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This is for Courtney. The tasteless political posts are still archived until midterms or until I get cranky enough. Feed the beast twice a day for a few days and then refrigerate until you're ready to bake. When you're ready, take it out, feed it, and start the baking process... Continue reading
Posted 2 days ago at High Crimes & Misdemeanors
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This is for Courtney. The tasteless political posts are still archived until midterms or until I get cranky enough. Beginning with the discard. Assumption: You dumped about a cup of sassy starter from its home to a bowl (part 1). 1 cup sassy starter ready to bake in the bowl.... Continue reading
Posted 2 days ago at High Crimes & Misdemeanors
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According to WorldData.info, JFK, formerly Idlewild, is the largest international airport in the United States. LAX is second, but if you look at the statistics, it's not really a close second. There are a handful of airports with more destinations,... Continue reading
Posted Feb 23, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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This story has been told, but the truth about stories is they're never told the same way twice. It's August, 2015 and Elizabeth is dancing with FAB at DANY Studios down on 38th, somewhere between 8th and 9th. She didn't... Continue reading
Posted Feb 22, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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Five year old footsteps pounding down the hall from the living room... ...MAHHHHHHHMMMMMYYYY! MICHAEL'S NOT DOING NICENESS COUNTS!!!!! MOMMMMMMEEEEEEE!!! I don't know what he did, but she turned his ass in, assuming there might be such thing as a Niceness... Continue reading
Posted Feb 21, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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I was pretty cavalier with the second pregnancy. I remembered the easy parts. Logically, I remembered that it hurt a lot, but mostly I remembered how easy it was, and it really can be. I don't know why some women labor for days and end up with a section. I... Continue reading
Posted Feb 20, 2021 at Uncensored, mostly
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There is no doubt the boy got the short end of the stick every single time. They lived in a little stone cottage on a small farm. The farm had horses and dogs and cats and bunnies. There was a... Continue reading
Posted Feb 20, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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The bear's name is Parquet and if you've ever read The Velveteen Rabbit, be assured that Parquet has been real for a very long time. An odd eleven year old asked for a teddy-bear at Christmas and the bear appeared... Continue reading
Posted Feb 19, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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Richard found me with Bob. I didn't know who Richard was. Bob shared one of his posts which sounded like the bell the monks ring three times a day in the mountains above San Juan. What we read has a... Continue reading
Posted Feb 18, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
same. no doubt.
Toggle Commented Feb 17, 2021 on Acceptable Losses at Alecto's Ophelia
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Apparently comments aren't coming to my inbox these days so I'm nearly two weeks late in responding to this. Sorry! "Do they know they are hating me?" I honestly don't think so. I think maybe it's a matter of liking you and then trying to get you into a box that works for them. I've discovered over the years that listening without confronting, disagreeing, or offering a different opinion is heard as: you agree with me, you are 'like' me in ways that work for me. I don't think that's a selfish thing so much as self-preservation, which doesn't mean it needs to be tolerated. Someone I used to be close with told me I wasn't really a Yankee, not really a New Yorker. She said I was from the Midwest. While it's true that some of my sensibilities are from my family in the Midwest, that only identifies some of my roots. It doesn't make me who I am and it surely does not lessen the truth that I am from and of New England and also, by way of circumstances, New York. (I didn't live in NY at the time, but the crossover is easy from Fairfield County) In sticking me in that box she allowed herself to continue to hate the North which was apparently pretty important to her sense of self. Eventually it got to be too much. I listen to understand what is outside of me. I think this is really important. However, I'm human and eventually the toxicity is too much, regardless of intent. I lost another last year because over a ten year period I vanished. I don't believe for a minute she meant for that to happen but I couldn't make myself understood either. She may never understand, but that's not on me. In the end we can either look at our results from a place of accountability or we can be victims. That's a horrible feeling. Somebody I really love unfriended me. I believed it was a mistake or I never would have gone looking for him. He said he meant to unfollow and unfriended instead - was too embarrassed to tell me. Now, I can choose to look at that two ways. I can tell myself it's a lie and he really did mean to go, or I can tell myself it's the truth and then think about why. I decided right away that it was the truth. That gave me the space to look at why he might have needed to unfollow me and what I might be able to do about it. Maybe nothing, but I think it would be pretty damned hypocritical not to look at it. Deciding it was the truth also opened a door that I didn't know had been closed. **** I don't know how to have a conversation with people who've got themselves in so many knots they've lost a good part of their humanity. I don't know if I talked about the mostly mask-less woman at the fabric store but what I realized later was that whatever was going on for her wiped out everything else. I think the raging of the Left at the Right is just as bad, if not worse right now. I think it could be deadly. If I want social change, I have to be able to talk to people with priorities other than my own. It just can't stay binary. Well, that was a long one! And same here, not you. Most assuredly, not you.
Toggle Commented Feb 17, 2021 on Acceptable Losses at Alecto's Ophelia
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Choices Life is a cascade of tectonic plates and unexpected boundary transformations. Mostly we don't notice because shifting the ground doesn't necessarily require brute force. Mostly we don't notice because we are looking at our feet. One step back or... Continue reading
Posted Feb 16, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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On December 23, 2000, Elizabeth attended her first black tie event in the middle of a snow storm that left three feet on the ground before dawn. This was her third corporate event; the first, a heated discussion with Human... Continue reading
Posted Feb 13, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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I realize this is an incendiary photograph, but bear with me. This is not a 'what', it's a 'why'. This morning I read in the New York Times that Thousands of Republicans are Leaving the Party. I'm not suggesting they... Continue reading
Posted Feb 10, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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At the end of January, the polar vortex came though forcing me to visit the storage room. I don't much care for the storage room. It's dark, crowded, and occupied. At the end of November, Lawerence Fischman made a sound... Continue reading
Posted Feb 8, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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Trigger alert. This isn't pretty. Elizabeth is livid. This is not unusual. She can spike an indignant fury without much provocation if it's the right provocation. Last year, before the plague it was primarily about three things: Why Hunter College... Continue reading
Posted Feb 8, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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I just got mad again. Dammit. In December, 2007 I wrote a post about walking on ice floes. I couldn't come up with a better way to describe what my life felt like. Thirteen years later, I understand perfectly. I'm still lacking the right words. The other day, I realized... Continue reading
Posted Feb 7, 2021 at Uncensored, mostly
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Key words: 'Dalai Lama','Tibet','1959','Compassion' Vizzini? I must have replaced 'Compassion' with 'Inconceivable'. I was looking for a quote, reference, anything to validate something I heard more than twenty-five years ago. I wanted context to support the argument should it happen... Continue reading
Posted Feb 7, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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Note: Do to coronavirus backlog, the average wait time is 300 years. You might want to consider temporarily giving up your place in line for the actively dead or actively dying. Thank you for your patience. -- DMV, Terrestrial Return to Compassion Instructions Continue reading
Posted Feb 7, 2021 at Uncensored, mostly
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Writer's prompts are magical. There is a section in Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance in which the protagonist is remembering a moment with a college student struggling to write well. I won't get into the philosophical discussion of... Continue reading
Posted Feb 6, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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Huh. Huh, what? Just, huh. What?! Your heart rate's kinda up there. Yeah. So, uh, it's under 120, right? Yup. Barely. OK. Wait a minute... What the hell is that?! 140, right? Uh, yeah. Want to tell me what's going... Continue reading
Posted Feb 5, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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This is my house in the forest, almost. A google search for 'small house in forest' returns somebody else's idea of small. For reference, this house is in Nova Scotia, specifically Baxter's Harbour. It's an airbnb that eventually popped up... Continue reading
Posted Feb 4, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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I spent a good part of four hours calling doctors, waiting on hold, being transferred, and explaining myself today. The followup instructions on my discharge papers are very clear. Within 3 - 5 days, follow up with OPD Cardiology and... Continue reading
Posted Feb 3, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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I'm not being cheeky; this really is a resurrection and it really is about life. The Staff of Life, right? The title makes sense and if we're going to talk about G-D, this should be a pretty obvious starting point.... Continue reading
Posted Feb 3, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia
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OK, I really thought it was a Ct-scan and having never seen a Ct-scan up close, what the hell would I know? They said 'scan', we're going for a scan. There will be contrast dye. OK. Just as long as... Continue reading
Posted Feb 2, 2021 at Alecto's Ophelia