This is a fantastic post, one of your best I think. I am in training to be a clinical psychologist, as it happens, and the attitude shift you talk about is actually gaining a lot of traction in the field. A similar point I often use with clients is the difference between pain and suffering. Pain is physical or emotional hurt, whereas suffering is grounded in the desire for pain to stop. Ideally, if one were able to have zero desire for pain to end, that person would not be suffering. This is not about wanting or deserving pain or avoiding attempts to reduce it when possible, but about acceptance of pain as one of the costs of embodiment. A demand or expectation that life be pain-free guarantees suffering. In this framework, sad-crying is a healthy expression of pain whereas protest-crying expresses suffering. Ash sacredriver.org