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Brooklyn, NY
Navigating the journey of two Brooklyn foragers of urban treats from childless abandon to daddyhood.
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A version of this piece was originally published on American Circus. In about a month, the wails of newborn baby boys will swell through a Connecticut delivery room, completing a circle that began two years ago when my husband Lin and I first pitched ourselves into the thicket of gestational... Continue reading
Posted May 21, 2013 at The Junior Project
A version of this piece was originally published on Huffington Post. My husband Lin and I are busily preparing for the arrival of twin boys, in June. Lin has started his baby reading project with a history of American child rearing going back to the days of the colonies, seeking... Continue reading
Posted Apr 16, 2013 at The Junior Project
A version of this piece originally appeared on Huffington Post. My first memory is of being in a laundromat in Fairbanks. I was 3, and had been spirited by my mother from the relative comfort of New England to the wilds of Alaska. Freshly divorced, and with a typically 1970s... Continue reading
Posted Mar 14, 2013 at The Junior Project
A version of this piece was originally published on Huffington Post. Over the holidays I was toasted by someone I respect a lot. He congratulated Lin and I on our impending parenthood, and said that we’d soon encounter a kind of love we didn’t even know was possible. Until joining... Continue reading
Posted Feb 19, 2013 at The Junior Project
This piece originally appeared on Huffington Post Gay Voices. Jeanne, our surrogate, is at seventeen weeks now and just starting to show. Two weeks ago she had a routine OB appointment, the kind we don’t usually travel to because they’re quick, and reveal little. But when she got to the... Continue reading
Posted Feb 1, 2013 at The Junior Project
Thanks so much! It's a tough process but I expect it to be worth it. You can email me at with any more questions about the cost, etc!
Toggle Commented Jan 17, 2013 on Questions and answers... at The Junior Project
This site will remain, but I'll most likely be posting Junior Project-esque updates to HuffPo from now on, and co-posting here... First HuffPo piece... At a Rhode Island wedding ten years ago, I ran into an acquaintance. Amid small talk about our adopted homes of San Francisco and Seattle,... Continue reading
Posted Jan 9, 2013 at The Junior Project
Each week a site called BabyCenter emails us an update, which, among other things, likens the size of our fetuses to various fruits and nuts. Those above represent weeks ten through twelve, and coincidentally seem like they might also go nicely together in a compote. Jeanne's been feeling good recently,... Continue reading
Posted Dec 20, 2012 at The Junior Project
I've been dreaming a lot. The other night it was that I had a baby goat and no clue how to feed it. That it was my goat was clear, but I was doing a horrible job taking care of the thing. I said in my sleep something about a... Continue reading
Posted Dec 10, 2012 at The Junior Project
Goodness gracious. What a couple of months. What a last few weeks! Hurricane, election, out-of-town guests, a snowstorm, a job in flux... cue the frogs. It's all very agnostically apocalyptic. Since the miscarriage in July - it feels harsh to just lay it out like that after so long apart,... Continue reading
Posted Nov 9, 2012 at The Junior Project
{I learned today that the blog will be featured on the main Typepad site for the next week, so if you're a first-time reader, Welcome! This blog been a labor of love, and almost a psychological necessity, as we've proceeded through the surrogacy process. Until this point, our dear readers... Continue reading
Posted Aug 28, 2012 at The Junior Project
Hi - Marc here, the author...just a tip that since the blog is written from oldest to newest, you may want to start back at the beginning of June if this all seems really confusing!!!
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My emotional state resisted crumbling on that day. I wasn't numb exactly, but I wasn't all there either. That I felt the urgent need to walk around Marshall's says a lot. Probably says enough. That I managed to get a bit of joy from finding a set of olive-wood Laguiole... Continue reading
Posted Aug 10, 2012 at The Junior Project
Hi folks, this is Lin, the husband. I’m gonna talk a little about Ultrasound Day, and then Marc will be back to bring this story up to the present day. In the summer, because of our strange work schedules, Marc & I usually only have Tuesday and Wednesday during the... Continue reading
Posted Aug 3, 2012 at The Junior Project
Two weeks after the embryo transfer, a pregnancy test was ordered. Not an at-home, pee wand thing, but a blood test peformed at a lab. After that we'd know if Jeanne was pregnant; if Oingo and/or Boingo had implanted, "taken", done their thing. Lin and I went back and forth... Continue reading
Posted Jul 31, 2012 at The Junior Project
We left South Dartmouth headed for New York, stopping only briefly for some dinner at the Clarke Cooke House in Newport. I had to get up early the following morning to drive back to the Hamptons for work, so time felt compressed and the road like my second home. The... Continue reading
Posted Jul 27, 2012 at The Junior Project
Sometimes the enormity of it all startles you. But it's silly to go around thinking about how you're "making a life", even if it's true. And there's so much busywork that the process doesn't easily incline itself to a ton of reflection -- there are steps to take and you... Continue reading
Posted Jul 24, 2012 at The Junior Project
March was flying by, and the mildest winter in memory persisted with sunny, snowless days that found us busy but not too busy to enjoy things. I took a four-day trip to visit Karen and Stephen and the kids in Virginia, where our first kid talk had been sparked, and... Continue reading
Posted Jul 13, 2012 at The Junior Project
The lunch went well, but we were reluctant to throw a party quite yet. On the drive back to Brooklyn Lin emailed Jeanne, saying how great it was to meet her and Frank, and how happy we were to be moving forward. She definitely had email on her phone, so... Continue reading
Posted Jul 10, 2012 at The Junior Project
Of the two of us, I'm the one who gets mad, complains, or otherwise overtly expresses disappointment. Lin contemplates, percolates, and forms reasoned responses. But upon reading the latest profile, he called the agency and expressed how upsetting it was, after six months of waiting and two false-starts, to be... Continue reading
Posted Jul 6, 2012 at The Junior Project
The surrogacy process begins with you standing at the opening to a long, pitch-black tunnel that you must negotiate. Only, you don't know what's inside, or how long it is, or what's at the other end. You have hopes, though, and they are your compass. And there are guideposts along... Continue reading
Posted Jul 4, 2012 at The Junior Project
After Amy moved on, there was little to do but wait. That, and absorb the reality, at last and fully, that absolutely nothing in this process was in our control. Save of course for writing checks that seemed like they should be on a 3'x5' chipboard, with Publishers Clearinghouse written... Continue reading
Posted Jul 2, 2012 at The Junior Project
The rest of the summer flowed by. Work took me away from the city as often as usual, but by then Lin and I were pros at the apart/reunite routine , and even took joy in it occasionally. Time passed quickly in that August heat, though, mainly because we had... Continue reading
Posted Jun 29, 2012 at The Junior Project