I did not read every comment so excuse me if I am repeating. The Foreign Policy author is one Paula Broadwell, a reserve army major. Note that she is traveling around visiting her old West Point buddies. So, she's just another cog in the military machine. Notice also how she characterizes the man who says his life has been ruined as being theatrical. My brother spent five years in Afg and is sickened by the whole episode, as any normal human being would.