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I M Perfect
on the Sturgeon River
A Lady living her truth and sharing her experience.
Interests: Art Quilts, Art, Writing, Spirituality, Reading,
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Thanks Joan for all your thoughts. You are right on! And, even articulated this clearer than I. It is a puzzle, but I hope one that will create a lesson and clarity soon. I too hope that November is the point where we can start to rebalance.
Toggle Commented Oct 3, 2020 on The Loud Few at IMPERFECT Lady
Thank you for your words and your wisdom and calm. We can each influence those we love by our examples. And, they may some day look back and see more clearly where they were off.
Toggle Commented Sep 29, 2020 on The Loud Few at IMPERFECT Lady
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When I read in the paper - " the silent majority are just dying to speak up" - I thought how confused they are. The Silent Majority doesn't speak up. They don't go in parades that would show their sides. They are silent. Here is the definition of the Silent Majority. "The silent majority is an unspecified large group of people in a country or group who do not express their opinions publicly." When you are in a Trump train of vehicles - you have stepped out of the silent majority and have chosen a side. I am confused. By... Continue reading
Posted Sep 28, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
This is a self and world changing podcast by Brene Brown and Sonya Renee Taylor " The Body is not an Apology." If we could get this, the rest would fall into place. https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-with-sonya-renee-taylor-on-the-body-is-not-an-apology/ I will first write about this quote. There was a quote that moved about on Social Media, that was credited by Brene Brown, when it was actually Sonya Renee Taylor's. This idea is very thought producing. Not only as the whole of the US society, but of our individual lives. What I love about this idea is that what we have called normal, is often way... Continue reading
Posted Sep 18, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
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It always helps to hear others speak about their childhood abuse, the affects and what has been helpful. Yesterday I listened to Tim Ferriss Show Podcast. Tim Ferriss Show https://tim.blog/2020/09/14/how-to-heal-trauma/#more-52536 He affirmed much of what I know to be true, about how the body keeps the score, how you are dealing with the affects, whether consciously or not. Our inability to feel that which was done to us, rides with us unexpressed. It may come out in over the top rage at minor incidents and a multitude of expressions. What he is learning and sharing will help many - for... Continue reading
Posted Sep 16, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
Wow, that is so true too Joan, where we were set up to fear the new experiences and to embrace being a beginner - and being okay to start not knowing - but willing to learn. This is another huge part of us not living life - fully and finding joy in new things. I hope you try something new this year!
Toggle Commented Sep 14, 2020 on I did nothing. at IMPERFECT Lady
Ann, I hear you. This is how we began to separate ourselves from what we love to do - and we had no choice, we were kids - following the rules. And, in a large family there was plenty to always do. I love the idea of doing what we love - first - and then doing what sorta needs to be done. I am getting much better at playing first. Good for us!
Toggle Commented Sep 14, 2020 on I did nothing. at IMPERFECT Lady
Thanks Ann. I understand that the post was full, but it was all swirling around in my head space and I needed to sort it out. There is a legacy we all are born with and nurtured into, and then we find out if it is part of us or something we can outgrow or cast aside. I know I come from a train of women and that more women will follow me - and I also know there are traits we pick up and unconsciously pass down. There are also character flaws or character tendencies that have failed those before us and we have to work to dispose of. And, more I want there to be a time in life where you can stand alone. Just be the Me - who has honed and shaped your life into one that brings you love, peace and joy. Where you understand your beginnings, but they no longer impact your world. Like you said, there is a lot in this blog and I too will be sitting with this for a long while. Thanks
Toggle Commented Sep 14, 2020 on In the parade of life. at IMPERFECT Lady
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There are many different small pieces of myself I have been working on. The integration of my mother's image and mine. The lack of control of have of the next generation. Mostly just focusing on being a single me. Bringing my attention to what is mine to manage and to let go of what is not and creating more fully who I am. I get that we are part of a continuum - I am tagged to the woman above me as well as the women below me. Yet I am a single me. Becoming a single me has been... Continue reading
Posted Sep 12, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
Thanks Amy for your thoughts. I can see how unstructured time is a good thing. Yet you are filling it. Not just wanting to do nothing; but something with free time. Good for you. And good for letting go of perfection. I believe that idea has stolen way too many enjoyable lives. And, stopped many from trying new things or enjoying doing something "because it wasn't good enough'.
Toggle Commented Sep 2, 2020 on I did nothing. at IMPERFECT Lady
Thanks Judy, I do agree we strived for complete order - when chaos was much of what we had. And, then I guess we felt we would have order if everything was IN order. I appreciate your thoughts.
Toggle Commented Sep 2, 2020 on I did nothing. at IMPERFECT Lady
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I used to have a weird goal, to get to a place of nothing. To get everything done, so I could then do nothing. Doing nothing seemed to be a heaven of sorts, an idea of just being. Not in the spiritual sense of Being - but rather in a place of nothing nothing. In the land of nothing - there would be no demands, nothing to do, nowhere to go, and no one to be with with. Just doing nothing. This place or idea feels almost addictive. There is an un-natural thirst for doing nothing. What a waste of... Continue reading
Posted Sep 1, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
Joan, you would be a fun addition to our group! Any time you are in our area and WIND is on, come and join us! It has been a wonderful healing place - for Art and Nature do their part, and the friendships we have formed do the rest! I am glad our posts help others too. Maybe you can form. WIND group in Escanaba.
Toggle Commented Aug 27, 2020 on WIND at IMPERFECT Lady
Ann, we do have fun and you are always welcome! I too feel shocked it has been so long! And, yet it feels like it was always a part of me. We do have a great bunch of women! See you soon!
Toggle Commented Aug 27, 2020 on WIND at IMPERFECT Lady
Judy, what a fun group we are part of! I too feel so lucky to be part of it and how much fun, love and joy we have together! We sure have grown a lot in 8 years and will continue forward! Thanks for being a part of it and for being you!
Toggle Commented Aug 27, 2020 on WIND at IMPERFECT Lady
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I find it hard to believe that this week, WIND is 8 years old. Eight years of fun on Wednesday nights. Eight years of meeting new friends, learning new things and having fun experiences. Eight years of growing in places I didn't even know existed. Eight years of expanding into doing so much of what I love to do. Eight years to look back on all the fun and memories we shared! When WIND began, my idea was to have a place where women could come and be themselves and learn from other women who were further ahead on life's... Continue reading
Posted Aug 26, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
We are about the same age then, when we allowed our natural hair color to just be. I suppose many go through this - for sure. And, it another inside correction that will happen, if I stay the course. And, I will get used to my new look - eventually. And, it is weird that many do change the outside to fix the inside. I can see that. My outside changed and yet I feel the same inside - I just see someone else in the mirror. This too shall pass. I will work to own my look as mine! Thanks Joan, for your words.
Toggle Commented Aug 6, 2020 on To Be Alone at IMPERFECT Lady
Dawn, I am happy your reflection brings you comfort. Truly, that is the way it is supposed to be. I was just talking to a friend about if there was a difference in the grief of losing someone you love and being estranged. Where one you carry with you comfort and love. There is missing, but I miss what I didn't have. And, you miss what you did. What is shocking/weird/hard is that she has not been in my mirror for many years and now is back. I am sure time and me getting used to my look, will lessen her there. And, we parted in such a trauma inducing way, it is a trigger of sorts. Just one of the hurdles in the life of the estranged. I just wanted to share, so others who may feel this, feel less alone.
Toggle Commented Jul 27, 2020 on To Be Alone at IMPERFECT Lady
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Many years ago, I used to see my mother in my eyes. And, it caused me to not want to look into a mirror. I didn't see her image so much as her energy. It is hard to explain but I would catch a glimpse of my mother and it would freak me out; mostly because I didn't want to become her. During the pandemic, when they shut down the hair salons, I allowed my gray hair to come forth. It wasn't until I had it cut short, to go natural, did I realize how much like my mother I... Continue reading
Posted Jul 26, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
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What does your heart want - was a questioned posed on a podcast this week. I don't think we ask this of ourselves very much. We typically know what is expected of us, what others are doing, or not doing, but rarely do we just sit inquiring with our hearts. I have been riding along the route this week pondering this question. The first and most basic thought is, "I want others to be free to be their authentic self." My heart truly beats for others to listen to their own truths. And, to be courageous enough to voice what... Continue reading
Posted Jul 3, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
Ann, you are on the caring souls. I know you helped many acquire a mask and donated to the places you frequent. It just seems so silly that so many are not even trying, and worse are organizing a big Forth of July Celebration. His comment on the news source, was that we needed to celebrate our country, especially now, with the way things are going. He doesn't even realize he is a big part of the problem that is causing the divide. I did hear about the nursing home where your Mom is. It is real and there are many there who may not be able to live through the symptoms. The virus moves as it does - and only we can change how we move and what we do, in order to give all a chance. Again, we each are choosing what side of history to be on. Thank you for being a caring soul.
Toggle Commented Jun 30, 2020 on Caring Souls at IMPERFECT Lady
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On a podcast, it was suggested that we write about our experiences with Covid 19, so that we can remember how it was for us during this time, and the things that stand out or were a hardship, and even those that improved our lives. Some are even writing one sentence a day depicting your day. My experiences are as an 'essential worker' and I have kept on working. Not only working, but working harder than in 'normal' times. I am overwhelmed at work. First it was the fear and the unknown of the virus. Once I got used to... Continue reading
Posted Jun 29, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
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The estrangement between a parent and child goes against the gravitational pull of nature. In fact, anytime there is a breech in the contract of family, our systems will feel the pull and push with our emotions. I wish there was a simple and general response to estrangement, or what to do when a person feels that they are safer away from family than with it, but it is at the very least, complicated. Estrangement isn't an easy thing to accomplish. Nor, do I believe is it something that is taken lightly or made in moments of whim. It is... Continue reading
Posted Jun 21, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
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There is much going on in our world today, it overwhelms the mind, saddens the heart and hurts my soul. It is hard to find a thread to untangle my thoughts. Yet, it feels familiar in its circular unending beat. "Good People" doing evil deeds. And, the victims are being unseen, unheard and unacknowledged by the lack of change. The lack of change sets us up for a repeat performance. And, this is what beats us into depression, anger, rage and protests. There is no end in sight, NOTHING of great significance changes. When the root cause isn't dealt with,... Continue reading
Posted Jun 2, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady
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We - here in the UP - are just over 2 months into Social Distancing, and learning about a new virus, and the ways it has affected our world. It is new. We have never been here before. We are not good with new. We typically believe we know the future, based on the past. However, the future is just a guess. Perhaps an educated guess, but still a guess. We can't know much, when something is new. We are being asked to live in the space of uncertainty. Many of us act like we have never been here before.... Continue reading
Posted May 12, 2020 at IMPERFECT Lady