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Steve Ferkau
Interests: organ donation awareness, cystic fibrosis
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I could never forget her, Jenn... I'm surrounded by too many of her friends - too many people who loved her. And among all of them - you were the first of Kari's friends I became attached to, and grew to adore. Love you always...
Toggle Commented Apr 8, 2013 on Thirteen Years... at Revive Hope
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Hey my beautiful Jenn-a-belle!!! I'm so glad you're back!!! I'm looking forward to your posts, and this is a beautiful one -- with a beautiful musical tribute to the person who saved his life... It sure would be nice if your posting inspires me to get off my lazy fanny and start posting on a regular basis as well!!! Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Apr 5, 2013 on Life & Death at Revive Hope
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I love you, Jennifer Amendt Eickman... You were the first of Kari's friends that I became very close to... And so many have followed you. Being at your wedding was what I'd imagine watching a daughter getting married would feel like... You'll be in my heart forever. Miss you more... Love, Steve And no, I ain't writing no dang book... xox
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Thanks for sharing this, my Jenn... She's as beautiful as Kari... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Oct 5, 2010 on Lauren: An Unfortunate Hero at Revive Hope
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Hey my beautiful Jenn-a-belle... I'm so glad you are alive!!! And I'm glad our paths have crossed and I get to share some of my life here with you... I miss your face. Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Aug 10, 2010 on Scope for the Imagination! (Part 1) at Revive Hope
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I'll bet you were amazing, Melissa!!! And isn't it just awesome when you tell them about something like climbing the Hancock with Chloe's heart, they get so overwhelmed they give you a standing ovation?!?! The thing is -- they see people like you with your failing heart, or me with my cystic fibrosis... All they know of us is being so very sick -- and after thinking about all of the years we struggled through, the idea that we would be taking 1,600 steps like a walk in the park is really pretty amazing to anyone... But these are the people charged with fixing us, making us better -- making us whole... And it has to be a little overwhelming for them when they see that for some of us, they did a freaking unbelievable job!!! And I love Liz in her Cubs shirt!!! I'm glad she told you Chloe was a cool chick -- I guess we already knew that, but confirmation is always kinda neat... I think it's wonderful that you got to spend time with Chloe's sister... I imagine it was pretty wonderful for Liz too... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Apr 26, 2010 on Always Thinking, Always Caring at Revive Hope
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You create the most beautifulest little videos -- you pick perfect music... You pick the funnest pictures... You write awesome captions... You always make my heart smile. Thank you for doing it again... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Apr 13, 2010 on video update at falling down is also a gift
Hey Jenn… Your post is absolutely beautiful. Kari’s gift came on my fifth call to the hospital… I got four other calls. You cannot imagine what it’s like to get that call and consider in a matter of hours they will be opening you up, taking out your lungs, and replacing them – and if it doesn’t work, you’re no longer here. There is an element of excitement, but perhaps a larger element of fear. Any surgery provokes some fear – and this one is about as big as it gets. But getting that call, packing up and driving to the hospital – there was always another thought occupying my mind and edging out that fear… Somewhere out there, there is a family who lost someone they love dearly. Their fear and grief and sorrow were so much greater than mine – yet they were offering to save my life. Their goodness overwhelmed my fear – and I grieved with them on my way to the hospital. I know you didn’t need to tell me, but thanks for reminding those of us waiting for a gift like this to think about the selfless soul and family who will offer this gift to us… Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Apr 13, 2010 on Prayers for the Selfless Souls at Revive Hope
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Hey Beautiful Girl! I will certainly let my really cool friends know that their song means a lot to you... You waited so long for your precious new lungs and I was so tickled when you received them last month... Lizzy would have loved you -- your kindness and gentleness reminds me so much of her... You take care, Karen -- Ill adore you forever. Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Jan 19, 2010 on Whispers and didgeridoos... at Revive Hope
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Hey Karen! I was so happy when you received your beautiful, new lungs last month... You waited so long, yet you always reached out to others with such kindness and compassion. Its quite obvious that you already are honoring your donor in everything you do and feel... Thank you for tearing up when you read about Kari (or her friends)... I can assure you I tear up when I write about them... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Jan 7, 2010 on Wanted to run... at Revive Hope
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Shouldnt you be busy? Like, getting ready for a wedding or something? I love you too, Jenn -- and Im so tickled to be present at this little event in your life!!! Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Jan 7, 2010 on Wanted to run... at Revive Hope
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Hey Laura!!! I assumed youd be there... Im looking forward to seeing you and Matt again. Ive found all of Karis friends to be incredibly precious to me -- Im glad youre a tiny, little part of my life... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Jan 7, 2010 on Wanted to run... at Revive Hope
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Thanks, Ted!!! Its funny how some posts are very easy to write... I dont believe anything is more tragic than the loss of a child, but theyve managed to create so much good from a painful situation. This is one little way of thanking Bette and her family for all they do for this cause... Love, Steve
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Hey Melissa! I think of Chloe and her family too. And I'm thankful to them, and to Dave and your family, that you're a little part of my life... Thanks for bringing up Francisco Rodriguez, the boxer who is a hero in more ways than he might have imagined - an incredible tragedy - but it also brings hope to so many others during this season. We really do have more for which to be thankful than most... And I love the card that your Mom & Dad sent to you... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Nov 25, 2009 on Thinking & Remembering Season at Revive Hope
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60?!?! Ive always considered I had the right to say that Im as old as my youngest body part. My beautiful lungs turn 27 in March. Im sticking with that! Of course, there are those who argue that, mentally, Im quickly approaching 8. Thanks for your comments, they mean a lot to me... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Nov 23, 2009 on Twenty Percent... and "I was here." at Revive Hope
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Hey Beautiful Girlie... I would be totally honored if you shared any of the words here, or even the hippo picture... (Laura loves that picture too... I think it might be at the San Diego Zoo -- she usually says, "It's goofy -- it's so you..." Someday I might find that comment a little disturbing. But not today.) I miss your face... Love, Steve
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Hey Beautiful Girlie... I would be totally honored if you shared any of the words here, or even the hippo picture... (Laura loves that picture too... I think it might be at the San Diego Zoo -- she usually says, "It's goofy -- it's so you..." Someday I might find that comment a little disturbing. But not today.) I miss your face... Love, Steve
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What a beautiful post, Melissa... And your heart buddy, Kimberly, is beautiful too... I first met her at a donor candle-lighting ceremony at Loyola, where she got her heart and I got my lungs (and Jon got his lungs too!) I was shuffling through a pew in the chapel -- she was a pew behind me and reached out and grabbed my sleeve and said, "I read your blog..." She might not have known that would make me well up with pride -- I gave her a big hug... I started to tell her about you, Melissa, but she told me that she knew you too -- that you had exchanged several emails... Being in these "elite clubs", we get to strike up some amazing friendships... Kimberly is a keeper... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Aug 18, 2009 on Heart Buddies at Revive Hope
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Thanks so much, Dan. It means an awful lot to both me and Melissa coming from you, a donor-Dad. And you should always know that when I'm talking about Kari, and Melissa is talking about Chloe - we're often thinking about Dylan and all of the other heroes in the world too... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Aug 14, 2009 on Open Hearted – Forever… at Revive Hope
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I did it!!! I did it!!! Hope others do too... Love, Steve
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I know you've exchanged letters with them, Melissa... I know you've seen Chloe's picture and her smile... I hope you included your picture with one of your letters to Chloe's family. If you did -- they know that there is always a twinkling star shining brightly seven or eight hundred miles Northwest of them... Nothing could be brighter than your smile when you think about Chloe... I think about that too -- when I look up at night, and look West, I know that the bright star I'm looking at can be seen by Kari's family too... There is something comforting in that. You're just looking up and looking Southeast... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Jun 16, 2009 on we were so Alive that day at Revive Hope
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Anni and Frankie TOTALLY ROCK!!! That sounds like so much fun... You realize you should be joining them -- right? Since getting my new girlie-lungs, every summer my inner-eight-year-old comes out in the pool with my niece and nephews (their parents have told them, in front of me, that their Uncle Steve "is not to be considered an adult" when decisions are being made amongst ourselves...)(Whatever...) You should see the splashback that 156 pounds of cuteness can generate!!! Hug them for me -- you made my smile brighter today... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Jun 15, 2009 on she's off at falling down is also a gift
I love reading about Anni and Frankie -- I just love reading pretty much whatever you write about... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented May 6, 2009 on Frankie the Brave at falling down is also a gift
It's good that this refuels your soul every year... I've seen you in action -- I know your soul uses more fuel than most. A lot of us are thankful for all you do -- you are one of the faces many of us associate with our gifts. Love, Steve
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Your post is beautiful, Jenn... I see her through you, and through her family, and through her other friends I've met, but more through you because I've known you longest and we've been closest... I'm so tentative around her family because of their loss -- I don't want them to hurt, but I know they always will... And I know it hurts you and your friends too -- but you've let me see another side of her... You've let me see Kari as a friend. You've given me a fuller picture of who she was -- and who she is in my heart. I don't know that she's 17 in my mind... Part of her will always be -- but part of her has grown up with all of you and she's 26 and she's even more beautiful. I've been touched by you and Kathryn and Christian and Alex and Katie and Wendy and Samara and Ryan and Abby and Kelly and Tessa and Nicole and Laura and I've watched some of you grow and change over these few years -- and in my tiny mind, she's grown with you. And you've helped me see her love, for all of you and for everything around her -- and you've helped me want to keep that love alive. Kari was an organ donor, and she IS a hero... Today is April 8th. Nine years ago at around 2pm today -- I got a call to come to the hospital -- that a gift was on it's way for me. They told me surgery would be at around 10pm. I was wheeled in to the O.R. at around 9pm to get a head start by cleaning out my old lungs to help me survive the surgery better... I remember being not nearly as afraid as I thought I would be. I remember praying for her family at 2pm when I got that call -- in my heart, and in my mind, that was when she became my hero. Now I know that it was long before then... Thanks for telling me a little more about her... Love, Steve
Toggle Commented Apr 8, 2009 on April 7 2009 at Revive Hope
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