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Sharon LaMothe
Seattle, WA
LaMothe Surrogacy Consulting-Expert Guidance, Education and Support
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Surrogacy is a generous and selfless act. Women choose to become surrogates because they want to give the gift of life to another family and, of course, because they want to enjoy the experience and be the best surrogate they can be! You have decided to give a priceless gift to those who cannot start a family on their own. However, this process does not come without some challenges. Even though every surrogacy journey is different, here are six things to keep in mind when becoming a surrogate. Continue reading
Posted 2 days ago at Surrogacy 101
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How much the compensation could help their own family is a secondary thought. Some women become surrogates for a family member or close friend, and in those cases they often don’t request compensation, or at least significantly reduced compensation. The surrogate’s expenses related to the pregnancy are covered by the Intended Parents, whether the surrogacy is altruistic or compensated. It really depends on the surrogate. A decision to act altruistically or be compensated depends on the gestational carrier’s relationship with the Intended Parents, whether she chooses to go through an agency or not, and even on if she lives in a place where laws don’t allow her to be compensated. No matter what choice a gestational carrier makes, I can tell you from personal experience as a surrogate, being a gestational carrier is work. It takes time and energy, not only for a pregnancy, but also with the relationships of the others involved in the process with you, especially the Intended Parents. Being a Gestational Carrier is a wonderful gift that is priceless to many people who couldn’t otherwise have children of their own. Continue reading
Posted Jun 12, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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If you are planning to hire a surrogacy agency then expect to pay anywhere from $18k-$50K depending on the services offered, how long that agency has been in business and the size of the agency. A Surrogacy Consultant, like myself, will also assist with a lot of these steps but only after the Intended Parents have found their own surrogate (be it from an Internet search, through a friend or working with a family member). It can be significantly less expensive with a consultant. Continue reading
Posted Jun 5, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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I know we have all heard the horror stories of the controlling and demanding Intended Parents. Really most intended parents want what’s best for you and their baby. With that said, some things to expect, that may seem strange in a Gestational Carrier Agreement are limits on travel, handling rodents, reptiles and poop, and extreme sports. Continue reading
Posted May 28, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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You have decided to give a priceless gift to those who cannot start a family on their own. However, this process does not come without some challenges. Even though every surrogacy journey is different, here are six things to keep in mind when becoming a surrogate. Continue reading
Posted May 25, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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My friends and family were mostly completely unfamiliar with having a baby via Gestational Carrier, it seemed weird to nearly everyone I knew and they were worried on my behalf. Nobody, me included, didn’t know what we didn’t know. The only exposure most people have to surrogacy is either “Baby Mama” or a million lifetime movies where everything that could possibly go wrong, did. So I decided to take the opportunity in this article to address some common fears and worries from an IP perspective. Continue reading
Posted May 22, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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Frequently, intended parents also feel burdened by creating a structured weekly Skype or face time call with their surrogates. They want the relationship to grow organically. Yet, many families experience a honeymoon period with their surrogate and this does not always last. Very often, once the initial excitement of the positive pregnancy test wears down, everyone gets busy and it is far too easy to fall into the trap of only talking about the pregnancy. If this happens, the relationship can feel more like a business relationship than a friendship. Continue reading
Posted May 17, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
No one wants to have a baby for another family and be left with over 40 lbs., sometimes closer to 100 lbs- however, as women, this is something that we must deal with! So what is the best way to make sure the baby weight will fall off and quickly? Here are 5 tips for losing your surrogacy pregnancy weight. Continue reading
Posted May 14, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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A doula is a trained professional who provides information and support for a family during their pregnancy, birth, and early postpartum time. In preparation for labor and delivery, a doula can coach a pregnant woman of what to expect in the process, options in the case of complications, and techniques for coping. Although a surrogate will likely not need the same background information as in her first pregnancy, a doula can provide guidance for new circumstances and information for the intended parents on what to expect. Continue reading
Posted May 6, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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Thank you to everyone who took the time to vote for their favorite blogs! Surrogacy 101 took 7th place and I am happy and honored to be included in the top 10! If there is a topic you would like to see addressed in Surrogacy 101 just let me know! Many thanks to MySurrogateMom.com and David Bull for holding the contest and congratulations to my fellow participants! There are some great blogs out there offering a ton of information on surrogacy and other family building options. Click the link at the bottom of this post to see which blogs should be on your reading list! Continue reading
Posted May 4, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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At my Seattle studio, Pokidots!, I take sentimental baby items and make beautiful keepsakes that can be displayed in your home, and that tell the unique and wonderful journey of your family and your baby. A first blanket, a hospital hat, a coming-home outfit, or a favorite onesie become exceptional pieces of art made just for you. Continue reading
Posted May 3, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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The main reason people cite for not using a matching entity to match is that it saves the intended parents money. Sometimes people also feel like a matching entity is a bit cumbersome and want to cut out the middle man or the third party. However, the con to that is that it leaves you little or no buffer during this process, especially for the hard conversations and parts of the process, such as number of embryos to transfer, termination, money, special requests and other preferences. Continue reading
Posted Apr 30, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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These are just a few of many rituals surrogates may follow to relieve their anxieties during the two week wait or to try to positively influence the outcome. If you tried something else that you felt worked or didn’t work, please feel free to share. Sending positive embryo sticking thoughts to all of the surrogates out there with upcoming transfers! Continue reading
Posted Apr 26, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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It is true that “7.4 million women, or 11.9% of women, have ever received any infertility services in their lifetime. Approximately one-third of infertility is attributed to the female partner, one-third attributed to the male partner and one-third is caused by a combination of problems in both partners or, is unexplained.” https://resolve.org/infertility-101/what-is-infertility/fast-facts/ This is an issue that affects a high number of both men and women, yet so many people suffer in silence. Continue reading
Posted Apr 24, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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Most people think of doulas as support for the person who is giving birth. But there are many kinds of doulas. Antepartum doulas, postpartum doulas, sibling doulas, bereavement doulas, and abortion doulas.There are 3 ways a doula can help you as Intended Parents. Continue reading
Posted Apr 22, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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Surrogacy 101 blog was one of the Top 30 and I truly am grateful for your nominations! So one last request! Please vote for Surrogacy 101 by clinking HERE (www.Mysurrogatemom.com) and then voting! If you truly feel that this blog has given you some perspective on your surrogacy journey or answered some of your most pressing questions then it has done it's job. I also want to thank all of my guest bloggers! You all make this blog possible!! Thank you in advance for your votes! Continue reading
Posted Apr 20, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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Starting your surrogacy journey, it’s really important that you try to put yourself in the shoes of the other (as best as you can). Most IPs have had a long, emotional, trying journey that then led them to surrogacy. Opposite to this, is a surrogate who can easily get pregnant, carried her own babies to full term and had uneventful and easy pregnancies. So, just understanding this basic perspective of where the other is starting from is extremely important. Continue reading
Posted Apr 19, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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My family and friends were an amazing support system.I absolutely love my family and have the coolest friends ever. Everyone was supportive and excited for us, but I had no idea how they would be cheering us on and offering to help out constantly. From my boss letting me take little break time naps to my ex-husband helping out with the kids, so I could rest and focus on my growing twin belly. Continue reading
Posted Apr 16, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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Just add your favorite surrogacy blog and let the games begin! It's a great way to share information and award the best 10 surrogacy blogs out there! Hosted by MySurrogateMom.com Continue reading
Posted Apr 10, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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How do you navigate the judgement of others when you want to become, or already are, a surrogate? People can be mean and sometimes not aware that their comments can be hurtful. Continue reading
Posted Apr 9, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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Third-party journeys can take many months and even years. Payment requests come from many sources including your surrogate, agency, insurance providers, the fertility clinic, attorneys and other payees. Having access to your full ledger anytime you wish is not just a nice-to-have but a need-to-have. The transparency gives you the control you deserve throughout this process. Continue reading
Posted Apr 1, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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Remember that every intended parent-surrogate connection is different, but here is some general advice for making sure you build a healthy relationship based on open communication. Continue reading
Posted Mar 28, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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One of the most tip-toed around subjects when navigating surrogacy is coping with pregnancy loss. It is undoubtedly a painful and uncomfortable subject for so many people. This unspoken sorrow touches the lives of Intended Parents and Surrogates alike, and it is long past time to break the uncomfortable silence and have an honest conversation about this experience. Many Intended Parents choose surrogacy after having experienced devastating losses. Likewise, Surrogates will have sometimes experienced loss themselves, or could experience it during the course of their surrogacy journeys. The pain of pregnancy loss is very real and persistent. It often colors the experience of the Intended Parents and Surrogates, adding to their anxiety as they go through the surrogacy process. Continue reading
Posted Mar 25, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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The matching phase is one of the most exciting times in your surrogacy journey, and creating your intended parent profile can be the most important step for finding the best surrogate match for you.Your profile will be the first impression you make on a surrogate candidate, so it is a vital piece of your matching process. Continue reading
Posted Mar 20, 2019 at Surrogacy 101
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IPs underestimate the timeline as well as the cost. Depending on if they are working on an independent surrogacy journey or with an agency the timeline always seems to be off. If IPs are going independent then often times they underestimate what the budget should be for each step. They also make assumptions (in both cases) that the surrogate will become pregnant on the first round of IVF and will never need bed rest and everything associated with that. There are misconceptions on what a pregnant woman needs in order for her to carry for another couple. Continue reading
Posted Mar 11, 2019 at Surrogacy 101