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The LoveMore Institute
Charlottesville Virginia
More, Greater, and Fulfilling Experiences of Love in Life, Work and Relationships
Interests: “The beginning of Love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them” - Thomas Merton
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AWE... Here is my response to this article. Today I read an article by the creator of a writing course I am taking called 100 Days to Write a Book. His article poked me a bit to help put a better word to why I do what I do every day, and why I want to share this with others. Simply said, it is the experience of awe. I used to called it enthusiasm, but that word is so mundane to me now since it barely expressing my “why” and my “what” I experience daily. Yes, daily. Continue reading
Reblogged Sep 12, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
It is a bold move these days to be a naysayer, to go against the crowd, or even god forbid, offend anyone's sense of appropriateness, but here is one of those 'offending' voices telling us just what we don't want to hear - or at least many of us don't want to hear. And that by stopping this popular practice or reducing this activity somewhat can enhance your life. Shocking! Simple? Yes. Easy? Not so. Continue reading
Reblogged Sep 3, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
The question that has been around perhaps since history began is, how much is enough? This should be on top of each of our lists, because without an answer, we may end up working at unfulfilling jobs, doing unfulfilling work, and buying unfulfilling things. Then donating these unfulfilling things to Goodwill or other organizations that turn them into good and fulfilling things such as helping others. This may be good, but is it the best we can do as humans? Some of us will read this and say, "way to go Waltons and others on the list". Others of us may feel jealousy, anger, disgust, or perhaps worse, nothing at all. Yet if we just read this and do nothing, the ink is wasted. Not that we need to protest at Walmart, though some may choose this, but to look at our own lives and consider how we want to live and how we want to influence our families, children, communities and yes, the world. Continue reading
Reblogged Aug 13, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
Jessica Minahan, MEd, BCBA, is a licensed and board-certified behavior analyst, special educator, doctoral student, as well as a consultant to schools ( Jessica has over seventeen years of experience supporting students who exhibit challenging behavior in urban public school systems. She is the co-author of The Behavior Code: A Practical Guide to Understanding and Teaching the Most Challenging Students (Harvard Education Press, 2012) and author of The Behavior Code Companion: Strategies, Tools, and Interventions for Supporting Students with Anxiety-Related or Oppositional Behaviors (Harvard Education Press, 2014). Continue reading
Reblogged Jul 30, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
I see people read daily devotionals, say something about how great it is, then put the book down, and "get back to life." This is much like watching a movie trailer and thinking you just saw the movie. For words to really stir in us the wonder, the curiosity, and taste of the dimensions they invite us to, we must abandon our quick read of things and begin to digest the full impact. Thus the reason for the forthcoming book 365 Days of Parenting Inspirations: A Year-Long Journey into Parenting and Love. More on this another time. Continue reading
Posted Jul 8, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
We must remember to take, make, and create the time to love, nurture, and train our most precious resource. We all know this. The problem is when we are so often in a state of survival, we don't see our children as a treasured resource. We see them as a... Continue reading
Posted Jul 5, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
The environment you create for your child is one that encompasses their emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual well-being, however you define it. You hold considerable responsibility for ensuring ongoing optimal development. Is it filled with stress and tension, or is it an environment of attunement, openness, and love? You decide which you are offering and if you are unhappy with it, change it. Continue reading
Posted Jun 27, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
We parents have traveled life's roads some, many, or in other cases, just getting started and traveled little. We live through the territory of human being-ness, and as such, we have some valuable experiences and information to share with our children. In a metaphorical sense, we become the "map" for them. The good news is, if we have done our work of finding the loving way, less burdened by our own family and cultural baggage, we are free to offer this love to our children. Continue reading
Posted Jun 17, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
This post first appeared as an article for these parents and professionals. For most kids, any kind of parenting can work. Kids are resilient if nothing else. But for kids with trauma histories, a love based family-centered approach is essential. For more on my experience with Bryan Post and the Post Parenting Boot Camp that turned my life upside down and inside out, read more here. For those of you with more typical children, unconditional love is still the best antidote for childhood stress and anxiety. And, as I found, it works on spouses, co-workers, bosses and, well you get the picture. It works, and it blesses the blesser. So traumatized children or not, you may want to consider a parenting plan. What's your plan? Parenting is not the only thing you have to do. You have jobs, tasks, spouse, and you might also want to shower... Continue reading
Posted May 25, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
Eight years after my wife Susan and I became foster parents, and adopted one of our four adopted and twenty-seven foster children, we had the privilege of attending a Parenting Boot Camp presented by Bryan Post, sponsored by Old Dominion University and our foster care agency. That weekend changed the trajectory of my life and created the foundation for a lifelong learning curve of discovering and uncovering the depths of unconditional love. I heard about unconditional love for over thirty-five years, but Bryan Post that weekend was the living embodiment. Not to say the man has no faults. He would be the first to draw a list longer than I have time to listen. But then again, so have I. Continue reading
Posted May 20, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
This is a real, inspiring, and yes, amazing story about what can be done behind prison walls that is good for prisoners and for the world. Pete Ochs, entrepreneur by birth he says, had a crazy idea. What would happen if he put a manufacturing business inside a maximum security prison, pay employees fair market wages, and help them find their purpose? What started out as a crazy idea turned into reform, relationships, profit, and ultimately transformed lives. Continue reading
Posted May 16, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
LoveMore in the workplace, a vision of two inspiring lovepreneurs. Who would have thought that someone in this world is teaching businesses how to become ‘beloved organization’s? I met some people who do just that. I had the opportunity to see them present a keynote talk at a conference in Charlottesville about taking your love to work. They had me right there then. I knew I had to get to know them. Continue reading
Reblogged May 9, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
Julian of Norwich says, “By myself I am nothing at all, but in general, I am in the oneing of love. For it is in this oneing that the life of all people exists.” At another point she says, “The love of God creates in us such a oneing that when it is truly seen, no person can separate themselves from another person” And again, “In the sight of God all humans are oned, and one person is all people.”We live our lives believing that we are separate from everything and everyone. That is how we define our “I.” If I were physically connected to anyone/anything, it might be hard to call myself “I.” "We" perhaps? Continue reading
Posted Apr 26, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
I know this means that we would have to think about love to discern who in our lives demonstrates loving. Not easy but the challenges seems a worthy aspiration for us. If that is, we put a high value on love. How would you even know if you were in the presence of a loving person? What would be different about them? How would they talk, behave, listen, or interact? What would be the demonstratable evidence that they were indeed a loving person? How would you appear to others if you were a loving person? Continue reading
Reblogged Apr 4, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
I have decided to take a course presented by Yale University on Coursera (free) to learn what science has to say about Well Being and Happiness.I am not a fan of happiness as I think it is highly over-rated. Not that it is a bad thing, but that it is a low bar to shoot for. Happiness, like sadness, comes and goes as do other emotions. The goal in my mind and the practice of mindfulness is to accept all emotions as they come through our lives and not get attached to any either by grasping for them or trying to avoid them. Continue reading
Reblogged Mar 29, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
I wandered into a one-day BeSwarm event in 2018 unsure of why I was attending, especially in light of my non-technical leanings, and that it was filled with 75 technologists. I did not know anyone and sat alone eating the delicious free breakfast and enjoying the coffee. Then, the opening of BeSwarm was announced by a friendly looking fellow who said that there was no agenda for the day and that we were free to do whatever we wanted to. Really weird. There was however going to be free lunch and, anyone who wanted to talk about something to the group about anything could participate in 3-minute Lightning Talks during lunch and all you had to do to quality was stand in the line. More weird. Continue reading
Posted Mar 15, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
Who is Who? Who are you? Who am I? I have tried to approach this topic in various discussions but to no avail. This question seems to attract a blank look or puzzled and quizzical at best. It is not that people don't understand my question, it is more like, "who would ever think of asking something so, so ... basic." It is a simple question really, at least to me. Who is who? Or, to phrase it differently, which who am I? Continue reading
Posted Mar 13, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
It seems that there may be a correlation between the pace of thinking, mind chatter, inner dialogue, and the passage of time. One of my joys is to find people who are comfortable exploring some of the facets of our human experience and make connections that help us find "more" to the life we go about somewhat unconsciously.Dan Pedersen is one of these unique individuals who go where many fear to tread - into our interior life, that which is known only to ourselves. Continue reading
Posted Mar 6, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
A dynamic new approach to homelessness with roots in settling the West: Conestoga Huts. The trend started in Eugene and the supporters are hoping it will spread through the Northwest. via Back in the early '80s I founded a nonprofit called There's No Place Like Home in Virginia Beach... Continue reading
Reblogged Mar 4, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
I met with a woman who was feeling discombobulated and having trouble focusing. In short, she was having trouble loving herself, her work and anyone else that came along due to her lack of focus and her concern for not being able to track her tasks and to do lists. I asked her, "what's on your mind right now?" She said, "to get people for an event." I asked her what was the very next first action? She said, “well I have to send an e-mail blast. I have to hand out all these flyers, and I have to do some marketing.”She knew all this needed to be done, yet it only added to her sense of being overwhelmed. Continue reading
Posted Feb 28, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
Drew Lytle, a fourth year engineering student at UVA, co-founded this inviting platform for creating communities and online courses with free access to all (donations will be accepted) and even teaches you how to create a course in simple easy to take steps using Youtube. Drew is a fun inspiring entrepreneur who challenges us all to create, share and learn, and find others to join with us. Check Lumastic out and join the community of your choice or create a new one. Continue reading
Reblogged Feb 26, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
While reading Yuval Noah Harari this morning as he talked about meditation in his latest book 21 Lessons for the 21st Century, I realized a simple truth that had somehow eluded me over the last 50 or so years. If you have read any of Harari's books (Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind and Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow), you may understand this blog post without my saying much about him. If you have not read Sapiens, Homo Deus or 21 Lessons for the 21st Century, you may want to consider picking one up. He is considered one of the current thought leaders who is recommended by people who he feels are in some way the most responsible for threatening our personal autonomy and democracy - Silicon Valley technology leaders. Continue reading
Posted Feb 10, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
Who was I writing for? I thought I knew in the months while preparing for this, then suddenly the question became unanswerable without further inquiry. I intended to write for highly engaged inquiring minds, seekers, thinkers, poets, rebels, troublemakers, people of any religious faith, atheists, scientists, outliers and anyone wanting a more significant experience of life. This is meant as an exploratory pursuit of discovery and not as an authority. There may be many more questions than answers presented here, but the point is to urge you on to find, discover your solutions through your experiences. Knowledge and understanding are essential, but they can limit us because now we "know" we think. Knowledge, of course, is part of this journey, and I love to know more, learn more, and take in more. These things are, however, very time based, process oriented and somewhat limited by "what I can do" in the time I have and the opportunities available. What's more, all this is slightly ephemeral as are the things, possessions, relationships, and comforts we have. They come, and they go. As does our understanding of things as new evidence and experiences prompt us to change our world view if we remain open to change. I wanted more. And it occurs to me that I want to write for others who want more out of life... Continue reading
Posted Jan 21, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
This is the beginning of a Year of Living Lovingly with the intention to experience, experiment with, and engender love as the bond which connects us all. This experience-based connection can give rise to a heartfelt respect and a concern for all sentient beings and a world that works for everyone. Continue reading
Posted Jan 17, 2019 at The LoveMore Institute blog
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