I truly believe that the key is that they are your kids and you are their dad -- not stepkids and stepfather. That's how I was raised -- by my dad, not the person who's sperm was involved in my conception. And my husband thinks of my sons as his own. Someone told me once "it's not our job to raise good kids. It's our job to raise good adults." It sounds like you and Anne have done just that. Congratulations! And you have every right to be proud and to have that stuff in your eyes.