I, too, have many clients who "check up" on their significant other by checking on his or her facebook or myspace accounts, or on dating websites. Obviously there is a big difference in a one-time flirtatious myspace message and an active eHarmony account. There is nothing wrong with checking on these things. If you are in a committed relationship, you certainly have a right to know if your loved one is courting someone else. However, don't assume that every single status update or statement made is a personal message to you or a direct reflection of the condition of your relationship. Woman often have the need to feel cherished, adored, and supported, and there is nothing wrong with getting some on line adoration and support from friends. Men often have the need to be treated as strong and competent and there is nothing wrong with getting an online boost. If you find this happening, keep in mind that it is normal and healthy that you NOT be responsible for meeting all of your loved one's social needs. If you find that your loved one really is being disloyal or dishonest with you, that is another matter.

Reggie is right. Get those goals in writing then break those goals down into small steps. A goal without a time line isn't a goal, it is only a wish. Be realistic and flexible about your desired time frames, but have them on paper along side your listed desires. Using such a simple and proven method can allow anyone to take control of his or her career, finances, health and fitness, household, etc. It's important to view those small steps as real achievements - and to celebrate those achievements! Don't wait until the long term goal has been reached, celebrate every step taken toward it. That is what keeps momentum burning and sparks our motivation to continue and see those plans through to a successful end.

I couldn't agree more! We each must take responsibility for manifesting our dreams. I believe that the first step in doing that is to clearly define our dreams. Set realistic goals. A goal should be clearly defined and include at least a general time line. Goals without definition or time lines aren't really goals, they are only wishes. Now is a great time for getting those goals defined and planning for their manifestation, and not just because we are on the eve of a new year, but because the sooner you get started, the soon you succeed!

Great article! I have known a few of these energy zappers myself. Many of them have no idea of the effect they are having on others. I agree completely with what has been said about setting boundaries. I also try to remember that many of these people would not be doing this if they were spiritually healthy. Be compassionate, but firm.

That is awesome advice! It's one of the many reasons that a psychic can help. We are able to see the issues from different angles and see the potential outcomes. We can help callers to see past the framework in which the problem was created so that the caller can get on with living a healthy life.

I'm glad this topic was brought up as I have lately had several clients dealing with the similar issues - wanting a romantic relationship with someone who considers him / her a friend. I can tell you that it isn't just a Mars / Venus ordeal either. I have many clients from the LGBT community and they often face the same issues. No matter the orientation of the person in this situation, I am often asked, "Am I just wasting my time with this woman (or man)?" Anyone asking that question has made a huge assumption. He or she has assumed that the only reason for human interaction is to obtain a romantic commitment. The client often assumes that she or he will never be happy unless there is a romantic commitment - and soon! The result of this assumption can be very unhealthy. If you live with the assumption nothing but a quick romantic commitment will do, you may not develop a normal, healthy social network. You may find yourself isolated from family and friends. You may find that even people you work with and see on a daily basis keep their distance from you. If you find yourself in the above predicament, it may be time to challenge some assumptions that you might not have even realized you held. It may be that by operating from this assumption you have accidentally put pressure on your special someone that is keeping him / her from making the commitment that you are seeking. Building a social network is never a waste of time, but throwing a good friend or potential love away because there hasn't yet been a commitment, well that certainly is a waste of time.

I personally use no tools, however, I think that a quality psychic reading should be the goal and that a psychic should use whatever it takes to get that done. What always surprises me is when a client insists that I use a certain tool. For example, I have had callers insist that I use Tarot cards, which I will be glad to do, however there will be questions that I am unable to answer in detail when I use only Tarot cards since they are not my forte. It's a little like taking your car to shop and then telling the mechanic which tools he or she should use to fix it. Leave that to the mechanic!

One of the things I like to remind my callers is that our futures are not set in stone. Thank goodness they aren't, because then we would not have a chance to influence our own lives. You should never be embarrassed to have exercised your own free will - it is a sure sign that you are in control of your own life, and that is exactly as it should be. I agree with Gina Rose, simply keep in touch with your psychic to see how events and choices may have influenced the outcome... and don't overlook the importance of learning and growing from those decisions!