I am going through a serious season of being tested... many areas of my life have been a struggle and when you are single and going through it alone, it can make things seem that much harder...I am blessed because I do have a good network of friends and family to lean on...but lets keep it real I rather be leaning on my man... in the end I am learning patience and learning I am worth so much more and I will be blessed with the right man at the right time. Continue reading

Keep loving life ladies..every struggle makes us stronger... Continue reading

So where do I begin since my last log on I have been drowning myself in a new business venture called Chela's Handmade Boutique http://www.etsy.com/shop/chelahandmade my handmade items mostly crochet items but I am planning on adding other items that I make such as journals, scrapbooks, and cards. I love to create that is my passion and I feel truly blessed to be able to share my creations with others... I have a scrapbook website that also keeps me busy www.urbanscrappers.ning.com.As far as my single life its been quiet no unusual suspects just the same old story everyone just wants to know what you can do for them today and when is it going down.... late night booty calls have become normal behavior for men its as if no man exist until after midnight they are like vampires waiting to suck you dry or to be sucked either or ...lol What a shame I have so much more to offer than just that thing.... Continue reading

I woke up with this thought in my head...it is better to have loved and lost to never have loved before...I am blessed because I have loved and I have a love in my heart that no one can take away.... Continue reading

Okay so lets review I have been single for about 6 months or more I lost count...and this is what I have learned... I attract babies yes I love the whole cougar thing but give me a break 21years old come on my daughter is 21... :-( The single men my age are so damaged and out of season... I feel like I am shopping on the clearance rak!!!! The other men my age are married and thought they heard cheating in their wedding vows.... do you promise to love honor and cheat till death do you part...whatever!!! Then we... Continue reading

True love last a lifetime.... Continue reading

Why do men have to be so complicated!!!! Continue reading

Be open to new experiences and expect to fail a few times as you began to take control of your dating life. Expect some rejections, but let the sting of rejection roll off your back. Keep pressing forward!! Never give up on seeking love you deserve.... J.J.Smith Why I love Men Continue reading

Wake up call # 7 If the guy you're dating doesn't seem to be completely into you, or you feel the need to start " figuring him out," please consider the glorious thought that he might just not be that into you FREE YOURSELF AND FIND ONE THAT IS. Continue reading

We all know men get hurt just as much as women but at least we admit it and try to work through our issues but a hurt man is scorned for life... you have to rebuild him piece by piece and unfortunately many women have to many of their own issues to worry about rebuilding a man... but their are a few women who can relate and understand the pain and how hard it is to trust love again so lets work through our issues together and see where this may lead us.... A revised sample coordinates the mod wallet. Continue reading

Big Blizzard of 2010 so glad we stuck together and made it through the storm I want to thank all the guys who text me to check on me so sweet... "Hey is your power still out" "Did you find a ride to the store" "Did you find someone to shovel the front" especially the one who asked .. "Are you still stuck in the snow let me know when you are free so I can come by" yup... all the wonderful men in my world .. thank you for all for support and kind words!!! BUT I HAVE TO... Continue reading

Hi ladies sorry it has been a crazy single girls world let me give you an update.... well Mr. Take It Slow is still taking it slow :-( Mr. Taken is not taken anymore I think because he has been calling none stop???... Mr. Busy is still busy but so am I so its all good!!! I have a a few new members Mr. Come Over this guy is always asking me to come visit him no dates just visit me I am not sure what he wants...lol and then there is Mr. Marry Me he is very sweet and... Continue reading

Okay FYI... visiting your home is not consider a date unless you cook me a candle light dinner that does not include take out!! Movie night is not a porn in your bedroom.. I'm just saying...lol What happen to a good old fashion date!! Daily Wake-Up Call #40 "Hey lets meet at so -and - so's party/ any bar / friend's house" is not a date. Even if you live in New York" -He's Just Not That Into You LeToya Luckett - "Not Anymore" (Official Video) HQ Uploaded by wonderful-life1989. - Explore more music videos. Continue reading

I almost lost my swag ... that was close glad I am back in full force today was a good day... did some reflecting..... realize that everything is for a reason I should not look at other peoples lives to define mines... your life is your life and my life is mine and I am grateful for what God has given me I may not have the white picket fence the husband and three car garage but I have 5 beautiful children many great fun friends and a loving family ... I got my swag back I am not looking... Continue reading

I just finish watching, " His Just Not That Into You" what a great movie and as you know I already love the book so I will be buying the movie and watching it over and over again in remembrance of the all the wonderful men who string you along when they can just say " Honey....I Am Just Not That Into You" and to remind me that, no matter how many sparks I feel, every man I meet is not the one....lol Continue reading

I am sick of men with this you need to stop depending on a man and do it yourself.... let me set the record straight and I speak for me not all women here it is... Yes I am an independent woman when I have to be!!!! but if you are a man who wants to be in my life then I will expect you to do for me.... independent women are single women who know how to make it on their own and that is fine I am all that but when a man is my life its no... Continue reading

Happy New Year !!! 2010 !!!! I bought the New Years in on the couch watching movies with my sons... and thankful that through the broken hearts, hard relationships, and struggles ... I was blessed with five amazing children that each have unique personalities and love me unconditionally :-) This is the first New Years I bought in without stressing what I did wrong ,what I didn't do, I celebrated my achievements, my life, and my children, and look forward to many more blessed days :-) I LOVE MY LIFE!!!! Continue reading

Who said you cant have your cake and eat it too.... I can and I did after hanging with my girlfriend at the sports bar, Mr. Lets Take It Slow called and I went to see him, a well rounded evening. I am still trying to figure Mr. Lets Take It Slow out especially since he came over for dinner last night... I probably should put my foot down and spend time with some of my other friends like Mr. Busy... Mr. Taken...Mr.Take Me Back...Mr. Call Me When Your Hot.. No I think I will just take it slow....lol what... Continue reading

Okay so Mr.Lets Take It Slow wants me to come watch the game with him... but I already made plans with my girlfriends... so do I a. be a B*tch and say sorry I am busy b. or as usual spend time with him c. go to the bar with my girlfriend and find a Mr. Right The right ans is c. On my way to find Mr. Right sorry Mr. Take It Slow...lol Chela Continue reading

Okay ladies are you sitting.... I just got the "WE SHOULD TAKE IT SLOW" hmm....I was amazed since I am usually the one saying this but it happens to us all. What could I have possibly done to make this man believe I was rushing into a relationship lets see.... Could it have been spending almost everyday together since we meet... but he calls me to see what I am doing and I say nothing why don't you come by.... I was just being nice...lol ???? Could it be my friends see him and ask him where am I ...... Continue reading

Okay I get it number #1 rule in dating is have a life... never be to available or desperate... but if I live my life and he is living his...when do we make time for each other...or maybe the bottom line he is just not the one!!! Continue reading

What a day... have you ever seen a movie when someone is forced to see their life past or future in a second... that's how this day went... it went by so fast and so much happen... lots of love, children, family, friend, food, and fun... Christmas Day isn't the same as when I was a little girl it is better ....because I get to see the joy and have the memories of my children happy faces when they open their gifts :-) Continue reading

one of my favorite book is " He's Just Not That Into You" I try to read it everyday it keeps me grounded...they have a small version called " Your Daily Wake-Up Call" Today wake up call is..... " When a guy is into you, he lets you know it. He calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he can't keep his eyes or hands off of you, and when its time to have sex, he's more than overjoyed to oblige." That's whats I am talking about :-) Continue reading

I am never amazed at how the nicest guys can suddenly turn into the biggest jerks and they do it just when you decided that they might be the nicest guy you have ever meet ( in the last 4 weeks) then...BOOM.. the ass comes out.. they change into jerks... okay so who did this to me.. I rather not say but I will pose a questions .... If someone you have been seeing pretty steady for about 4 weeks tells you baby I am not feeling well I think I have a cold do you say ...... a. call... Continue reading

Tonight is date night with my boys...PRICELESS!! Continue reading