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Video games are popular with teens for many reasons. The stimulation of the game and fun is exciting for teens. And teens who struggle with social interactions feel some degree of mastery when they play these games – often retreating into their own little world in which they do have mastery. But how do these games do anything to our teen's brains that we should have concerns about at times? Some studies have suggested that watching these games can cause problems with how a teen's brain regulates certain chemicals related to attention and focus. This is especially important in those... Continue »
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Today I was talking to a teenager who has not been going to school regularly. She started talking to me about her day when she skips school. In talking to her, she discussed how school is "boring." After further discussion, she told me that I did not understand that "everything I do is supposed to be fun." What has happened with our teens? I find that many of them see work as something "horrible" to do. Of course, I don't think any of us remember enjoying schoolwork, studying, and chores. Or do we? I have distinct memories of some chores... Continue »
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Parents have been calling me to tell me there is a crisis with their teen now that school has started. This usually starts later in the first six weeks but this year it seems to be happening sooner. So, what should you do when you feel your teenager is having a crisis? This is when those stellar listening skills really take center stage. Ask him or her to tell you what has happened and how it is making them feel. How are they reacting? How is this impacting them at school, at home and in their social life? Ask the... Continue »
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The spirit of the holiday season is here. Christmas is two weeks from today! The family weekend challenge is to talk with your teen about something your family does to help others at holiday time. If you don't volunteer in some way, talk with your teen about something your family can do to help others at this time of year. You and your teen will feel the true spirit of the season. Dr. Debra Continue »
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How do we talk with our teens about sex? Yesterday I wrote about the emotional effects of sex on young teens. The impact of having sex a a young age can have a strong negative impact on her development and self-esteem. But do we ever discuss this aspect of sex with our teens? via parentingwithallthepieces.typepad.com Continue »
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How do we talk with our teens about sex? Yesterday I wrote about the emotional effects of sex on young teens. The impact of having sex a a young age can have a strong negative impact on her development and self-esteem. But do we ever discuss this aspect of sex with our teens? I think that for most of us it is hard to even talk about the basics of sexuality. As parents we know we are the people ultimately responsibility for making sure our teens know the mechanics of sex and the risks involved - pregnancy and disease. And... Continue »
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This title grabs the attention of every parent with a teenager. We worry about our child becoming sexually active before he or she is ready for this and all the possible consequences. The obvious concerns include pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease. But what about the other consequences which can have potential life-changing effects on our teen? I am talking about the impact on your teen's emotional development and sense of self. Adolescence is the time in which identity formation is the major developmental task. Having sexual intimacy with someone before you are clear about who you are and what is... Continue »
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A few lessons that a life on a farm can teach you. Often the hard way. Continue »