Jeff My wife and I had our first child with fertility help. When he was 2, we had twin boys also with help. My friend, clearly you understand what it takes to be a father. You have managed to express it here with astonishing clarity. I want you to know that when your twins show up, they will be adorable and they will immediately push you far beyond the bounds of your own sanity. When that day comes, I want you to email me and I will do what I can to help and give you some tips I learned from raising my own twins (they are 5 now). Congratulations to you and welcome to the world twins. You just leveled up. Big time. My email address is burkeholland at gmail dot com.

I think the point here is to quit talking and start building so you can go ahead and figure out where you screwed up sooner. Unless you are so awesome that you never screw up. In which case you shouldn't be writing code.