I have been exchanging emails with an acquaintance from high school which started with his sharing a writing excerpt about a first crush. In return I shared something similar, which included a bit of a description of how I felt I was treated. It is interesting to me how kids... Continue reading

This blog is primarily for me to vent to my children, with them not having to actually hear my venting. However, over the past weekend an old acquaintance from high school got me to thinking more about writing for a bigger audience. Perhaps I will strive to do so. Today... Continue reading

Something I wish I could tell my children is that I want to revamp their bedrooms. That would be a partial lie. What I want is for them to come home and live. Another lie. If they were to come home and live here, they would be adults not currently... Continue reading

As I began this blog, I did so with as much anonymity as I could. I suppose there are clues, or phrases, or stories which could be identitified as written by me. That, however, is not my intent. There are pieces of myself which are compartmentalized, and perhaps not even... Continue reading

I wonder, if while parenting, if too much focus was put on looking out for others. As tiny children my babies were taught to share, were shown through example how efforts to think of others is the "right" way to behave, and perhaps too often to think about how actions... Continue reading

I am surprised to find myself in midlife hearing friends still complaining about the damage their parents caused them. We all understand that family helps to form who we are, yet there are those who seem to use their family of origin as an excuse for bad behavior twenty years... Continue reading

I hope that I can silently help my kids create a perfect marriage. And yet I know I can't. Even if I knew how to make a perfect marriage for myself, that doesn't mean I know what my kids need in a marriage. I even understand that perfect is just... Continue reading

It wasn't until you got to high school that any of us really started talking about success. I guess we were surrounded by success. Attorneys, successful business people, professional politicians, major corporate officers...that is who your family is. That is what seems to show the most. We also have alcoholics,... Continue reading

I disagree, but I don't think you are wrong for you. I disagree in my experience. It may be that we are saying similar things, but using different vocabulary. Your God of Miracles may be my lessons presented by the universe. We may be saying the same thing. You may... Continue reading

My children are now out of the nest most of the time. The goal has been to keep them safe, but to teach them how to keep themselves safe. The goal has been for them to be able to have satisfying, interdependent lives, living with success as they define it.... Continue reading