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I was trying to explain this dynamic to some folks the other day after discussing BMH. None of us made reference to the things that you noted about the movie that was off -- though I'm sure that all of us noticed them and just chose to ignore it for the bigger picture. But someone asked why didn't more black folks just "pool their money and make their own movies" outside of the Hollywood machine? I deep sighed and tried to remember all that I've learned by watching you struggle with your dreams... and tried to explain to them how challenging it really is out there. I'm not in your industry but I know that the struggle is real for black creators. Especially in your business. I was (eventually) tickled by the USA Today headline fiasco because in the "real world" there was nothing about race in that movie. I was actually pleased that social media pushed back and questioned that phrasing. I hope that the anger/angst was noted in Hollywood but I have my doubts that it will be. It is unfortunate that this is our reality. I do thank you for breaking this down this way. Now I can share your words and your perspective directly to those people. Maybe they will gain a little bit of understanding about the ongoing struggle to get stories like ours on the screen.
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Hm. As a single chick who is in her early 40's... I was annoyed when the story kept floating through my news feed. I figured it was a gimmick and I just wasn't here for it. Then I finally read the story. Then I went to the blog. *blink* Lemme tell y'all what I know. Being single and black and a woman in this world will DRAG YOUR SELF-ESTEEM into the damn dirt if you don't fight against it with everything you've got. My parents and my family made sure I esteemed my gahtdayumedself. And it was a struggle because everything around me constantly told me that I wasn't enough. Then I grew up. I turned 21, unmarried. 30, unmarried. 40, still unmarried and no kids. Now, my self-esteem is constantly pummeled by everybody with a blog, a webcam or a tv show telling me all the pretzel-like yoga positions that I need to do either physically or mentally, in order to be "chose". I promise you... I say a hearty EFF YEW to all of it. I am not a donkey. I am not a cute pet dog who needs to do stupid pet tricks in order for some guy to decide "ooh, she's worthy of these carats" (pun intended). I don't care what they're saying now, she was desperate for that ring. And she latched on the the challenge because she felt somehow that she just wasn't enough just as she was. He is a chef. They ain't starving. So the sandwiches were never the issue. I think that they both needed this journey to figure out what love meant for them, what marriage was/is supposed to be about and how they can move from just being giddy that they have someone, to being bonded and ready to grow a life together. I realized that for me, the whole point is the expression of love and to show an appreciation for your partner. I will cook every day all day for my man. I like to eat and he does too. But if he ever parted his lips to say, if you make 300 sandwiches and I'll go to Jared's, he'll be eating air and I might forever be the unmarried friend.
Toggle Commented Sep 26, 2013 on Sandwiches and Shit at Rantings of a Creole Princess
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I do not want this in my life. Period. I know some folks feel that its "real" but it seems too horrible to be an acceptable life. There are so many things to deal with in life, this isn't one of those things I want to deal with. The aftermath isn't pretty. Its a hard life. I don't want it.
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I do not want this in my life. Period. I know some folks feel that its "real" but it seems too horrible to be an acceptable life. There are so many things to deal with in life, this isn't one of those things I want to deal with. The aftermath isn't pretty. Its a hard life. I don't want it.
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She looks like someone took a burnt sienna crayon and just scrubbed her with it. That is awful.
Toggle Commented May 2, 2012 on What say YOU? at Rantings of a Creole Princess
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She looks like someone took a burnt sienna crayon and just scrubbed her with it. That is awful.
Toggle Commented May 2, 2012 on What say YOU? at Rantings of a Creole Princess
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It made me laugh. Seriously. #shemad
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It made me laugh. Seriously. #shemad
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Awww... that's pretty cute. I think I like those. I am just starting to get comfy with the thingy between my toes too. I say hotNess.
Toggle Commented Mar 26, 2012 on eDress Me! at Rantings of a Creole Princess
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*deep sigh* Sadly, as creepy and ridiculous as his comments were, they are soooo very common. I stay offended. LOL. And then I just shake my head and remind myself that everybody doesn't have home training and being upset only gives me a headache. That sort of foolishness is what passes as a compliment these days. The fact that you are married matters not to people like him. Honestly, he probably is too. Which is even more gross and disturbing. I stay home now. I go out every now and then because I'm simply tired. More like mentally exhausted with the foolishness. Sorry that you experienced all this though. It is very disappointing. The bright side is that you had a great husband to share this sad story with.
Toggle Commented Mar 13, 2012 on What say YOU? at Rantings of a Creole Princess
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I am speechless. Actually by the time I got to the part that African American women don't want to commit, I was rendered mute. Yeah. I got nothing.
Toggle Commented Dec 19, 2011 on Craig's List Ad at Rantings of a Creole Princess
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In a cast iron pan with grooves shaped like corncobs. :) sometimes i put cheese in it, other times whole kernel corn. every now and then some bacon. just depends on the mood.
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Aww... I would definitely have a conversation with him. That weighs more than the short-sleeved suit. I don't even want to know where you found this.
Toggle Commented Aug 29, 2010 on Would YOU date him? at Rantings of a Creole Princess
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Me no likey. Looks like one of those bags you see on the stands in Georgetown. Maybe it looks better in person but its a hot mess to me.
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that dress is a tragedy.
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