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We got rid of hours about 4 months ago and my daughter is 3 and a half now. The most important bit for me was to get rid of all the dummies to a place where I couldn't be weak. So I put them all in the outside bin (where the dog poo goes and all the household rubbish). I knew that no matter how bad things got I would NEVER get them out of that bin to put in her mouth. We had it bad for about a week and on the first night she was inconsolable for about 2 hours. The dummy fairy came to give presents, but before she went to sleep she sobbed to me 'Will the dummy fairy be cross because I'm crying?' I though my heart would just break there and then, but we got through it and she s fine now. She remembers the dummies, but as something that babies have. I was very careful though not to say that they were being given to a 'baby who didn't have any' as she is a very empathic child and I knew she would be upset my wanting to take something away from a poor baby! Good Luck, you can do it.
Toggle Commented Jan 7, 2009 on I need a pep talk at So Close
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Congratulations and good luck. As for the sickness, I am sure that someone in the previous 200 comments must have mentioned hyperemesis gravidarum. Long name, but not that scary. I had it and was very sick indeed. 40 times a day for 8 months. The whites of my eyes went black with retching and I was hospitalised for 4 months. BUT. I had the most beautiful healthy girl born 2 weeks late, but perfect in every way. Keep an eye out for dehydration (more peeing on sticks) and ask a doctor about it as you could get some simple meds to help (metoclopromide and cyclizine to name 2). Well done you! XXXX
Toggle Commented Oct 16, 2008 on A slow learner (PG ment) at So Close
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OK, long time reader first time commenter. I thought i was the only person who wondered why the great Mr Phelps was doing that! He is so well known in our house (I love the Olympics) that my 3 year old is calling him Uncle Phelps! From reading your other comments is seems as all the US guys are doing it. Perhaps we don't do it (I'm from the UK) because we don't do the whole hand over heart thing when we hear the national anthem.
Toggle Commented Aug 19, 2008 on Other Items Olympic at Uncommon Julia
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My smoking that it. She can't quite manage a lighter yet.
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Good Luck, I am following heather's lead. My 3 year old (just) has teeth in a perfect circle shape. I sucked my thumb until I was 14 and never needed braces so I underestimated the effect of the evil dummy. We have started telliing her that her grandparents will bring her a camera (digital thing, much cheeper in America where they are going on holiday) if she give her dummys to the babies who have none. She is all for giving things to poor babies so within 6 weeks I hope to have cracked it. She only has them at bedtime and in the car, but asks for one whenever she is tired or sad. She actually has 2 and rubs one on her nose so I am going to hang on your every word in order to sort this! I think it was easier to give up smoking than take dummy away. Help. And again, Good Luck.
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Hi Tertia, Sorry, haven't read all the comments as I have to go to work, but wanted to say my little girl is just the same as your two. She will be 3 in August and to nap or not to nap is the question! She goes to pre-school 2 afternoons and she can't nap on those days as she finishes too late. At bedtime (7pm) she usually goes straight to sleep and wakes at about 7.30-8am. On the days when she has no school and is at the childminder's then she has a nap for 1 hour. Bedtime becomes a farce and we are up and down the stairs every 15 minutes. the excuses she comes up with are wonderful and it is hard not to laugh Forst I have to scare away the naughty chicken, then Mr. Spider and last night some monsters and a tiger too. Then we have wees, poos etc. Well we don't but she says it to get out of bed. Then when she sees me getting bored of running up and down she nneds a hug, or a cuddle or her teddy or some other such cuteness. Sleep comes about 9.30 pm and we usually have to wake her at 9 ish in the morning when she is in a terrible mood. I never put her down for a nap if I am at home (hubby and I work shifts), he tries to, but usually fails, but then lets her sleep at about 4pm (arrgh) and the childminder lets her nap. With no nap she gets a abit grumpy at about 5pm is (teatime), but you can help her through it and feed her and then she's usually refueled enough for a game or 2 before bath time at 6pm. The trouble is she never wants a nap when I am home until after 3pm, when she gets a bit tired and by then it is too late so I jolly her through it. i would rather have an easy bedtime than a free hour in the afternoon. I suppose what i am saying is choose, nap and later to bed by an hour or so and no nap and early bedtime. I am biased as last night I went to bed before she went to sleep (9.30) and she kept popping in to see me. Now I am up at 4am and lovely husband will get a lie in as she's knackered. Now she wont have a nap today, be exhausted at bedtime and tomorrow morning when it's may day off and I would like a little lie in 9hubby will be up for work at 5) she will be up and at 'em at 7am. No easy answer, just felt like sharing, now must get dressed for work. Good luck.
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Hi Tertia and Merry Christmas! I read a great book called 'How to get your child to eat, but not too much' by Ellen Satyr (the book is definitely called that but her surname may be wrong). I thought it was excellent. The basic premise is that a child will not starve and it is not our responsibility to make them eat. It is our job to provide good food and it is their job to eat it. She says no short order cooking (i.e. if they don't eat what you put in front of them don't cook anything else), put bread on the table with every meal (I don't do this as it is ALL my 2 year old would eat), pudding is part of the meal and not a treat (we are talking good puddings like fruit and yogurt etc not cake a chocolate). Also do not make a fuss when they don't eat, just leave them to it for a while at the table and then take it away and offer pudding. Apparently all children are neophobes (scared of new stuff) and they have to be exposed to a new thing 9 or so times before they will accept it. My 2 year old eats fairly well, we do have blank refusal about 5 times a week, but I stay calm (very hard as I do cook for her, but freezers are your friend) and just take it away. 9 times out of 10 (honestly) as soon as it is back in the kitchen she asks for it and eats most of it. I don't offer snacks between meals unless it is snack time and i think very carefully about everything I offer her. Basically if she chooses not eat at mealtimes then she has to wait until the next mealtime for any food other than water. Harsh I know, but it is what i have to do to make sure she has a balanced diet of something other than bread! It is hard and I do remind myself all the time that eventually she will eat when she is hungry, I just count to ten in my head a lot and take a lot of deep breaths! Good luck, I am sure you will get a lot of advice here, just do what works for your family.
Toggle Commented Dec 28, 2007 on But how do you make it drink? at So Close
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Well done. My husband is very cross with me for pointing out the fact that we would lose. In fact it is my fault that we did. I told him "we like south Africa, it's not like we're playing France!" Didn't go down too well, but there you go. Congratulations
Toggle Commented Oct 20, 2007 on Go Bokke!!! at So Close
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You think you're a bad parent? I didn't even know what all the hoohaa was about until I re read your post and noticed that you may have not been in the bath room at the time. I'd be a rubbish social worker! Ah well, better go and stop my 2 year old doing the ironing now. XXX
Toggle Commented Oct 10, 2007 on Unfunny at So Close
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Hi, Firstly I am not infertile and have a daughter concieved whilst on the pill, so I know that I am one of the lucky ones. My first response would be for her to do the donation, but that was my gut response without thinking about it. I haven't read the comments yet, I wanted to write my reply before being influenced. Having thought a bit about what your friend has said I can understand all of her reasons not to do the doantion. If I were in her exact position I would probably not do it now. I don't know if the the recipient family are in a position to wait, but that surely must be an option. If they are desperate to have a biologically linked child (which I fully understand) then they must try to understand the feelings of the biological mother too. Most of all I hope whatever your friend decides she can be at peace with that decision.
Toggle Commented Jun 21, 2007 on A letter from an egg donor at So Close
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Glad to hear you are having a better time! Love the video. They are so cute, I especially liked Adam dragging you to where he wanted you. My little girl does that too. It is so cute, but when you are trying to do something it can be a bit tiresome!
Toggle Commented Mar 26, 2007 on Red pumps, Spiderman and new underpants. at So Close
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Glad to hear you are having a better time! Love the video. They are so cute, I especially liked Adam dragging you to where he wanted you. My little girl does that too. I is so cute, but when you are trying to do something it can be a bit tiresome!
Toggle Commented Mar 26, 2007 on Red pumps, Spiderman and new underpants. at So Close
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I am so sorry Tertia. Like everyone here I was wishing you a successful pregnancy and was looking forward to reading your blog everyday, even checking in more than once to look for news. Please know that I, amongst the 100s of strangers, am thinking of you and sending you love and hugs. XXXX
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One lovely heartbeat. Congratulations, well done, and NO MORE SEX EVER!! Just joking. Keeping everything crossed for you now. XXX
Toggle Commented Mar 14, 2007 on February 10th. The couch. at So Close
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Tertia, you really are amazing! Good luck to all of you for the scan. I am thinking of you. XXX
Toggle Commented Mar 13, 2007 on So, about this menopause thing… at So Close
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I have discovered that being a parent means that you never think you are good enough. You always compare yourself to other mums, thinking "Wow, their kids only watch 30 mins of TV a day, mine can recite the scheudle", or "That mum does all her own cooking, while I just turn the microwave on". As a mum there is no-one to give you a mark out of 10 and you don't know how well you've done for about 15 years at least! No wonder we get stressed. As far as the eating is concerned please try not to worry. I am completley different to you in the way I do things, but I still suffer the pain of food strikes (I am not eating that, in fact I shall throw it on the dog!). I home cook all her food (yes, I do work full time, but I feel guilty about that and the food is one way of making me feel I am a good mum, so when she goes to bed, once a week or so, I will fill the freezer with protions of food. It helps that i love cooking). Also, if she doesn't eat her dinner, then I will offer the pudding I have chosen for the meal, but NOTHING else, until the next meal or snack time. I read a book called Toddler Taming by Christopher Green and he said that no toddler has ever starved themselve through being stubborn. Now I don't think I could let it get to near startvation (joke), but in my family it works that I am firm about mealtimes. I also try and eat the same food as her when I am home for tea time (I work shifts), which helps as oftem she will not eat hers, but will happily accept an offer of "Want to help Mummy at this" Of course if I offer something new and she doesn't like it then I will offer a sandwich or something, but I will keep trying the new food every now and again, just in case (plus I cook everything in huge batches so I probably have a freezer full of it!). This is what works for me, I am not saying that it is the only way, but most of the time she eats, and I feel OK and less like a bad mother. Your kids are fine, and G&D of course. I read you blog and often think "Tertia is such a good Mum, why don't I do it like that!" Then the guilt starts off again. Bloody guilt, never mind sleepless nights, they should warn you about the guilt!
Toggle Commented Mar 9, 2007 on Do your toddlers eat? at So Close
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Here in the UK Woolies sounds a lot like Marks and Spencer. Certainly not like our Woolies, which I always find disappointing. M & S do great clothes, especially knickers and pyjamas. The sale isn't that good , but you can get the basics there for a good price (i.e.cheap). We have a shop here called Next, which has an amazing Sale culture. The shop shuts the day before the sal and then opens on Sale day at 6am. You can't try anything on and it is madness, elbows everywhere. I should really go there to buy ahead for my daughter, but I find eBay so much more relaxing! My daughter is 19 months old now and I have bought all of her clothes in bundles from eBay. I have clothes up to age 3 and I recon in total it has cost me £350 for everything. I obviously buy new vests and pyjamas, shoes and the odd special occasion outfit new, but I save so much on eBay. I am obviously not a real woman as I HATE shopping. Good luck for the next sale, only 6 months to go!
Toggle Commented Mar 7, 2007 on A lot like really disappointing sex at So Close
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