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Popping in for a brief Primal Scream Monday

There are some technical problems with this switch. Which is why I was afraid to do it for all these years. People are helping, but it's just taking longer than anticipated, and may end up being a different process than... Continue reading

Posted Aug 5, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Attempting a switchover

We're attempting a big switchover, which will result in a new blog platform with a new banner and no more commenting or spam problems. I'm scared, but I'm not doing it alone, so we'll see how this goes. I'm closing... Continue reading

Posted Jul 26, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Comments going missing or not appearing

Apparently people's comments are disappearing or going missing! I apologize for that and am not doing it on purpose. The only comments I ever delete or block are obvious spam and obvious paid trolls, not you. I'm really hoping to... Continue reading

Posted Jul 25, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Discussion: American Sublime by Elizabeth Alexander

I was really debating during poetry for this summer's Readalong, but now I'm so glad I did. Reading all these poems has given me a few minutes of truth and beauty here and there (I read them in little chunks,... Continue reading

Posted Jul 25, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Transitioning to being a mom of big kids

Happy Wednesday! 1. The next round of Flourish Through Divorce is open for registration. It starts August 15 and will run through October 10. I've added two more weeks so there's more time to process in it. All the details... Continue reading

Posted Jul 24, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Expectations and free passes

Two things happened yesterday that made me think about expectations: 1. I became involved in a Twitter conversation about a 7-week old baby, and what the parents could expect of the baby (in terms of sleeping and not crying) (remember... Continue reading

Posted Jul 23, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Mood change after finally getting sleep: A thing?

Over the weekend, Neil posted that after weeks (ok, probably years) of sleep deprivation from his kids he'd finally gotten a good night's sleep, and had woken up depressed. I thought, "Wait, that happens to me, too." Whenever I have... Continue reading

Posted Jul 22, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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New MoxieTopic Timeline of blips from birth to 2

I just finished MoxieTopic: Is This a Thing?, a timeline of all the blips that come at predictable times during the first few years. It's 8 quick and easy pages of when it all happens and what to do about... Continue reading

Posted Jul 18, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Practical tips (after the verdict, part 2)

We’re back for Part 2 of the privilege and racism topic. Here is Part 1 on racism and privilege. Some clarifications, and then some practical tips. To those of you who were ready for this and who’ve thanked me for... Continue reading

Posted Jul 15, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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What I've been thinking about since the verdict

You know how a lot of times when something hurts the most and you think you can’t do it, that’s the point right before change happens and everything gets better? This might happen to you as you read this. So... Continue reading

Posted Jul 14, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Marriage crumbling and soul in pain

I'm so glad you're liking the MoxieTopics! Thank you for buying them and for the generous feedback! Annalee writes: "I'm in the midst of a soul-crushing ordeal. I learned four months ago my husband of 11 years had two affairs... Continue reading

Posted Jul 12, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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MoxieTopics

Introducing MoxieTopics, in-depth PDFs on the topics Ask Moxie readers are most interested in! These are the topics I get the most questions about, so I’ve written various posts over the years covering them, but this is the first time... Continue reading

Posted Jul 11, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Discussion: Tulips, Water, Ash by Lisa Gluskin Stonestreet

(This is a replacement post for the lost discussion post from June 26.) I know that discussions of books are supposed to have a distance, and that we're supposed to be impartial and discuss all the parts and the symbolism... Continue reading

Posted Jul 10, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Dealing with a toddler during an adult church service

I set the post discussing Lisa Stonestreet's Tulip, Water, Ashfor the Summer Readalong to autopost on June 26, and saw it, but now it's not here or in my saved posts. Did anyone else see it? I'm scared I deleted... Continue reading

Posted Jul 9, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Helping Anon and lawyer rec in Denver and

The randomness: 1. Julia from Mom Meet Mom created an Indiegogo link for all of us who want to help Anon who has the daughter with grieving issues about her father and the toddler twins. The funds are going to... Continue reading

Posted Jul 5, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Vent here safely for July 4

Vent here safely on any topic: fireworks scaring kids and pets, family stuff, pro-USA talk, anti-USA talk, struggle plates, and anything else you've got today. No Misery Poker. Everyone's pain is valid. Comment anonymously by putting in a fake URL. Continue reading

Posted Jul 4, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Review: Above All Movers and my last two insane weeks

On June 15 I got in the car with the kids and drove to Minnesota. I dropped them at camp that Monday, went back down to the Twin Cities and stayed with family and friends, then on Saturday the 22nd... Continue reading

Posted Jul 1, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Conference stuff

I just gave a presentation entitled "Beyond the Good Mother/Bad Mother Dichotomy: Bridging the Reality of the Relationship and Jobs of Motherhood Using Economic Theory" at the Communicating Motherhood conference in Toronto. I'm still working on the ideas but will... Continue reading

Posted Jun 24, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Picking up the pieces, and single parenthood

I had a conversation the other day with a long-time friend whose life is not turning out the way she thought it would, and she asked me to share her story. After a few years of marriage, she told her... Continue reading

Posted Jun 20, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Twin Cities and Toronto and Writing Through Your Divorce

I've driven 1200 miles since Saturday morning. Twin Cities: We're meeting at the playground at Lake Harriet today! I'll be there from 4 to 7. Bring your kids or come alone. I'm wearing a navy tank top and khaki-colored shorts... Continue reading

Posted Jun 19, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Fathers Day Vent Here Safely

Today can be painful, annoying, hurtful, resentment-inducing, or just plain disappointing. Put it all here safely. You know the deal: No Misery Poker. Everyone's pain is valid. If you have any extra to spare, support someone else. Comment anonymously by... Continue reading

Posted Jun 15, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Writing Through Your Divorce

The big announcement: Deesha Philyaw and I are opening registration this morning for our new online workshop Writing Through Your Divorce! If you're anywhere in the process of divorce (from pre-paperwork to years after finalization) and you'd like to use... Continue reading

Posted Jun 14, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Braindump for me and Primal Scream Thursday for you

Wow, I don't even know where to start. But here's a braindump: 1. I'm opening up a new workshop tomorrow with a collaborator that I love on a process that I adore and I'm super-beyond excited about it. 2. I'll... Continue reading

Posted Jun 13, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Feeling that "tug" and responding to it?

I'd been having a bad interaction and was feeling a little bruised about being on the internet, when this email from Andrea landed in my box: "I just wanted to thank you for bringing "Waiting To Unfold" to our attention.... Continue reading

Posted Jun 7, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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Q&A: What do you do when you feel like you just can't do it anymore?

Anon writes: "I'm a single mom of a 6-year-old and 2.5 year old twin boys. I got divorced right after the boys were born and I've been doing it alone the whole time. My 6yo is helpful but is having... Continue reading

Posted Jun 5, 2013 at Ask Moxie

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