I fantasize about things that I know my wife wouldn't do. I know my wife would do the sex stuff, but locations, times, etc. I have to figure how to convince her or persuade her. I do the same thing with non-sexual things as well...like when I dream about playing in the NBA or something. How would I get [insert NBA star here] to see me playing and think I'm awesome and bring me to a tryout. haha I'm a new reader, and just want to let you know that I love what I have read so far. I've seen a few things that have been linked to by others, but now I am starting to go backwards and read.