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These kids just don't get it and I only wish someone would sit them down and explain it to them. Someone please educate the masses about OUR history so this madness stops. And of course, the ol "my neighbor, friend, sister's boyfriend, maid is black" argument is getting tired and holds no weight! Blackface is racist and wrong. Point blank. No argument, justification or reasoning as to why/when/ or what context is done in is going to change this. The foolishness needs to stop
I've been reading up a lot on the black power movement of the 60's the past few weeks. Right now, I'm close to finishing Soul on Ice by Eldridge Cleaver. It's leaving me drained, confused and enlightened. The mind of a black man...to vast a region for me to ever truly understand, I suppose.
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I like to stress my that I think the breakdown of the black family can be directly linked to the image the black man shamefully maintains over his own women. Women who look like his mother and sisters that he suddenly finds unappealing. We find them following the more accepted notion of beauty, often perpetuated in the media that ‘lighter is brighter is better.’ Case in point, the beyonces of our generation. Its not so much as this war with white women anymore But instead I find that that I’ve had to battle with my own community growing up with the hopes of being considered just as pretty and acceptable as the lighter versions of myself walking around. And to a 16 year old girl who hadn’t grown into her nose yet, it was not easy. But we see it everywhere, the dark skinned chick just isn’t held up to the same standards as her lighter counterpart. And for many of us, this is where weaves come into play. It's more socially accepted and often links us closer to white or lighter skinned women. It’s a shame but its not an issue I find the need to ponder over cause my man loves every bone in my little black body and I find enough beauty within myself to not care about what sort of mindset the ignorant are engaged in. But I'm human and I've battled for a long time over the issue of why I wore weaves, extensions perms, etc for a long time. Then Chris Rock's movie came out and my boyfriend wanted to open the floodgates (he's mixed by the way and I'm like, "dude, you never had nappy hair in your life, fall back) But I listened and finally, after about two years took out my weave (still gone and it feels so gooood and went natural..this part I hated and went back to a perm) But, my decision to bring my perm back was of my own choice and a damn good one (um, broken combs/ my cat hissing at me; not a good look) I finally realized, after being unhappy with how my hair looked that I was being silly to change myself simply because of a movie or person trying to tell me I'm not black enough. And I find a lot of women defending our actions as our own and that Chris Rock just had no right. The crazy things we do to our hair our own crazy things and for many of us, its merely just hair and something to enjoy and experiment with. Child, we’ve been arguing the deeper meaning of relaxers to lace front since the first hot comb was invented. It’s an issue that will always be a hot topic and that’s ok. Discussions like these allow for everyone to learn a little more about each other. Anyway, whether it be fros, weaves, perms or ponytails...to me its all beauty. winebeforelaundry.typepad.com
Very interesting photo book. I'm dark skinned and my boyfriend is mixed (half white/black) I'm still amazed at how many black women, in particular are amazed that my bf is mixed. As if mixed guys don't date dark skinned women or dark skinned women are just not considered pretty enough for them. Whatevs. Glad to see a blog focusing on these sort of issues in our community. Its really not just black and white anymore. Texture, tone, pigment is all in play these days. Kudos! Must check out the book. winebeforelaundry.typepad.com
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