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Interests: writing, creativity, parenting, psychology, self-development, health, sewing, crafts, quilting, yoga
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What are your strengths and weaknesses as a parent? I think there are some things I am (usually) 'good' at - both as a parent and a person - and some things I've been struggling with all my life. In Steve Biddulph's amazingly comprehensive book, The Complete Secrets of Happy... Continue reading
Posted Sep 8, 2016 at The Writing Parent
Britain's decision to leave the EU- aka Brexit- has cut across all other rational thought processes for the last 10 days. The shock re-hits me first thing in the morning upon awakening; it lingers at bedtime, when a sense of trust is needed to allow the semi-conscious body to relax... Continue reading
Posted Jul 4, 2016 at The Writing Parent
"In my experience, what interferes most strongly with a parent's wisdom in [the area of their children's social lives] are the painful memories from his or her own childhood. We all wish we could save our children from the pain we experienced, and at the same time we do not... Continue reading
Posted Jun 9, 2016 at The Writing Parent
A solitary magpie has been hopping about my front lawn the past couple of days. Of course, I am much too modern and rational to be superstitious about magpies. I am a positivist: I believe our attitudes create our reality. Buzz off, Sorrow! I say. You are but a perspective,... Continue reading
Posted May 13, 2016 at The Writing Parent
We were at dinner, discussing curry and popadoms, school outings and pottery classes, when my oldest said: "There aren't many things that you can know absolutely for sure, are there? I mean, most things we 'know' are just what people THINK." Ah, the subjectivity of knowledge, that old chesnut. His... Continue reading
Posted May 5, 2016 at The Writing Parent
"The separation of the individual, as he grows up, from the authority of his parents is one of the most necessary achievements of his development, yet at the same time one of the most painful. It is absolutely necessary for it to take place, and we may presume that it... Continue reading
Posted May 4, 2016 at The Writing Parent
I keep thinking of the wisdom in this video. It's a singing class but, as with all profound advice, the same lessons can be transferred across many branches of life. "Don't recreate what just worked... Analyse the PROCESS you went through to create that result.... Continue to open... open, open....... Continue reading
Posted Apr 22, 2016 at The Writing Parent
I was in my 11-year-old son's bed having a bedtime cuddle. I get stuck there sometimes, because it's so warm and comfy at the end of the day, and he lies so still and thoughtful that I go off into my own evening dreams. I was thinking about painting furniture.... Continue reading
Posted Apr 12, 2016 at The Writing Parent
“To be mature you have to realize what you value most. It is extraordinary to discover that comparatively few people reach this level of maturity. They seem never to have paused to consider what has value for them. They spend great effort and sometimes make great sacrifices for values that,... Continue reading
Posted Mar 31, 2016 at The Writing Parent
I am aware of a gentle flowing of positive progress [Julia Hubbs and Nora Monaco] This is one of my favourite affirmations, because it reminds me to take a moment to stop and notice the gentle progress I may have neglected in the daily rush of life. In the midst... Continue reading
Posted Mar 29, 2016 at The Writing Parent
In her TED talk, Chimamanda Adichie discusses the danger of a single story. We can't understand any one particular issue if we only listen to one narrative. It has been International Women's Day, and there has been a lot in the press about gender pay gaps, and so on. I've... Continue reading
Posted Mar 15, 2016 at The Writing Parent
When my first baby came, I received a card with some advice from a new friend who had an older baby: "Whatever you feel, at this point, is NORMAL." She had been through the turbulence of early parenthood and would have loved to have known that herself at the time.... Continue reading
Posted Mar 9, 2016 at The Writing Parent
"Growth mindset is about learning from mistakes and unlocking potential." Jim Knight, TES I didn't do well on the 'growth mindset' front this Monday morning gone. 8.23am, over breakfast, my son told me he needed his English notebook, which he'd taken away on half-term holiday to France, ostensibly to do... Continue reading
Posted Feb 29, 2016 at The Writing Parent
10 years ago in Denmark, I taught a father of 3 in his 50’s who had been part of the 'Freetown' of Christiania (an area of Copenhagen) in the 1970s, but had gone on to be a “respectable” middle-class kind of family man, with a suburban house and a job... Continue reading
Posted Feb 23, 2016 at The Writing Parent
'Tell us the story,' the children say. 'Which one?' I ask. 'The tiger one.' Alright. My father is a human but my mother is a tiger. Her colouring is remarkable. Dark brown, almost black-ish, with tiger stripes showing through her under-carriage, so she looks permanently like a tiger in the... Continue reading
Posted Feb 15, 2016 at The Writing Parent
What is your greatest fear as a parent? Are they the same thing, or different? (My greatest fear, I think, - or one of them, at least - is seriously harming my kids in some way. So, for me, my greatest fear and my greatest parenting fear are the same).... Continue reading
Posted Feb 15, 2016 at The Writing Parent
Betcha they're young Betcha they're smart Bet they collect things Like ashtrays, and art. ("Maybe" from the musical Annie) I've been thinking about perfectionism in parenting, and wondering how perfectly to express what I want to say. So much so, that I got stuck, and couldn't say anything for 2... Continue reading
Posted Feb 3, 2016 at The Writing Parent
When I was a younger woman, I thought I was going to make SUCH a good mother. I was so patient! Tolerant! No troubles controlling my temper. Besides, I knew so much about babies! Didn't I have a brother who was 8 years younger than me? Didn't I know how... Continue reading
Posted Jan 17, 2016 at The Writing Parent
Does your daily routine make you HAPPY? I ask this because, just before Christmas, I realised that, while I have many things in my life that make me happy and for which I am deeply thankful (my family, my friends, our home), what was NOT making me happy was: my... Continue reading
Posted Jan 7, 2016 at The Writing Parent
Ooh, they were cross this morning. Like baby tigers. One of them 'pushed me with her foot' as I was trying to help her dress. The other scowled all the way to school and shouted how unfair teachers are. I couldn't help feeling that I was the messenger, being shot... Continue reading
Posted Jan 5, 2016 at The Writing Parent
Last week I wrote a post on loneliness. It got me thinking about what loneliness actually IS. I mean the feeling - how would you describe it? Is it simply a craving for company, or is it a craving for something else? A LACK of something - a lack of... Continue reading
Posted Dec 29, 2015 at The Writing Parent
You know the Mother 'Hood video about the different groups of parents in the park - yoga mums, career mums, stay-at-home dads etc. - who are all having a pop at each other, until a crisis occurs and they band together to try to prevent it? (If you haven't, see... Continue reading
Posted Dec 21, 2015 at The Writing Parent
[A mother comes into her child's room, where she is supposed to be clearing up her toys before bedtime, and finds her taking toys out to play with.] Mother: What are you doing?! Child: [Apologetically] I get easily distracted. Mother: Yes, very easily distracted. Child: It's the way I am,... Continue reading
Posted Dec 13, 2015 at The Writing Parent
I've been going nuts and needing your help. I've been having problems with the MORNINGS. I'm not a morning person. I come from a family of people who will fall asleep on the carpet in front of the TV at 2am instead of going to bed (we see you, Uncle... Continue reading
Posted Dec 5, 2015 at The Writing Parent
My friend Laura sent me some photos of the wedding quilt I made her and her husband back in October. Here is the quilt in situ - very pleasing to see! The memo, which Laura and her then-fiancé (now husband!) chose, was soft greys, white and duck egg blues. It... Continue reading
Posted Nov 27, 2015 at The Writing Parent