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I M Perfect
on the Sturgeon River
A Lady living her truth and sharing her experience.
Interests: Art Quilts, Art, Writing, Spirituality, Reading,
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I am reading her book "Between Two Kingdoms" - well listening to her read her book. I love the way she re-frames things in order for her to really live life. We often feel like there is a 'correct' way of being. And, that after life interrupting events, there is a 'normal' place that is waiting for us to arrive. What I know from experience, the quicker you can disregard the ideas of normal - or believing that you are 'supposed' to be this way or that, the quicker you will find a new stride. The new stride doesn't have... Continue reading
Posted 2 hours ago at IMPERFECT Lady
Yes Joan, we can lighten our loads and live more presently feeling a lighter sense of being. And, the process of grief isn't an easy journey, and it is for sure made heavier with anger and resentments. Learning what is yours to carry and what to drop and also which thoughts are true and easy to carry and which ones are harder to live with. All a process. Grief is love we carry - and we can decide how to live while doing it.
Toggle Commented May 22, 2021 on Inner energy at IMPERFECT Lady
Joan, I like your visual of the jigsaw puzzle and how we are not supposed to be finished; but rather evolve continually. I was just telling a friend this morning, that we are supposed to continue to expand our minds, to learn new things and see life just a bit differently as we grow. I don't ever want to be finished. And, there is a cost to capitulating with everyone. The resentments build and keeping your thoughts/beliefs and feelings inside, unexpressed, is a building a time bomb. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Toggle Commented May 16, 2021 on Freedom to be you at IMPERFECT Lady
One of the easiest and hardest things to do is be yourself. To be an individual and to live life from the inside out. To seemingly be immune to the good opinions of others. To find your lane and stick to it. To be relentlessly you, no matter how others trend into new and different ways. And, most importantly allow others to do the same. To live life outside of group mentality. I was raised in a religion that loved conformity and actually shunned those who didn't believe the same and see the world through similar eyes. Taught to leave... Continue reading
Posted May 10, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
"If you focus on what you have, you gain what you lack. And, if you focus on what lack, you lose what you have." Greg McKeown (on Tim Ferris's podcast) Greg and Tim were talking about gratitude - on being grateful for what is in our lives right now. Especially when things are not going according to plan. To not get swept up in the worst case scenario thoughts our minds love to play with. But instead to see, really see, what is in your lives in this moment in time. Right here, right now, as they are. In another... Continue reading
Posted Apr 24, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
Yes, feelings are feelings. None are better than any of them. We can learn from each. I loved this book. She explains how I was able to do what I did. I went with my insides. And, lots of the things I had believed and followed, were to be labeled good or to be accepted.
The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self by Martha Beck is a huge affirmation of my journey. Her definition of Integrity. "...the word comes from the Latin integer, which simply means "intact". To be in integrity is to be one thing, whole and undivided." I love that our true nature is to be intact. Here are a few highlights at the beginning of her book. "You're trying to act in ways that don't feel right to you at the deepest level. When ever we do this, our lives begin to go pear shaped. Emotionally, we feel... Continue reading
Posted Apr 20, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
My granddaughter asked me, "Grandma what is an heirloom?" We were going through some of her stuff and re-organizing her room. Our day then was spent looking at all the stuff in our house, with new eyes. Heirloom - "a valuable object that has belonged to a family for several generations." She wondered how things became heirlooms, and how others did not. There are things she sees value in that would not be classified as an heirloom. The juxtaposition was not lost on me, how one week I am getting rid of family art and the next weekend looking at... Continue reading
Posted Mar 30, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
Thanks for your thoughts Joan and sharing. I agree our taste does change and what brings us joy - and it is okay to pass art along. And, yes I too have lots of photographs in our house. The more we get rid of the more I can see what I truly want. And, it feels good to let go. I love you too.
Toggle Commented Mar 24, 2021 on When our hearts understand. at IMPERFECT Lady
Thanks Judy, perhaps it is as we get older we get bolder and do what pleases our souls. We no longer care to pretend otherwise. And it does feel good to let go and clear out. Our home is our sanctuary and it should be full of what we love and makes our hearts happy. Yes we dance or we trudge; but we keep moving forward.
Toggle Commented Mar 23, 2021 on When our hearts understand. at IMPERFECT Lady
As I cleaned my living room in preparation for some new to us furniture; I was very cognizant of what I do have in my home. What I am able to not only hang on - but what I love and what brings me good energy. This was a quick shot of my girls laughing together. I LOVE this picture. It is not so much the composition or the frame or the color etc - but the girls in the picture and the joy they have with each other. And, the free and easy connection I have with each of... Continue reading
Posted Mar 22, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
I was in a discussion last week with a few artists, and we were talking about doing art; but not Art that would be for sale. I always had this impression that if you did art - the next logical step was to sell Art. Especially when you did fabulous art. That doing art would lead to selling art and teaching art. That the circle of art, when done well, would lead to selling art. And, some may even believe you are not an artist, until you sell your art. What never occurred to me was that many do art... Continue reading
Posted Mar 22, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
Thanks Judy. It is true "Life is a series of Losses". Whether it be by death or relationships ending. My heart just doesn't want to know - it is over - and that there was nothing there worth saving. That in order for there to be a relationship, we would have to re-work the old into a completely new pattern. And, you are right, I do have new relationships and new family in the here and now. I am glad you didn't erase and shared your thoughts with me. Thank you for standing.
Toggle Commented Mar 22, 2021 on Cleaning Out the Past at IMPERFECT Lady
As I think of the de-cluttering I have to do in my basement, there are a few items that I struggle with. Art. That was given to me. By my estranged family. I don't believe there is a way to separate the art from the artist. It doesn't stand alone. The art includes the artist. And, can you separate the toxic from the person in art? I am inclined to burn. The art. And let it go. I also have albums and albums of pictures. Siblings I haven't seen in so many years. Memories now tainted. Can you distill the... Continue reading
Posted Mar 21, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
Dear Joan, I love you too. I also know that your love of your son will never leave you. That in itself is a comfort. You truly will carry it with you always. I am glad you are receiving the support and love as you traverse through this time of parting. Many strong women stand with you. You are not alone.
Toggle Commented Mar 8, 2021 on Sisterhood of friends at IMPERFECT Lady
What a beautiful friendship. It is so nice that you both get to spend time and lives together. And, it is an honor to be with someone as they near the finish line. Making memories to last a lifetime. How fun she is finding joy in the simple things today. I love that Mary Oliver line. Yes, what are our plans.
Toggle Commented Mar 5, 2021 on Sisterhood of friends at IMPERFECT Lady
We miss the chatting during our Creative times - when we were all in the same room. Soon, we can meet and visit more!
Toggle Commented Mar 4, 2021 on Sisterhood of friends at IMPERFECT Lady
I have been having cravings for deeper friendships - feeling like I was missing a piece of life - when I realized, what I am actually missing are friend dates. Times where you can sit and just visit. Whether it is over a cup of tea, a meal or just visiting in person in a home. Shared close times with friends - where we could explore many different topics, share our lives and experiences, our dreams. Getting to know each other in new ways. During the past many months, I have been able to meet with many outside. We have... Continue reading
Posted Mar 4, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
As I was falling asleep last night, I thought of the hearts of so many strong women I know. The sheer strength of the love it holds; and more the heartache. It is remarkable to me how we can walk and breathe and live all the while with a beating broken heart. And, that beating broken hearts can continue to love and feel joy. That they dare love, and live on. The longer we live, the more chance there is for experiencing and witnessing the breaking hearts of our family and friends. We fear a broken heart. I sat with... Continue reading
Posted Mar 3, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
"Therapy is about grief; the grief of what didn't happen." Edith Eger I heard this on a podcast yesterday with Brene Brown and Edith. When you look at your traumas this way, and how you navigate through them, it makes more sense that we are grieving what didn't happen. What didn't happen after. What others didn't do. What we won't be able to do. There are huge volumes of loss that ripple away from the original trauma. What didn't happen to me is a huge hole of sadness. When you are in a family, there are many things you take... Continue reading
Posted Feb 26, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
In my experience - following what my heart and what I knew was right for me has brought me peace inside. It isn't easy to be a free thinker - coming from a religion where we all were taught to think alike. And, I discovered that much I was taught, was incorrect. In leaving, I found, a new self and saw the world with new eyes. I became a friend to myself and learned to love me. It is sad on many levels, that others are thinking - but unable to take a stand. That is a hard life to think and believe one way, and to act completely different. Thanks again for sharing.
Toggle Commented Feb 9, 2021 on Our History at IMPERFECT Lady
Thank you for sharing. I too, am sorry for your experiences. I know what it feels like to feel on the outside or to be inside and no longer fit in. And, I too understand how it feels to be misunderstood when trying to help educate, or inform. Mostly we are teaching ourselves. It is hard to comprehend how they are abiding by so many church rules and then unable to follow a simple one. Each of us has to do what feels right inside. I am glad you are following your heart. This pandemic will be life changing - and it will not change things for the better for some - it will put them in a bad light. Thanks for being you.
Toggle Commented Feb 7, 2021 on Our History at IMPERFECT Lady
Here is a link to a podcast I listened to with Adam Grant and his new book "Rethink" with Dax Shepard. It is long, but interesting in how we as humanity engage with each other. We all need to take a moment to consider just how much we know. And, how much we don't know. Imagine how much of life there is still to explore and learn about. And, can anyone truly know it all. Even when they act like they do. He suggested that those on either ends of the spectrum of extremism know less - not more. Which... Continue reading
Posted Feb 5, 2021 at IMPERFECT Lady
Dawn, I am sorry you feel that silence is your safest way to be - for now. It is not easy to see the ideals friends have - and wonder about commonality after this. The difference between the two sides are so far apart, there doesn't seem to be a bridge between them. However, I guess that is our task, to find one. You will find the words - if you wait for the right ones to come to you.
Toggle Commented Jan 22, 2021 on Our History at IMPERFECT Lady
Thanks again for your words Joan. I have never seen this church so political and in support of a leader as they are with Trump. And, it seems that he would be the opposite of what they would stand for - and it isn't just the First App, it is other even stricter religions. And, it is true about not being able to question or to be discerned - or to stand out differently; they are easily led. All in all, I hope this is a wake up call - and that there are consequences for those who did wrong.
Toggle Commented Jan 12, 2021 on Our History at IMPERFECT Lady