Hi shyme, I have thought long about your comment simply because I know how hard xmas is for many people. Then a little cheeky thought started forming in the back of my mind: Who is making the rules TODAY? Who is saying what is and what isn't allowed? Surely, these days every person is encouraged to take responsibility for his/her life, make sure the rent is paid, food is on the table, clothes are washed, not being rude or offensive to people .... and so on. I wonder whether it is also possible to take responsibility for the 'rules' you live by. Maybe this is the year to make up new rules, good rules, rules that warm your heart, rules that would put a smile on a little child's face? What do you think? :)

A lot of people would say that memories are not just stored in the brain, but also in the cells of our body. I do believe that we are much more than our memories. Memories however, our life's story including how we have sailed through the storms and the times without even the slightest breeze, form a large part of our sense of identity: I am a mother, I am a student, I am a survivor. The SELF is more than that, maybe at times even all of it together. I suppose, if the memories gets erased, what happens then are identity crises / problems. people lose a part of the narrative of their life and thoughts, beliefs, values, and behaviours stop making sense. This is especially noticeable with Multiples, when a chunk of memory is held by a small child part whilst other more grown-up parts have no knowledge of that. The grown-up part might get into situations the small child part gets really fearful about, because it is a reminder of a trauma. Thus the person ends up feeling things that don't make sense to him/her.

This is a very lovely way of looking at the 'tangles' of life. Maybe, the strings you talk about are the material that forms the tapestry of our SELF - that's why we can't cut it off?

Thanks for pointing out that the link was broken. It should work now! :)

I am glad you like it. Its a good thing to be able to snuggle up with you inside friends. It can make everyone feel a bit safer and not so lonely! :) Enjoy it as often as you can.

Yes shyme, it does hurt to heal. I don't know whether you have to be nice when you don't feel nice. I do think that it helps heaps when you are very caring and careful with yourself and with you inside parts. Take Care! :) Gudrun

Hi Suzy, your response shows clearly the difference between FEELINGS and BEHAVIOURS. Feeling angry is always ok. It tells you that someone has hurt you in some form. How you respond to it is a very different kettle of fish. Firstly, you can be angry about something that YOU have mis-perceived, where you've only got half of the facts straight. Secondly, your expression of anger is a behaviour and it is your responsibility not to be abusive to the other person.