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Congrats guys!!! I loved the whole festive atmosphere and it's one of those moments you'll never forget. It's also one of those great stories you can tell your grandkids and other family members. I found it wonderful. As long as love is involved, who cares where the ceremony takes place. You can always have a quiet private something anytime, anywhere. But this was one of those once in a lifetime moments!! It was great!!
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Happy Birthday Rod!!! Thank you for being you. Peace
Toggle Commented Jun 26, 2013 on Birthday at Rod 2.0:Beta #gay #news #lgbt #gaynews
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Congrats Rod!!! You really do deserve it. But we, your wonderful supporters, have known that for years. It's about time these others have caught up :-)
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The short answer is no. I don't think it is a matter of having someone else stand up for you. Are we as organized as white gay organizations? No. But do we have black gay organizations? Yes. Do they have the amount of participation from the black gay community as the white gay organizations have from the white gay community? No. Are there less black people in general than white people? Yes. Are there less black gay lgbt folks than white lgbt folks? Yes. Are there more out white lgbt gay folks than out black lgbt folks? Yes. When there is an event, do you seem to see more black lgbt folks than usual? Yes. But if you were to ask how many of those black lgbt folks were out of the closet and were openly gay (and if they were to answer truthfully) it would be maybe half, if you were lucky, and depending on the event. So when you only have a small population of OUT black lgbt folk, you can only have so many run so many organizations. Which is why NBJC is run by a straight black female. It's more about us being able to, as Essex Hemphill(I think) said, "Come home as who we are". If there is no one to run the organizations, or lead the protests, or speak on camera because we are afraid of who we are, or afraid of our safety, then we must still find a way to stand for ourselves. I'm not looking for someone to stand for me. I'm an openly gay black man who is standing for myself. If enough of us stand for ourselves first, our rights, our freedom from oppression, our right to love each other as lovers and friends, then it will not be an issue about wanting other to care about us, because we will finally care for ourselves. Last point. There are as many gossipy, backstabbing, trifling, non-trustworthy black straight men and women, who also pop up for happy hour only to get their drink on and not really support the black community in general, as there are black lgbts that do the same thing. So don't let sexuality put you in a trick bag. That shows how you think about or see yourself sometimes and lowers your own self-esteem and self-worth. Stand next to your black gay brother at the bar or event getting their drink on and not judge them. This may be their only opportunity to connect with the black gay community. Not everyone is supposed to be a leader and not all of us march in the parades. The guy drinking next to you may be sending in thousands of dollars to help support gay marriage, or slowly talking his family into supporting gay rights. We don't always know.
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They gave her the same nose Oprah had when she did the cover.
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She just gave a masterclass and the young divas who are here today and don't want to be gone tomorrow better listen, and ask questions. This is class, and art. Someone wrote that this was okay, but she doesn't sound as good as she used to. I said "B*tch let me see your awards and let me hear how you sound after 60 years in the business!!!" Dame Bassey started at 16 years of age and is now 76. Who the hell else sounds as good at 16, 26, 36, 46, 56, or even 66, as they do at 76? It's called TIME. It marches on. But the class, and presentation, and vocal power that she has at this age is a gift, a wonderful gift.
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I really feel this is disgusting. She's 9 for God's sake. I feel the only reason they took it down was because they received major pushback. the kind they probably aren't used to getting. They don't usually apologize, but this time they did, so something major must have gone down. I'm not into the "at least they apologized" portion of forgivers. Because like I said i don't think they did it because they knew they went too far, but because someone or some organizations/major people pulled their coattails. I don't know what else I would want them to do. Q's mother may have even kept this from her, so she may not know some organization called her this. Her mama seems pretty on top of all this hoopla and is trying to keep her daughter on a regular schedule and down to earth with chores and everything else. The Onion's Facebook page was blasted I'm sure.
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This is beautiful. It is always wonderful to be reminded that our lives as black men who love men, matter in the world today. We should always remember that we matter. Maybe when that happens we will stop giving others the power to devalue, and make us take our lives. We are worth more than gold, than awards, than anything of material value. Our souls are priceless. I pray we remember that, Books like this help us to remember. I pray for many more so we can continue to tell our stories and make our voices heard to each other, and the world.
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That was a wonderful testimony.
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He does seem extremely insecure in this interview. What he says about black actors, in general, playing gay characters is true. If it a black gay character with depth and in a relationship with another man where there is intimacy, black folks do have a problem a portion of the time. But as an actor you look at the role, at this point in time (post Will Smith not kissing in Six Degrees-as told not to by Denzel) you need to do breakout roles and push the envelope in order to show your artistry. It will take longer for black actors to see playing gay as not a big deal, than white actors. I'm sure getting B-Boy Blues made is hard because one of the problems is getting a well-known black actor to play the lead. It's a fact that sucks, but a fact nonetheless. Some are up to it: Isaiah W- Get On The Bus, Wesley-To Wong Foo,like he said Anthony M, Jeffrey. But these are Actors. People who look at the role first to see how meaty it is and what they can bring to it. Not look at the role to see what it can bring to them. This guy is not there yet. He may never be. He is at the "I want to be liked" stage of his career, not the "I want to like what I'm doing" stage of his career.
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Thank you Rod and thank you Nhojj. This makes my spirit feel both better and hopeful. I look at our community and sometimes lose hope, but I hear such beautiful words and thoughts and visuals such as this, and I remember we are a work in progress and as long as we are moving forward, there is hope,
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I like her reasoning for her research, ie. to promote discussion in the straight community. Our community have been discussing this topic for years, so it's not new to us. She, however, overlooked Keith in HBO'S Six Feet Under. That character started making the black gay man role evolve from pure queen, to more masculine. So the evolution started earlier, albeit, not always accepted by mainstream audiences. Hopefully with more people like Paris Clay and Lee Daniels in positions of power in media (tv, film), maybe more of our stories and actual images (because we are a rainbow of views, thoughts, and characters)will be brought forth into mainstream media.
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@Nick D - He didn't fall in love on purpose, and he didn't do it to hurt anyone. When you are young (and sometimes older) that happens. When I look back at the things I did when I was first coming out, I know for a fact I can't judge anyone else's actions. That first love can make you do things you told your heart, mind, mama, and God, that you would never do. But now, when we grow up, prayerfully, when we know better, we will do better.
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OMG!!!!! This letter is so lyrical. This is a song. This is truth. This is love. Be blessed Frank. Know that you are always loved and free.
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This is such an intersting topic. I don't know if I would say the BGM is mammy. I look at him like Jack from Will and Grace. Is the gay sidekick really mammy or just an over the top sidekick? There is no such thing as "reality" tv. As soon as one puts a camera in front of most human beings, they begin to "act". Be it act up, or act out. From Big Brother to The Real World, kids, adults, people in general have been acting out on "reality" tv. Black women in general don't "act" like Basketball Wives, or RHOAtl. So are they the new coon tv, or Amos and Andy, since they are the leads? A lot of BGM complained about Noah's Arc and some complained about The DL Chronicles. We are having a hard time getting positive images of us on tv period, because we don't support them. Well, this is what it comes to at times. If we don't support the positive images that we ourselves put out there, then others will put images of us out there that we don't have a hand in and there is a good chance (as shown now) that they may not be quite positive. Lastly, this also (for me) melds into a conversation about the lack of butch BGM images in media generally. A number of masculine BGM I know refuse to take the spotlight. Be it in pride parades, tv interviews, ect. Then I said "if you are so upset that all you see are queeny images of BGM, why aren't you out there putting yourself in front of the camera working to expand the perception of the BGM image in media?" I'm not upset by the images. I know a lot of the "children" who are just like those "characters", and that's how they are in day to day life and are not on tv and don't want to be. I say let's work on expanding the BGM image on tv.
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Happy Birthday Rod!!! May you have many, many more, along with even more wonderful opportunities to get your and our voices heard around the world. Be blessed.
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Lord, this just hurts my heart. He is reporting it like he is supposed to do, and his mama is reporting it also. So all that was left was for him to protect himself, and they suspended him for that. So it's as if the school just wants this poor child to get hurt and beat up. I pray there is another school or something for him. Our glbt kids are smart, articulate, and intelligent and we are losing them them at a alarmimg rate through suicide. We need to find ways to step up.
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This would be great on many fronts. Viola deserves her academy award and I hope this is the production that finally allows her to get it. She is a well trained artist, and Jordan is an icon. Putting these two figures together should hopefully create a work of art that all communities can be proud of.
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This is great!!! He ended the unions tenure and now they can end his tenure as gov!!! The power of the people!!
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I saw the movie and really enjoyed it. There are serious moments and light comical moments. It doesn't set the race back to me. It simply shows the crap our race went through to put food on the table for our families. None of it was untrue. Some black folks don't like looking back, for whatever reason. I don't mind, because it reminds me of how far we have come, and to remember and strive to go even farther.
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This is so ridiculous. If they were so concerned about him, why was he living in a group home. Now they are trying to make money off his dead body. That's sick. The fact they felt it was the school's responsibilty to raise that child. The shcool did what they could for him to be as well adjusted as possible. That is not on the list of job duties for teachers: raise someone else's child because they don't want to. The fact the school did a better job of allowing this child to live his life as openly as possible is omsething to be commended. Children are dying everyday by their own hands, and others, without them even knowing or having clarity as to WHY they are dying. Some aren't even sure they are gay, some aren't gay, some think they are. I'm glad that for the short time that Larry was here on earth, he lived a life of clarity. That's a gift some don't have even till their 60's or older. I hope the courts don't allow his parents to profit off his death. They weren't there for him when he was alive, so they definately shouldn't be able to profit from his death. The fact they even said " They should have "contained" his behavior" is crazy. That makes him sound like he should have been a prisoner in his own skin, in order to make her and the family feel better. I rather die while living my life to the fullest, than die while a prisoner in my own life.
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This is Diva 1961. I forgot to leave my email. It's tjulian24@aol.com. My moment ended with "Watching that video still makes my soul weep". Thanks!
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Rod what do you think of the LL and the trans hooker book/story?
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Congrats to all the couples!! Love is a beautiful thing and sharing it for the world to see is beautiful. I too have a question about the lack of black male couples. Why do they seem non-exsistent? Are we so dl that we hide in the shadows when it comes to everything? Lawd knows we are out there screwing. Are we scared of committing? We seem so far and few in between when it comes to these articles. Depending on the state or city, you might see one or two black male couples out of 30 to 100 couples. Then we get mad when we see black men with white men. Then we see the black/white couple getting married and get even more upset. Why do we feel this way? Not all black gay men want to hide in the shadows. Yet our partners don't want our love to shine in the light of day. Yes, not everyone can do that because of jobs, family, ect. But one couple out of 33-100. Come on now. I believe in sex and love it. But I also believe in marriage. It is possible to believe in both. Congrats to all the happy couples!!! Live and love!!
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There are a lot of our trans girls working in the shows on the Las Vegas strip, so I am glad that this was passed. They can stand up for their rights if something goes wrong and not be afraid they will automatically get fired. Most are afraid to go to court because they are trans and fear the courts will not listen to their cases or dismiss them automatically. Now they know at least they can fight in court. Yea!!!
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