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Dan Brennan
Provoking a deeper conversation about cross-gender friendships
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I knew it was only a matter of time before a female theologian explored ecclesial friendship's deep mutuality. I am so, so, so thankful that I know something of this rich blessing/gift in my church. But it didn’t happen overnight.... Continue reading
Posted 4 days ago at Dan J. Brennan
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This is my sixth post on Dr. Chloe Lynch’s book, Ecclesial Leadership as Friendship. I am not writing an extensive or detailed review. It’s more like I am writing some reflections after experiencing a glorious fullness of mind and heart... Continue reading
Posted 7 days ago at Dan J. Brennan
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Why, yes, I have been raving about Dr. Chloe Lynch’s book, Ecclesial Leadership as Friendship on my blog as well as to my friends! I have been waiting for this book for years. In every sense of the word, Dr.... Continue reading
Posted Jun 22, 2019 at Dan J. Brennan
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In this series I have been reflecting on the groundbreaking new book, Ecclesial Leadership as Friendship. Previous posts are here in part one, two, and three. I knew it. I knew it was only a matter of time before a... Continue reading
Posted Jun 14, 2019 at Dan J. Brennan
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In these posts about Dr. Chloe Lynch’s trailblazing book, Ecclesial Leadership as Friendship, I am trying to convey something of the fullness I encountered in reading it. It is not my intention to do an extensive review of her book.... Continue reading
Posted Jun 6, 2019 at Dan J. Brennan
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“I have called you friends” (John 15:15). I’m pretty sure I have read over a thousand books quoting Jesus calling his disciples “friends.” It’s in leadership books. Psychology books. Sociology books. Philosophy books. Theology books. Commentaries. Books authored by pastors.... Continue reading
Posted May 28, 2019 at Dan J. Brennan
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It’s almost impossible for me to describe the feeling I had when I finished reading Chloe Lynch’s Ecclesial Leadership as Friendship. She has done the unthinkable! Lynch, an evangelical theologian has given theologians an outstanding contribution to a theology of... Continue reading
Posted May 24, 2019 at Dan J. Brennan
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As I write this, I am aware of some super progressive friends in my life, in my workplace, in my church, and in my FB feed. I’m also aware that I have some super nuanced conservatives or evangelicals (they would... Continue reading
Posted Feb 25, 2019 at Dan J. Brennan
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I finished reading John Townsend's book, How to be a Best Friend Forever a couple of weeks ago. So many thoughts were swirling in my head! From 2004 onward I have been able to say that some of my best... Continue reading
Posted Oct 25, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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Ever since the middle of the last decade when I could say a couple of my female friends were some of my best friends, I have hungered for friendship wisdom about opposite-sex best friends. That might be only a surprise... Continue reading
Posted Oct 10, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
Thanks for reading and responding Project Samizdat Chris! Yes, you are perceptive that I did not focus on the "culture of celebrity" part. That's because I wanted to go deeper into human flourishing with love promoting women's flourishing. It's been quite fashionable after the Chicago Tribune article in March to jump on the bandwagon to criticize the "celebrity culture" and to criticize celebrity pastors drunk with power. There are some huge voices with a lot of power--power in the sense of crowds following them and they have published books etc.--who have criticized Hybels and the whole megachurch model. I did not focus on this aspect because both reformed (that is, voices not supporting women as leaders and co-pastors) and egalitarian critics have seized the moment to criticize the megachurch model. But, my take is that you can have egalitarians and complemetarians clueless about their dominant power in small churches and one-on-one relationships (friendships). Well-intentioned men for example, who are still immersed in toxic masculinity and the evangelical purity culture, may ascribe to egalitarian ideals in a small church but be clueless about their power over individual women in small churches. Men who write on mutuality and egalitarian ideals in their books and blogs but who have never intentionally practiced any intimate friendships with women other than their wives. It's just my two cents, but we will miss confronting a lot of toxic masculinity in our church cultures if we just focus on megachurches or "celebrity" individuals. What is most important, is to be aware of toxic power in our most immediate relationships whether we are pastors in a megachurch or a small church.
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I’ve got one more post in me regarding Missio Alliance’s August 13th link, 7 Questions All Pastors Need to Ask Themselves Post-Hybels I wanted to see if one (or more!) of the self-awareness questions was going to explore friendship as... Continue reading
Posted Sep 4, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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Scrolling down my Facebook feed last Monday my eyes came across a new link by Missio Alliance: 7 Questions All Pastors Need to Ask Themselves Post-Hybels by Rich Villodas. That immediately grabbed my attention. I saw who the writer was,... Continue reading
Posted Aug 21, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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I have said some wonderfully positive things about Aimee Byrd’s new book on male-female friendship, Why Can’t We Be Friends? Go here for part one. Here for part two. Now, this last post, I am diving deeper into ecclesial intimacy.... Continue reading
Posted Jul 3, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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Another top ten list. I had been alone with female friends hundreds of times including several road trips over the course of thirteen years when I came upon a particular phrase by sociologist Maria Markus that powerfully resonated with me.... Continue reading
Posted Jul 1, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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Take it from me, friends. Aimee Byrd's Why Can't We Be Friends is a rich, unflinching, non-anxious exploration of intimate friendships between men and women. On the one hand, it's shocking that it comes from a conservative reformed publisher. On... Continue reading
Posted Jun 26, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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I am thrilled that Aimee Byrd's new book on friendship between the sexes, Why Can't We Be Friends?: Avoidance is not Purity gets released next week. Friends, she is dropping a bombshell in the conservative evangelical community and is making... Continue reading
Posted Jun 20, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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I have watched the chatter on social media as bloggers (men and women) have been stirred to react in this new era of anxious egalitarianism. As I anticipated , a number of bloggers have been stirred to respond to this... Continue reading
Posted May 22, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
So much has happened since the Chicago Tribune article back in March! We have some bombshells to talk about since my last blog post! It's not any exaggeration to say we are facing this unprecedented moment as the #ChurchToo movement... Continue reading
Posted May 5, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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Well, a lot has happened since I wrote my first post. Nancy Ortberg, wife of John Ortberg has stepped forward with her own story. Vonda Dyer also came forth with vivid details about her story. And so did Nancy Beach.... Continue reading
Posted Apr 15, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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I don’t believe it is an understatement to observe that the revelation of sexual misconduct against evangelical megachurch pastor Bill Hybels has rocked the evangelical egalitarian community. It was a substantial article in last Thursday’s Chicago Tribune that broke the... Continue reading
Posted Mar 29, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
“Would you pray for me?” she asked with a glowing smile. "I have a date today." It’s always a great joy, delight, and honor to pray with and for a single female friend who is going out on a date... Continue reading
Posted Mar 14, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
Why would two opposite sex friends want to pray with and for each other? Intimacy with God. Deep friendship with God. To taste and see God’s everlasting tenderness in spiritual friendship. For two opposite sex friends to know there is... Continue reading
Posted Mar 9, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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What a deep, healthy marker for all cross-gender friendships in the 21st century: powerful cherishing. Ramblings this morning about cherishing and cross-gender friends on Valentine's Day! You guys, last night with "Jane"--my Catholic therapist. I went deep into the whole... Continue reading
Posted Feb 14, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan
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Skyscrapers & Elevators: What Women Have Taught Me About Non-Romantic Tenderness I would like to warmly share with you one of the most intimate, vulnerable, and tender blog posts I feel compelled to write in a long, long time. I... Continue reading
Posted Feb 10, 2018 at Dan J. Brennan