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Kaye-Lee Pantony
Kingston, Ontario, Canada
Artist and Psychotherapist, Hon.B.A., M.Ed., Ph.D. (ABD). I offer individual, couple and family counselling as well as Skype counselling, workshops and ecourses. You can reach me at 613 547-8114 or [email protected] or go to
Interests: Expanding, Creating, Learning, Playing, Laughing, Guiding... I am an artist by nature and a psychotherapist by trade. I have been working as a therapist since the early 90s. I believe that most often people already have the basic mental health tools they need to feel well, they just need help to both see that and learn how to apply them. Psychotherapy is a form of therapy based on talking with a professional about anything from general discomfort in life to anxiety, depression, couple, parenting or historic issues. There are many different things that bring someone into therapy. Sometimes people feel they just aren’t coping or a family member or other professional has suggested that they see someone. All topics are acceptable although some therapist specialize in certain issues. Many different types of professionals practice psychotherapy. In my case I have over 10 years of post-secondary education from two major universities. My main area of study was psychology. Within this discipline I studied human behaviour, emotion and social interaction. When a client comes into a session with me I ask them to share their reason for coming into therapy as well as their background. I do this because I believe it is important see people in the context of their entire lives, not just a momentary snap shot. When I have a sense of history I can often see patterns of behaviour that explain why someone is in the situation they came in with. I can also help them identify the tools that they already possess. If you are seeking psychotherapy it is important that you feel accepted and heard by your therapist. You should leave your therapy appointment feeling like you got something out of it. This may be some insight or some resources to further understand your situation or just a sense that someone actively listened to you.
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I miss my mom. We were very close. She had a strong presences in my life. She passed away Dec 9, 2019. She went suddenly and she took us all by surprise. Strangely enough, I had been preparing for her passing since my father passed away 4 years earlier. What... Continue reading
Posted Mar 18, 2020 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
Sitting at my mom's desk in her room just before 9:00 a.m. this December morning, the view is breathtaking. There is just a light dusting of snow. The bay area is drier then usual with a thin coat of ice across the mid-section and towards the edges on both sides.... Continue reading
Posted Dec 14, 2016 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
When we feel agitated generally speaking we have probably gotten hooked by something. Some situation we find ourselves in makes us feel stuck or frustrated. Maybe it is a person we have had to deal with who just gets our blood boiling, so to speak. Every time we think about... Continue reading
Posted Oct 19, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
September 27 2015 we got to witness a sight that hasn't be here since 1982 and won't be back until 2033, the Super Blood Moon solar eclipse. In this time of speed and lack of novelty the blood moon stopped a lot of people in their tracks. Patience and stillness... Continue reading
Posted Sep 29, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
We all know when someone has listened to us because we generally feel calmer and in a way satisfied. We may not have resolved our issues or reached any great insight but there is comfort in knowing that someone else understands our struggles. Often we aren't looking for someone to... Continue reading
Posted Sep 1, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
What is it that turtles know that we seem to be missing? I think they get the importance of connection. Clearly they seem to believe that you can't have too many turtles on one rock as this picture indicates. By contrast in North American culture we are inclined to want... Continue reading
Posted Jul 16, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
Energy is that stuff we talk about every day. "I have no energy for so and so. I felt energized by such and such. I have so little energy these days I don't know what is going on." We all know that we do or don't have enough of it... Continue reading
Posted Jun 19, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
It is easy to get all caught up in life's busyness. There is always so much to do. We have bills to pay, appointments to keep, people to get back to. Our email, phone messages, texts never stop demanding our attention. All these wonderful ways of staying in touch and... Continue reading
Posted May 25, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
I have been trying to write a post about mindfulness but I haven't been able to be very mindful. Mindfulness requires time and attention to the moment, the task at hand. In our speedy world most of us are trying to multi-task or are focused on what we have to... Continue reading
Posted Apr 28, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
Why reflect on ourselves? We examine our imperfections not so we can berate ourselves but instead so that we can cut through the confusion that arises in our lives. Let's face it life is confusing. Just when you think you have it all figured out something comes along to remind... Continue reading
Posted Mar 31, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
It can be in our imperfections that we find the ingredients to work with in terms of our growth. What better place to see our imperfections then in the eyes of those closest to us. We are often reminded of how we have messed up or failed to perform in... Continue reading
Posted Mar 23, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
When we think of signs we tend to think of things that come to us from the outside world. However, there are signs from the inside that are just as important. These are signs that tell us about ourselves. They let us know how we are doing. Far too often... Continue reading
Posted Mar 6, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
Silly humans we are always looking for life's messages to be this clear. Wouldn't if be nice if we had sign posts that showed up on our bumpy life journey that were as explicit as this traffic on the beach sign. All too often we walk with our heads down... Continue reading
Posted Mar 2, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
I think we can all agree that loss is something we tend to try to avoid. However, it finds us no matter where we hide. Loss is one of those facts of life like taxes. Hate it we might but it is a reality. What do we do with this... Continue reading
Posted Feb 6, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
What does it mean to be less self-absorbed? Self-absorption is a preoccupation with our own needs, interests, feelings and so on. When we are self-absorbed we spend a large amount of time thinking about ourselves. It is not unusual to be self-absorbed when we are in physical pain. For instance,... Continue reading
Posted Feb 1, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
It is important to ask ourselves what would support us to stay in the flow of life, according to Pema Chodron. We know we are there when we have that easy feeling that we are on top of things or able to roll with the punches so to speak. We... Continue reading
Posted Jan 22, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
We talk about how it is healthy to go with the flow and be open to change. However, it is easy to be open and go with the flow in ideal circumstances. But how do we stay open when we get hit with one challenge right after another? Typically, when... Continue reading
Posted Jan 13, 2015 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
As Fall recedes and winter starts to show it's true colours it is easy to see impermanence. Nature shows us all the time that change is inevitable. However, most of us are in denial about change. We act surprised when the snow arrives like we weren't expecting it. That is... Continue reading
Posted Nov 25, 2014 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
It occurred to me recently that we could apply the concept of vastness to our relationships with others. We often feel frustrated with people close to us. We get caught up in conflicts with them that we just don't seem to be able to get over. These are often the... Continue reading
Posted Oct 22, 2014 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
It is interesting to note that nature isn’t stingy. In nature we see an abundance of sights, sounds, textures and aromas. Just look up at a night sky and try to count the stars. Look into the depths of the ocean with its countless number of plants and animal life.... Continue reading
Posted Sep 29, 2014 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
As anyone who enjoys the woods knows the Canadian wilderness is vast. In fact, there is vastness around us everywhere all the time. However, we too often get all caught up in the small details of our lives and forget to see the big picture. Why is it so hard... Continue reading
Posted Aug 28, 2014 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
In this time of abundance "less of me" is not what we usually hear. Most of us are busy acquiring more and more stuff including knowledge and gadgets. We have a mentality of more is better. In our consumer culture we are encouraged to get yet another cell phone, ipad,... Continue reading
Posted Jul 29, 2014 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
I spent a quite day alone in the woods and was treated to the sight and sounds of owls. I sat on the deck and heard a "hooting" and soon realized that there was a response from another bird. It wasn't a hoot but it was definitely an answer back.... Continue reading
Posted Jun 23, 2014 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
Vastness is wide open space, horizons that stretch beyond our sight line, wilderness that envelopes our senses, stars shining in an inky black sky. We all know vastness when we experience it. When I was a kid summer vacation seemed vast. I remember feeling that those two months were like... Continue reading
Posted Jun 9, 2014 at Kaye-Lee Pantony
After being sick for several weeks I was forced to reflect. I recognized that I did not want to go back to the pace I had been doing before I got sick. I know that I was juggling a lot but just didn’t know which ball I could drop so... Continue reading
Posted May 29, 2014 at Kaye-Lee Pantony