You need to fail before you can really succeed, as success without failure is just good luck. When we want to learn a new skill, we start by failing at it. Miserably in fact. When you first pick up a violin or a flute, you are going to sound terrible... Continue reading

There is a world in which heterosexual sex is the only acceptable kind of sexual activity. Where men love women, women love men, and nothing else is tolerated. And then there is another world in which homosexuality, bisexuality, heteroflexibility, homoflexibility, pansexuality and asexuality are all embraced and respected. There is... Continue reading

One week after my Rejection post, this video is posted on TED "You don't sort of look into your soul and find your True Self. What you are partly doing at least is creating your True Self." I enjoy the serendipity here. :) Continue reading

I had to break up with someone very dear to me today. I knew it was coming for a long time, I could feel the tension mounting, and it was finally time to let it all go. It was over quickly, they just turned and left without a word of... Continue reading

Trust. With only five letters, it has a lot of meaning weighing in behind it. It's one of those words that is deceptively short for the amount of meaning there is behind it when you say "I trust you." Of course, we've all been hurt by someone we've trusted too... Continue reading

Be Proactive Not Reactive. A lovely comic about learning the advantages of planning. Continue reading

Humans have been building walls for a very long time. The excavation of Jericho (the biblical city) suggests that its earliest walls may have been built around 8000 BCE. If we use the Walls of Jericho as a basis, we've been in the business of putting up barriers for a... Continue reading

Let's talk classical physics for a moment: F = m * a . Force is mass multiplied by acceleration. How much force you need to apply to something to change its speed is proportional to its mass and to how much you want to change it. This formula describes inertia... Continue reading

The thing about relationships is that there’s a lot of talk about respect, which is important. Vitally so. But we rarely talk about the corner cases where it’s necessary to disrespect with love. “Respect” is often a synonym for “I do whatever s/he says s/he wants”… but while that guideline’s... Continue reading

Imagine you're a captain sailing the high seas. You're supposed to sail due east across the ocean (say from Europe to North America). You put your compass on the table and the needle points north. You point firmly in a direction and start sailing, knowing that all you need to... Continue reading

I write my note into this digital bottle and cast it adrift in the seas. Maybe someone will find it and read my note. Maybe it will float forever, never to be found, my words to remain unknown. So it begins. I need this. Continue reading