance now not only brings us pleasure but is a vote of confidence in them. Continue reading
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When you're blessed with grandchildren as well as step-grandchildren, it [ays to keep the gift-giving equal. Continue reading
thanks so much for stopping by--and for your kind comments. I just went over to your site and enjoyed it, especially your photo of the week and the running advice.
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Annie Lamott waxes wise about letting go of the parental reins and letting our grown children find their own way to thrive. Continue reading
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A branch of economic theory tells us that spending our hard-earned money--or potential retirement savings--on our grown kids has a whopping pay off: It makes us feel good. Continue reading
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Another way of letting go: Hanya Yanagihara's parents set her free from expectations of filial duty. Continue reading
thanks Oui. I take it you've been thru this with your Grands.
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When teens visit, night-time cellphone rules are there for good reason. Continue reading
we have done the same thing as you--helped when it was needed and only when it was needed. Talking the issue over with our kids has helped keep a sense of balance. thanks for stopping by and sharing your approach.
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If we favor one child over another financially--even because one is needy and one is not--sibling rivalry can rear its ugly head and upset a family's balance. Continue reading
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When we find their old journals and letters, do we have the right to read them? Continue reading