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nelking
Portland, Oregon
Early Stage Startup Talent Manager
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Quirks. One of my favorite recruiting terms.
WINNING: It Takes Care of Everything at Your Company, Right?
You know the drill. The killer sales rep has issues with the ladies, the bottle and/or his teammates. Because he performs, all are encouraged to look the other way - until he doesn't perform, at which time it's "game on." It's a reality that dates back to prehistoric times, when the caveman w...
Pops. Cool
Pops schools a weasel
Here in Ann Arbor, it's a lot easier to get involved in pickup basketball at the gym. In New York, there's always 800 people waiting for a court, and they're either really tall and fast and skilled, or they'll elbow you in the nuts for a rebound. Here, you can usually find a good game, with regu...
Welcome to the club! I'm at the point now where I want to be all gray.
Coming out
I’ve been dishonest with you all for far, far too long. I can’t lie any longer. Are you sitting down? You’re probably sitting down. If you’re not, you should sit down. Or lie down, with your legs slightly elevated. How and where you recline is entirely your call. I’m just saying, if you’re stand...
I'm sending this to my boys, one off to college in September and the other one, not far behind.
This is perfect!
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About a month ago, Maggie Mason had a conversation with her 20-year-old self that resonated with those of Us who are very intrigued by meeting Previous Us. And, at least in my case, giving Previous Us a good slap. I'm not going to say I was an idiot when I was 20, but I did drink lots of really ...
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Jun 24, 2010
The whole explaining the deductible thing?
When are doctors going to start training their staff about how lousy most healthy insurance is and how they should keep their shock to themselves?
It's like they think we must be stupid to have a deductible so high and yeah, if they knew the monthly premium amount we pay? Their heads would explode.
Don't get me started
Hot coffee on a hot day? What the hell?
Great post!
An adventure
So I got over my cold/flu/near-death-experience last week, sort of, but I've still been feeling a little off. My ear, specifically, felt like something besides an ear. Like a wrench, or a possum. The important thing is, ear pain, ouch. And we're heading to Utah tomorrow. This morning I kept evalu...
no one ever said a blog post had to be wordy, or for that matter words at all
You'll make it work.
Weeknight knackered
Whether I’ll be able to finish this Juneblop boils down to this, right here. The School Night. Thanks to our new custody arrangement, the boys are spending some weeknights over here, at the Dad Pad. And if it’s been a particularly challenging day of Single Working Dadhood, and I finally get the ...
GO GO LOD!
Lucky seven
When last we heard from me, it was late March, and I was telling you how calm I felt while Life was clicking shells into the chamber of its Change Rifle and aiming it at the bridge of my glasses. "Fire away," I told Life. I don't even like these glasses. They're faded and bent and covered with f...
Okay, now I got it. Dr. Demento. This is where my father picked it up from. For my very Catholic Republican parents they loved Dr. Demento. Forbidden Zone is on my list now to see.
pico and sepulveda ... pico and sepulveda ... pico and sepulveda
Even the best day can be improved by a little Pico and Sepulveda ... (Of course, a day which requires me crossing the intersection at the actual Pico and Sepulveda is usually a very bad day, indeed.) I took my first visit to the Forbidden Zone a few months ago, and though I Twittered the hel...
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Mar 15, 2010
I am you. Can't do small talk chit chat,or work a room but can easily get up in front of many people and talk their ears off.
Selective introversion. What I've realized now is that well, everyone else needs to get over it. Buddying up with a "room worker" can be good, but I get it, at some point you have to take a break, soak it in, process and recharge.
My advice stop beating yourself up, others in that room are just like you.
Back from Texas
So I celebrated the latter half of Winter Break: The Breakening (alternate title: The Sky is Gray, the Days Are Cold, and Life is Joyless and Yet Too Brief; in Germany: Tod Kommt Für Uns Alle) by getting the hell out of here and hightailing it to Texas for the Mom 2.0 Summit. Sorry, Scott and Hen...
Proud that it's from Portland's own W+K. We do pretty well up here walking that fine line. And yes, I laugh every time "I'm on a horse"
Look at your man. Now look at this post.
This Old Spice commercial is undeniably awesome. I'd like to thank BUST for this post (and their awesome critique) and their ongoing non-snarky feminist analyses of pop culture. <3
This is why TAL is so compelling. I listened to this story while working out a few weeks ago.
Now that I know that a writer whose blog a read regularly knows Jason, it just brings it closer in an odd sort of way.
FYI, love the new banner. A little Oregon is always good.
You think you know somebody.
This morning, I was listening to an episode of "This American Life" called "How to Rest in Peace," about people coping with the murder of a parent. I don't normally seek out subject matter like that for my morning commute, but now that it starts at 5:45, it's not like I'm all that conscious, any...
I think this is true for everyone. I can do this self defeating talk about almost anything and then I push through and realize I'm very good at what I do, my ideas have merit and those that say I can't or I'm wrong are the truly fearful ones.
A few words about fear
Now that I’m committing to writing more on my blog, I’ve been thinking a lot about fear. Fear! BOO! Sorry, I didn’t mean to scare you. Come back! I really believed, before this, that I wasn’t able to post as much as I wanted because I didn’t have the time. But that wasn’t it at all. Because reall...
Asha is right.
My oldest was the same way as Henry. In middle school though, he took Band. In middle school they get to pick fun classes so he chose the Band route and chose trumpet, or as he describes it, he was given the trumpet. With varied teachers and classes he found inspiration, new friends that thought like he did. He is now a Senior, plays three instruments, helps all of his friends make and edit their films for class projects and joined the speech and debate club. He is himself. He's going to Central Washington University next year to pursue music.
That said, I know how hard it is to watch because you are absolutely sure, if he just tried something he'd never regret it. Keep suggesting, keep showing him but wait until he takes the initiative. If they own it fully and are not pushed, the family is happier all the way around.
A confession
Henry doesn't do any after-school activities. He doesn't attend a French class; he's not learning to play piano. He doesn't play soccer on the weekends, or basketball. His oboe is really neglected these days, because he doesn't take oboe lessons, and also, wait, we have no oboe. I would say this ...
Thanks Jennifer. Thanks for checking out the site too!
Try Work/Life Congruence
Remember work/life balance? After years of seeking out what that really meant I realized balance is the wrong word. "Work-Life Balance… Really? I didn’t know we died when we got to work and came back to life afterwards. I must have missed the transition when this oxymoron was first coined…”f...
Thanks Michael! and thanks for the RT too:)
Try Work/Life Congruence
Remember work/life balance? After years of seeking out what that really meant I realized balance is the wrong word. "Work-Life Balance… Really? I didn’t know we died when we got to work and came back to life afterwards. I must have missed the transition when this oxymoron was first coined…”f...
Dropbox is the answer for everything.
Getting down to work
So Mrs. Kennedy, my writing partner/reason for living, arrives tonight so that we may enjoy two intense weeks of work on our book. Our writing schedule thus far has gone like this: 1) write alternate chapters (I get the odds, she the evens), 2) read the other person’s chapters, and 3) cackle with...
Exactly what I do, just hadn't given it the pyramid shape. Interesting you talk about compensation at the bottom... more support for being prepared to share compensation up front. Biggest mistake is not knowing early what it's going to take to get to yes.
You might be interested in this guy www.chipconley.com He runs his company with Maslow's pyramids and helps others do the same. (and the hotels are great :))
Maslow, Oh Maslow. Self Actualization = Offer Acceptance.
So, it's true. We've probably talked ad nauseum here on FOT about how you always need to be closing as a recruiter. Always be closing folks! And I've talked about how the length of time it takes for your candidate to accept your job offer is directly tied to how well you, as a recruiter, have do...
Yep. Some of us are lucky to do what they love and it's much easier.
Try Work/Life Congruence
Remember work/life balance? After years of seeking out what that really meant I realized balance is the wrong word. "Work-Life Balance… Really? I didn’t know we died when we got to work and came back to life afterwards. I must have missed the transition when this oxymoron was first coined…”f...
Glad you think so!
When in Doubt go with a Zefrank Video
I like Zefrank. He's just got very funny, thoughtful way of cutting through the crap. I'm a fan of that. Little old but still relevant.
Thanks for the visit! I'll be right over to visit your blog.
Changing the World by Being Yourself
Check out Amy Poehler and Friend's "Smart Girls at the Party". A great concept focused on pre-teen girls and the cool things they do, all while being themselves. Being yourself.... not a bad idea for everyone.
I follow people I know, people who are informative, funny, and smart. I block people I don't know if I cant' figure out why they'd even want to follow me. If I could set up rules to auto block people, that would be great.
To manage my twitter stream, I don't use twitter. Right now I'm using the beta version of www.brizzly.com
I can create groups and I can monitor the stream in small, related chunks.
Twitter needs to control spam, but I'm finding the good tools to manage the stream are elsewhere.
Hey Twitter: Do You Want to Be MySpace or LinkedIn? Choose Carefully....
Twitter has been a good tool for me. I've connected with many people in a way not supported by blog technology, and the link sharing part of the Twitter culture is replacing some of the power of Google Reader in my life (I get enough good content in my line of work - the Talent game - from Twit...
Interesting question Alice. I haven't made a study of that, but my initial reaction is it's usually those who don't have much work experience include their GPA. That's not a bad thing, but I am still going to dig into what they did, what they accomplished beyond just the grade.
Those who after 5 years work experience are still pointing to their GPA still value the grade measurment.
Resumes never paint the whole picture of a person, just like grade don't paint the whole picture of a student.
The Non-Negotiables of Hiring for Cultural Fit: Tenacity/Resilience, Otherwise Known as Grit...
I'm working on a project at DAXKO I have a lot of interest in. Here's the spin - if you are in an environment where you're proud of your culture, have you gone to the extreme of trying to define what makes your culture unique? If you have defined it, do you aggressively interview all candidate...
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