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Next to the Beach and Under the Stars
A couple of lines of wisdom but unlimited amount of friendship..By Maria Angelica Mejia and Cecil Pardave!!
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This past year has been one of the most challenging years for me so far. I had several challenging cases at work that have left me emotionally and psychologically drained. Cases that cosist of innocent kids witnesing horrific acts of violence, mothers losing their children and good people dealing with life the best way then can. It is usually after a session while I am driving home, do I realize how many things that I have to be thankful for. I realized that having materials things, does not guarantee happiness. I have come to learn that having people that care... Continue reading
Posted Nov 27, 2014 at Advice from a Friend
I am going to tell you what I think is the hardest thing that a human being can do... Saying something in the precise moment that something needs to be said; but our fear of failure, rejection, dissapointment or sadness is greater that the actual courage to say what is in our hearts and minds. Over and over again, I notice that as technology increases our ability to express our thoughts and feelings to each other decrease greatly. We went from love letters to emails to 3 word texts. We went from telling people how we felt to sending emoticons.... Continue reading
Posted Jan 12, 2014 at Advice from a Friend
It's been a while since I have written a post. My life, needless to say has been quite hectic this past year and many lessons disguised as challenges have been overcomed little by little. I am currently a family therapist for an agency in which I see cases on a daily basis that remind me of the meaning of living and the strenght we all have inside of us. I am currently completing my Ph.D in Family and Marriage Therapy; therefore am in a constant need for extra hours in a day. Even though it may sound tough, I LOVE... Continue reading
Posted Dec 25, 2013 at Advice from a Friend
Today I have changed my view on life, my view of others and my view of our society. I am lucky enough to have to privildge to hear the stories of GLBT persons in my sexuality class for the past two weeks and I am inspired by their resilience and strenght. Before this class I can saw myself as someone that accepted people as they are, not caring their gender or sexual orientation. It wasn't until today that I noticed that as a heterosexual female I am given privilges in our society that our friends in the GLBT community are... Continue reading
Posted Jun 12, 2012 at Advice from a Friend
Hay veces que quiero escribir y solo me salen las palabras en español. No se si es porque siento que expreso mejor mis sentimientos cuando pienso en español.... entonces voy a escribir este blog en español a ver como me va y tambien porque quiero que la persona que me inspiro a escribir este blog lo puede leer. Recientemente tuve la dulce oportunidad de presenciar algo maravilloso, algo que no tiene palabras para describirlo o sentimientos para expresarlo. Un momento en mi vida que nunca olvidare y que recordare con mucho amor por el resto de mi vida, ese momento... Continue reading
Posted May 31, 2011 at Advice from a Friend
Okay so we can all remember what our friends would tell us when we first became interested in the opposite sex, they would advise us in different ways to get the other person you liked to like you. Can you remember what advise you got in order to get your crush to like you in middle school? Well we humans tend to have the tendency to make things much more confusing and difficult than they should be, and the main reason for this is that many of us are scared to death of the truth, rejection or even worse that... Continue reading
Posted Apr 8, 2011 at Advice from a Friend
Its funny how the world works when your single you want to be in a relationship and after being in a relationship for a while everyone at some point wants to be single again. I think its human nature that we as humans are never content with what we have. Today the day of Valentines Day my friends that are single are sad and bummed that they are not with anyone special to celebrate it with and believe that the only sole purpose of Valentines Day is to make them aware that they are single; but I dare to prove... Continue reading
Posted Feb 14, 2011 at Advice from a Friend
Breakups are one of those things in life that no one can escape from, they are like speed bumps. If your expecting the breakup then the process is smooth but you still fill the uncomfortable bump; but the worst kind are the speed bumps that you never expected, that came out of nowhere and make you jump off your seat and hit your head with the top of the car. Breakups is an inevitable event that will happen to us in our romantic lives, sometimes we will be the one to break up with the other person and other times... Continue reading
Posted Jan 26, 2011 at Advice from a Friend
The months of November and December marks a date when families can reunite and gather together to celebrate Thanksgiving and the rest of the Holidays such as Hanukah, Christmas, and the New Year! For some, it’s just a day off of work where they can sip on some beer, watch football games and eat heavy. For many, it’s a day to reminisce on our blessings and give thanks onto God and others who were there when we needed them. But you see, we shouldn’t be reminded to “give thanks” because of a special holiday. It’s every day where we should... Continue reading
Posted Jan 7, 2011 at Advice from a Friend
Like everyone else right now I am remembering all the great and bad times I had in the past year. All the mistakes and all the triumphs I experiences in 365 days, 12 months and 48 weeks. Some days were more exciting than others but are equally important. They were equally important because they led me to the days that are memorable and helped me get to a point that I felt able or comfortable to grow to be the person I am today. Most of us are not the same person we were a year ago, we have learned... Continue reading
Posted Dec 31, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
As I sit with a glass of wine I think about all the things I accomplish this past year and that things I was to scared to accomplish. Scared you might ask, why would someone be scared to accomplish something they really want? Well most of the time in order to accomplish something we want or try something we want we have to leave our comfort zone in order to do it. We have to pop the safety bubble and wonder into a new world with no safety net. This fear of leaving the world where we know exactly how... Continue reading
Posted Dec 22, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
We have here a clear distinction between the leader and the manager. By focusing attention on a vision, the leader operates on the emotional and spiritual resources of the organization, on its values, commitment, and aspirations. The manager, by contrast, operates heavily on the physical resources of the organization, on its capital, human skills, raw materials, and technology. An excellent manager believes that work is done productively and efficiently, on schedule, and with a high level of quality. It remains for the effective leader, however, to help people in the organization know that they are valued and have satisfaction in... Continue reading
Posted Dec 15, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
This weekend I was able to sit down and think about all the changes both good and bad that I have experiences throughout the years. I was able to give thanks to those that have helped me in my transition of change, since change is usually not easy for most of us. Change is a stranger to us all, that we have been taught as a child to stay away from strangers. We are scared of the unknown and usually try our very best to keep our world exactly as it for as long as possible. The bad part about... Continue reading
Posted Nov 29, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
"Only once one has known real sadness can one feel true happiness". Such a great quote to sit back and ponder upon that thought. As I begin to think on this quote, I think on all the adverse situations and problems a few of my friends and family members have gone through. And as I observed and listened to their thought process, I would casually point out to them the light and potential in them, whether its young or old age. After when a close friend or family member would finish their story, I then would sincerely explain three points... Continue reading
Posted Nov 5, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
Friends with benefits or as many us know it better as "F&*K BUDDIES" is quite common today and very handy actually. Urban dictionary states it as : Two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment. Before I start to write about the many benefits of having such an enjoyable relationship, I want to clarify that I only advise having a F&*K buddy when you are SINGLE and not in ANY sort of RELATIONSHIP with ANYONE ( this is due to... Continue reading
Posted Oct 20, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
Abuse is a problem that sad to say most of us will experience at some point in our lives. I know that when you think of abuse the first thought that comes into your head is physical abuse; but the truth is that physical abuse is just a part of it. Most of us experience emotional and verbal abuse from those that are closest to us. This type of abuse causes depression, anxiety, low self esteem and much more. The wounds of emotional and verbal abuse can not be seen, but they are deeper and last longer than physical abuse.... Continue reading
Posted Oct 18, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
I know that I haven't written a blog like in forever and its graduate school fault. Like everyone else I have to learn to adapt and change my life so that won't burn out before finishing my degree and become a hippie...which in reality seems like more like a pro than a con..Just kidding! Well like the good person that I try to be I am going to give you the secret that all my teachers have drilled into all our heads and that is 100% useful in every aspect of everyone's lives! If you master this concept, you will... Continue reading
Posted Oct 4, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
INCEPTION!!! I think everyone that watched this movie tried to remember or even tried to control their dreams that night when they went to sleep. This movie was great not due to the Leonardio Dicaprio ( wink wink), the great visuals or the brain twisters it gave everyone; but it was great due to the fact that everything in you saw in the movie can be traced to a dream theories from famous psychologist like Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung and Alfred Adler. One of my last classes of my undergraduate career was Dream Theory and Dream Interpretation; needless to say... Continue reading
Posted Aug 5, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
One of the greatest pains any human being can have is when it involves LOVE. Pain that involves love usually feels like part of you is missing, life lost its meaning and everything around you reminds you of your lost love. The second greatest pain in life is when the person you love and you can't be together. This is is called platonic love. A relationship where each person love's the other, but circumstances, distance, events or family get in between. Unlike a lost love an impossible love creates the feeling of impotence and inability to control your the love... Continue reading
Posted Jul 14, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
A friend of mine recently told me that " Time is your best friend since it will always heal your wounds, but it can also be your enemy since it also insures your death". Long after our conversation about how our lives have changed, how we have changed and our future plans; those few words he told me made me contemplate the affects of time. Whenever I had a broken heart or got angry at a situation my mom would always tell me to give it some time, and I would look at her like she was crazy. As your... Continue reading
Posted Jul 8, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
I recently came back from a vacation that I didn't know I needed till I got there. I am like the majority of people in the United States; I am constantly busy and always have some errand that has to be done TODAY. For the past three years I have neglected going back to my home country of Colombia due to my ambitions to get ahead faster and be more productive at work. I always had an excuse to why I was unable to take some healthy vacations to see my family and spend some time in the country. Everyone... Continue reading
Posted Jun 30, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
In my graduate interviews I was able to get the opinions and theories of great therapist about relationships overall. Relationships with our significant other, relationships with our friends, relationship with coworkers but especially the relationship with ourselves.I asked one of the marriage therapist why so many marriages now are ending in divorce, and his response was simple " People lose themselves at the beginning of a relationship, which leads to an enmeshed relationship that will surely end in arguments and divorce".The solution to a great marriage seems simple enough right? Just DON'T LOSE YOURSELF. Well it is easier said than... Continue reading
Posted Jun 2, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
For the past week I have been helping my boyfriend pack all the things that are necessary, throw away things that are useless and organize his new apartment. A week later and his apartment looks great, feels great and is much more organize now that all the useless things that were cluttering his home is in the trash. Moving to a new apartment gives a sense of new beginnings like when we start at a new job, new school or move to a new city. These times in our lives forces us to make changes in our lives and try... Continue reading
Posted May 10, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
Don't be shy reading this article, it is perfectly natural that you want to know how to feel the pleasure that we all have hidden inside of us. Sex is nothing to be ashamed of nor intimidated about. Sex and hunger are the two basic human instinct that everyone has, so why is it that society makes us girls feel bad about having or wanting sex? Well my girls it is all social control and old prude ideals that we have been unable to unleash ourselves with. As my friends may call me I am sexologist in training and am... Continue reading
Posted May 4, 2010 at Advice from a Friend
I know that we have all heard the saying, but when that door closes; we tend to not allow ourselves to recognize those open doors. This happens especially after we break up with our loved ones. We feel so much pain, feel betrayed at times, feel lonely and the ten thousand other emotions that we all feel after we lose someone we cared about. I am one person that can escape from a broken heart, deception and a victims of lies. I know first hand how hard it is to see through the black smoke of sadness to be able... Continue reading
Posted Mar 25, 2010 at Advice from a Friend