You know this was one of the biggest things that my husband used to argue with me about (I'm getting a divorce). He would go on these l-o-n-g monologues and would basically demand that I sit there, pay attention and be still. He never understood he had to choose: did he want me still and not paying attention because I was focused on being still? Or did he want me paying attention to him and fidgeting. I just could not do both! At least now I know I'm not alone in that. Thanks for this post.