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Kristin L. Roush, Ph.D.
Albuquerque, New Mexico
Motto of my private practice: "There is pain in change and there is pain in staying the same. Pick the one that moves you forward."
Interests: woodturning, backpacking, working out at the gym, watching favorite TV shows, reading Scientific American - Mind magazine, walking the dogs, community emergency preparedness, reading at Starbucks
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"They tore me from my mother’s arms and put me all alone in this cage – I can’t breathe" Continue reading
Posted Jul 22, 2020 at Moved and Shaken!
“OK, back to mindfulness. What am I feeling? Get back in this moment. Focus on the inhale, then focus on the --- hey, wait, I haven’t exhaled at all in the last 10 minutes! Quick, exhale! Oh, and focus on it! This moment sucks. Stop judging this moment. That last moment is already gone, so get back into this one. Well, this one sucks, too. It’s all ok; in the great cosmic scheme of things, this is just another thing, another life experience. Accept what is. No aversion. OK, but now I am averse to being in aversion. I can’t win.” Continue reading
Posted Jan 16, 2018 at Moved and Shaken!
Dear Mr. Marriott, My name is Kris Roush. I am one of the children of R. D. "Skip" Roush (89). I am so sorry to have to share the news of my father's death this morning. As you know, he was one of Marriott's early pioneers with you and your father. You hired him in Arlington, VA. I learned to swim at age 7 at the Key Bridge hotel. Dad went to Philadelphia, and then opened the St. Louis hotel and then to Denver. You probably don't remember that you and I played tennis in St. Louis when I played on my high school tennis team - around 1972-73. Dad so treasured the note you sent five years ago when my mother, Mary passed away. I have teased my dad because to this day, he has a framed 8x10 photo of you on his dresser and the photo of my mom is only a 5x7! My dad died while living at La Posada, a lovely retirement community in Green Valley, AZ. We will have a simple ceremony this Friday, May 20 at 3:00 pm. We will be displaying your framed photo on the Memory Table. My sister recently found on E-Bay an actual Room Service menu from the 1964 Philadelphia Marriott and we even found the album by the Richie Moore Trio singing "Yellow Bird." It was fun to see the photos of the Sirloin Saddle and The Kona Kai restaurants. Marriott holds a special place in the hearts of all of us kids. We now range in age from 64 - 57. We all have Marriott memorabilia in our homes. Anyway, I know that dad would want you to know how much he loved your father and mother, and how he had such fondness and respect for you. Thank you from all the Roush children. Marriott's values were instilled in my dad and he passed those on to us. Sincerely yours, Kris Roush Albuquerque, NM (505) 463-8628
"The “I” that IS love, loves the “I” that is loved. I am love. Where I move, love moves. Where I sit, love sits. Where I walk, love walks. Where I am, there love is, because there I am. I am my own beloved." Continue reading
Posted Apr 23, 2017 at Moved and Shaken!
I am one of the millions of women, Democrats and Republicans both, who last night wept tears of joy and somber gratitude, our chests heaving with the exhales of our exhausted ancestors who fought for - and finally won - our legitimate place in American history. May we never forget. Continue reading
Posted Jul 29, 2016 at Moved and Shaken!
Hi Mike, Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. It means alot to me. I am also so glad you found something helpful in this post. Big hug and best wishes!
Thank you, Cindy, for taking the time to post a comment. It is great to hear from you, especially since we haven't seen each other in a hundred years. I really appreciate your input from the perspective of a leader and as one who supervises other professionals. By the way, you are so articulate. Let me know if you would ever like to be a guest writer for a post. Yes, our sense of who we are and our place in the larger context is essential for our emotional intelligence, peak performance, and overall life satisfaction. Self esteem. Get some. Now.
You will give away your power. You will compromise your standards in order to ensure approval from others (this is the very definition of codependency). Weeks and months and years of doing this will stockpile your anger, which, when left unrecognized and un-addressed, will morph into resentment which will turn into bitterness, which will become cynicism. Then you will become the mean old man on the block who yells at the kids and throws rocks at the birds. Continue reading
Posted Jan 16, 2016 at Moved and Shaken!
Do You Suffer from pTSD? There is a new diagnostic category called pre Traumatic Stress Disorder. It refers to the experience of anxiety caused by events that are imagined and have not yet happened. This disorder is characterized by intrusive catastrophic thoughts of the world coming to an end and the persistent belief that your entire self-worth depends on your stellar performance in everything that you do. Continue reading
Posted Jul 1, 2015 at Moved and Shaken!
"...I will let you touch me. What I mean is that I will allow my heart to be open to experiencing my feelings. I will not close off my heart to you; I have decided not to be a calculated technician. I will gladly lend you some of my heart as I tend to you and treat you with compassion. I bring to you all of me. And, when I leave you, I will take all of me." Continue reading
Posted Mar 18, 2015 at Moved and Shaken!
Hi Mike, Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. I can really see the value of not glossing over our pain. And then, after being with it and honoring our pain, it won't let go of us until we let go of it. Counter affirmations are not going to cut it. Thanks again, Mike.
Hi Mary, Hey, thank you so much! I am taking an online Mindfulness course at CNM, facilitated by my wonderful friend, Beth Giebus-Chavez. This post was taken from my journal entry after watching the TED Talk video. I really resonate with self-compassion as the "new self-esteem." I want to present on this topic. It's definitely one of the banners I am meant to carry this lifetime. And thank you for sharing this post on your Facebook site. That really helps to ge the word out. Fondly, Kris
"Befriend the enemy and lo, there are only friends in your midst." "The same principle applies when I say, "What is learned at an emotional level cannot be unlearned at a cognitive level." You can't just throw flowery affirmations at a deeply wounded soul and expect it to just bounce back as if it was all just an unfortunate misunderstanding. Only love, ie, Self-Compassion, can soften, in time, the hard crusted scars of the wounded child in each of us. You only insult the pain further by presuming to "positively affirm" it away." Continue reading
Posted Feb 15, 2015 at Moved and Shaken!
Last year, when I wrote this post, I said that the first day of the Fall semester was like Christmas morning, because I got to come down the stairs five different times to see the presents under the tree with each of my new classes. This morning, as I contemplate... Continue reading
Posted Aug 25, 2014 at Moved and Shaken!
"So, I decided to start menopause at the age of 35. I liked what I saw and I wanted some of it. I got a jump on all that self-empowerment. I decided to start even before the hormone changes started. I figured when I hit 50, I'd get to be a gifted student for the first time in my life. I found out that parents aren't the only ones who get to use the phrase, "because I said so." It's a very freeing thing to say. Try it right now, "because I said so." Nice, huh?" Continue reading
Posted Aug 10, 2014 at Moved and Shaken!
Thanks so much, Mike. I am glad that that was a main "take away" for you. Me, too. Now that I have gone through grief a few times, I am much more conscious of my choice to open my heart - again - and to know that someday, I will most likely be paying this price again. I now knowingly and glady accept those terms. The alternative is to close my heart, and shrivel up and die myself...
Toggle Commented Aug 4, 2014 on Mindful Grieving at Moved and Shaken!
"Let your grief move through you. Notice it and respect its own wisdom to move beyond you. Do not insult your grief by clinging to it or identifying with it. It knows its rightful place is merely to touch you, like the alight of a butterfly upon your shoulder. Grief is the ecstatic reminder that you have loved. Take comfort, even joy in the knowledge that you have fulfilled the purpose of your life, that you have willingly paid the price of deep love with the currency of deep pain. Perhaps you will even love again in your life because, having now come full circle, your healing teaches you that the pain of loss is the bittersweet affirmation of your highest accompllishment: you loved. Do just these three things today: notice..... accept..... release....." Continue reading
Posted Jul 28, 2014 at Moved and Shaken!
Hi Cheryl, That's very sweet, Cheryl - and a little prophetic. I was just thinking about applying to present my blog post, "I'm Codependent and Damn Proud of It!" at the next TEDX New Mexico. I don't know, Popejoy Hall would be pretty intimidating! :)
Hi Mary, You have known me for 28 years - 10 years before I started teaching at TVI/CNM. Your perspective means alot to me and so, I am particularly touched by your words. Thank you, Mary, for seeing me.
Hi Renee, So nice to hear from you (a former student). Thanks so much; you're very kind. I hope you are doing well and our paths cross again. :)
Hi Marcy, Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I agree. Your many years as a professor in higher education have given you a vantage point that I respect very much. It is inspiring to know a higher education faculty member who is retiring soon without the slightest hint of burnout. I suspect that an attitude of love toward our students feeds us as well as them.
I think it's only fair that someone tells you that over 400 of us got together this past Friday and we talked about you all day long. Yes, we did. We plotted to do this a year ago. We rented out the Albuquerque Convention Center downtown for the Second Annual... Continue reading
Posted Feb 24, 2014 at Moved and Shaken!
I appreciate what you are saying about being in touch with our true motivations and that, after the giving, more clarity is possible based on your feelings. I was confused by your putting codependency in parentheses after the word "compassion," as though you are equating the two. Maybe that's not what you meant by the parentheses. Thanks for the comment!
OK, so I may have gotten your attention with that post title. Today, I want to share with you a nuance about co-dependency that will explain my rather unconventional assertion. Certainly, I believe that co-dependency exists. Even though you don't hear about it much in the self-help world anymore, it... Continue reading
Posted Feb 5, 2014 at Moved and Shaken!
It's the first day of the semester. Welcome! And congratulations on your good judgement in choosing to take Intro to Psychology. If this is your first semester of post-secondary education (that means "college"), then a particularly hearty welcome to you! I am sure that my faculty colleagues join me in... Continue reading
Posted Jan 5, 2014 at Moved and Shaken!